His response times have dramatically dropped since he’s been on vacation and im scared he’ll loose interest, am I overthinking?

[chronicanxiousat]

I matched with a guy on tinder and after texting for a few days we decided to meet up. It went so good and I feel like we both genuinely vibes and I got the sense that I could trust him (which has never happened to me before). After the date his response times increased and we were texting back and forth multiple times a day and the conversation was engaging on both parts. We made plans to meet when we both got back from our vacations but haven’t set a date yet.

Its the Christmas holidays now and he went on vacation with a friend and his response times have dropped, i expected this because obviously you’re gonna be more busy and on your phone less during the holidays and my anxious attachment is really self sabotaging me right now making me feel like he’s going to ghost me (it’s been 13 hours since my last text and no word from him). There’s only an hour time difference between us so that’s not really an issue.

please let me know if im overthinking or not thank you!!

[Anonymous]

He doesn't owe you anything why are you acting crazy? He's never met you yet you're obsessed. He's on a dating app and most likely matched with another woman he likes and is having fun with her. He's entitled to that. You're not his girlfriend, you're not his wife, he owed you nothing. You need to get a life. Where are your friends and family?

[chronicanxiousat]

LMAO he’s hanging with his friends at a Christmas market it was just my overthinking hahahha and we have hung out in person therefore he has met me ya don’t have to be so mean with it jeez😂

[Opinion Owner]

Last I recall you aren't there to know that. And he's not off the dating market get some therapy, friends and a life

[Anonymous]

You attempt to begin a relationship with someone who you say 'feels different.' You rely on texting instead of actually talking on the phone and you wonder about his interest based on his response time to texting. Do you realize how ineffectual and incompetent that sounds?

[chronicanxiousat]

we don’t talk on the phone because we’re currently both on holiday hanging out with friends and fam plus we saw each other a couple days ago just because i overthink doesn’t make me incompetent😭😂

[GlowUpGirly5]

I think it's a troll post because there's no way someone is this insecure, desperate and intellectually challenged. @chronicanxiousat the fact you're not even on video chats abd never met this man is telling of your appearance. I think you're aware that you're not pretty

[Opinion Owner]

"we don’t talk on the phone because we’re currently both on holiday" 1. It's okay to call someone on the phone even when they are on vacation. Were you talking on the phone before he left?

"we saw each other a couple days ago" So what? If I am interested in a girl, the first few weeks, I call her at least twice during the week. Once we decide to start dating exclusively, we don't talk every day but at least three or four times between dates. Are you operating with some self-imposed limitation?

"just because i overthink doesn’t make me incompetent" No, the incompetence comes from using a very inefficient means of communicating to try to develop a relationship. In my experience, this is what people do when they are afraid.

[GlowUpGirly5]

Yeah she seems to be mentally unstable. This chatting session she's having won't last because she's already becoming psychotic over a man she doesn't know and is on a dating app. He's on a dating app to engage with women and I'm sure he's out with one now which is good for him. He deserves someone normal and not a catfish

[glennos89]

I hope for you he isn't flirting and hooking up with other girls while on vacation 😬

[Anonymous]

How many vacations can a young guy take that can be able to afford it? I have no idea if it’s fading I don’t know the guy. But what would you expect from a site like that?

[strateguy632]

This is overthinking

[In_Trance]

Yeah