How Are You Fighting The Holiday Sads?

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I low key hate the holidays. It's so dark I'm NEVER at a comfy temp. I have to wear shoes and big coats outside. Then you have to deal with family. It sucks.

I've been eating way to much chocolate just to cope 😭😭😭

So what are y'all doing?

Levin · Accepted Answer

I get the same thing. Christmas has never been happy for me. I guess our emotional life is about the patterns of the emotions that we have experienced in the past on micro and macro levels.

Some small tips. Coldness. Go in the direction of your fear. See Ice Man Wim Hof and his cold showers method. I have cold showers. I now feel infinitely warmer and even when it's freezing outside, it doesn't affect me much. Youtube is a good start.

Awareness. See what the mental and emotional patterns are and try and expose them. Be aware of them, and see how they're driving your reality.

Responsibility. As hard as it is to hear. We do have agency over our lives and we can make changes if we're not happy. This is empowering. We don't have to limit ourselves or follow past habits.

I'm only making presumptions but it sounds like you feel judged by your family. Maybe you're not happy with yourself?

Love yoself. Because a lack of self love and self esteem is often what drives us into these self destructive habits.

I have two weeks off work so will naturally fall into these patterns. Especially as I can deal with some fairly brutal loneliness. Good habits and patterns are helpful in general. Making some plans. Walking in nature lots and lots. Exercise regimes, etc.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

I don't have this , because my entire life is a holiday , in life there are always up's and Down's this is natural. keep your diet under special control ( and certainly ZERO chocolate and processed sugar , this will bring you down ) , exercise is great , keep busy , don't overthink and push push push for purpose..

Virtually all depression is self generated , and there are NO quick fixes or pills , let your body and your mind work though , allow those options.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i cope by sleeping. i come home from work and i'm in bed about to sleep by 6pm. i don't want to be like this. hoping Christmas eve, Christmas day, new years eve, and new years day go by quick.

CarolinaGirl5 · Accepted Answer

Holidays are generally the best time of year because everyone comes together. Sounds like you need friends, hobbies, and a life.

exitseven · Answer

I get it. I have been sick for the last week. My nose is running like a faucet and my chest hurts from all the coughing. I hope my laryngitis is gone before I have to teach my classes on Tuesday. At least it gets my mind off of how much Christmas sucks.

Massageman · Answer

My parents died just over two years apart, one just before a Christmas, and the other just after. So, there is always that mixed with the joy of the holiday for me. I had to have some oral surgery which isn't making this year any better. Warm showers, hot tea, having a nice little dog, and lots of naps are helping me.

ohsheeT · Answer

Or you can celebrate it tomorrow and then tell everybody Christmas is over that way you don't have to do with anything

Simslover92 · Answer

I listen to feel good music. It helps a lot.

David5668 · Answer

Good friends for me is the key. I’ve recently separated from my wife after 34 years of us being married. She’s won on the mutual friend’s allegiance front, and support of a massive family network. But a have a few fiercely supportive friends and family. Have remained neutral, but are dragging me through all this festive crap.

TDDMS · Answer

I spend upwards of 4 hours outdoors. Even when the temperature is below freezing. It reminds me to be happy w/ what I have when I walk through the doors into a warm house. Also, since I'm currently clearing a 25 acre field by hand, the work keeps me warm.

Den1971 · Answer

You're not the only one my holiday is kind of suck too this is the first holiday season without my mom she passed away on February 27th of this year I made it through her birthday which is August the 17th I made it through things giving and here comes Christmas I know it'll never stop but I hope it gets easier 😭😭😭😕

MoonFace2 · Answer

I’ve started a tradition of buying myself Christmas gifts.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not eating chocolate. Today I started supplementing with a low dose of DOPA, it's what the body makes when you go out into the sun. It gives you a steady supply of dopamine throughout the day. I'm taking 25mg when I feel like I need a boost. Don't overdo it, it's a real drug. It can cause side effects when used at high doses or for consecutive days without a break.

mattthefatbat · Answer

Holidays would suck more for me if I lost my family or my girlfriend but I haven't so i just don't really have anything to be sad about yet.

phraseology · Answer

I can't relate. I live in Florida. It's 72 F today. Short sleeve t-shirt. Nice weather, clear skies, and sunshine.

paledreams · Answer

What sads I have friends family a well paying job - 😅😕 I give to charity. Maybe you'll find uplifting watching Star Trek Generations movie 🎥

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm happiest during the holiday seasons. I like the cold though, and I don't have family to visit.

msc545 · Answer

I hate the holidays. I have no family and I live by myself and I have no one to spend the holidays with so it's a very lonely time for me.

Jj1994 · Answer

Same, I’m staying as busy as possible and ignoring it all

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Same way I do every year. I work to much to be sad I don't have time for that shit

michalpl00 · Answer

It sucks. Makes me want to make more money and move to a warm country. So it motivates me in a way.

Anonymous · Answer

A SAD lamp might help.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Am trying hard

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Booze and poor decisions.

Staximus · Answer

Working 2 jobs

noohair · Answer

The holidays don't bother me anymore...

ilkeerol28 · Answer

Thinking is something that exercises the brain.

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