Im planning to have a Christmas get together with some female friends (former classmates from high school) the 2nd week of December. It will take place on a restaurant-bar in order to have drinks, appeltizers. My original plan was a more Christmas gathering with coffee, cookies in a house but all of those friends say for them that kind of gathering is more difficult to organize and also they are all busy on weekends so for them a gathering during the week on a resurant/bar is much better for them always ause after theri jobs they head immediiately to the place, as for them organizeing a coffee in ahosue is more tricky to organize and plan who brings what to eat, etc, etc that is their opinion but I always find more comfortable inside a house, more free time to chit chat, more private, but anyway we will see during the week in a bar/restaurant.
For thsi gathering I tend to invite (as Im the one organzing the activity like I always do, Im the one with always the initiative to plan something in order to see each other,, they never step up to plan anything, they thank me for me doing it as if it was not for me they say we weill never gather).
Last time we gathered we went a couple of friends and this time Im planning to invite the same ones. But Im having doubt whether to invite other friends we all know becauset last time these other friends kind of did ntot take us into account to attend another friends gathering this other group went.
The thing is this There are 2 groups of friends Im part of but we all knwo each otehr as we all were classmates from hgih school, we are not strangers. Me and 3 more ladies (from the group Im planning the activity in December) are part of this other friends group aas well that in the past we hanged out often, then it came the pandemic and some of thos friends change towards us. So this past April this other friends group gathered a bday party and
that group but not the other ones. We dont know why they did that or why they behaved like that with us. Since im no bitter person for this upcoming gathering one of the ladies who I invited and was also part of the other group told me she won't mind if we invite the others, the more the merrie, because in the past we had gathered before several times I was not planning to take them into account
My plan is like just tell them if they are interested they can stop by at this place, this date and this hour beause they were will be this get together. I mean if they show up fine if they dont show up, It is ok, it will let me know me they are not the friends I thought they were like when in the past we did gathered.
