Did a diet ruin your relationship?

[Anonymous]

I have lost weight before (90lbs) on a low carb diet...but sadly... I have gained 30lbs back :( I was single, under 21, and focusing on starting college during this time so it was easy to avoid the typical diet sabotage areas.

Now, I am in a serious relationship, over 21, and my friends and family revolve almost every outing around food/drinking.

I am afraid of starting my strict low carb diet again, and losing friends/my boyfriend because I can't go to the same restaurants anymore (think bar food where EVERYTHING is deep-fried) or go out drinking (ever realize how boring it is when all your friends are buzzed/drunk and your sober? Honestly, when your on a diet and no one else is, its a lonely place.

Has anyone ever had these experiences?

[Anonymous]

Actually, I can have fun when other people are drunk and I'm not. I think it's because i feed off of their high energy.
If you have enough self-control, you can absolutely go out with them and just eat before you go out, so you won't be hungry and won't be forced to eat the greasy bar food. But I realize that it can be really hard to avoid the temptation, which is why its easier to just not go out.
You said you're in a serious relationship, so talk to your partner about this! see what he has to say. express your concerns. maybe he can help you develop a plan that involves going out every once in a while but still sticking to your diet. if it truly is a serious relationship, you should be able to talk about things like this

[downtopuck69]

i feel your pain, every weekend my fiance comes to town i gain 5 pounds and have to lose it the next week! My advice, take shots and order appetizers. Shots are better for you than a regular drink loaded with calories, and still just as fun. Sure the appetizers are just as bad, but its less food than a whole meal that comes with sides. Don't stay home because of that. good luck :)

[3someDoctor]

I have seen cases like this. Usually it will be where the guy tells his girl that if she goes on this diet he will dump her and find another (large) girl.
I find that to be unfair on the Man's part because if he truly loved you, then he will allow you to lose that weight. Obviously, if this is the case with you, then what I am seeing is that he is insecure of you losing the weight and wind up with all kinds of guys trying to hit up on you.