Last Name After Marriage?

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Fellow Females: would u keep your own last name after you're married, or would you change it to your new hubby's last name? Would you be cool with your husband changing his last name to yours?
Guys:Would you be cool with your wife keeping her last name , or would u want her to have your last name. Would u be alright with changing your last name to hers?

throwit · Accepted Answer

I don't want to change my name. It's like when the year changes and it takes half the year to stop writing '14' instead of '15' and I would be messing it up constantly.
My last name is MY last name. I do not become his property when we get married. He is not more important in the household. If he wants the entire family to have one name then he can take my name if he wants. I wonder why guys are usually opposed to changing THEIR name though?
I guess I'm fine with the kids having his last name. "I don't want my family name to die out with me" GEE, HOW TERRIBLE. "I want to have a son to carry on MY family name" the whole idea is fucked up.
If I am 100% Italian I would never change my name to a popular name of a different nationality.

I will keep my name and he will probably keep his. I don't see why female children don't keep the mothers name and male children don't take the fathers name. Then everyone wins.

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

I'll probably change it to his last name, but I wouldn't really care. I'd be fine doing it either way. And he'd be fine to change his last name to mine too (though he wouldn't want to). We wouldn't want to double-barrel it because his name is already double-barreled and we'd end up with three surnames :P

lilac_flowers · Accepted Answer

We're a family, I want us to have the same name and seeing how he's the man in the relationship, I'm leaving my family whom I love and support, to support him from now on. So I'd be taking his name.
I have no emotional attachment to names, they are just markings of where we are.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd take his as marriage is a symbol of not only commitment but also caming together as one.. n having the same last name is a symbol of family n gives the 2 of u that one more thing to show u r connected as one..

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Because of the overal societal expectations that children and generally the wife share the husband's last name, I'd have a preference for that. That said, if there's a good reason to not do it, I'm cool with it. For example, if she has a professional presence in the work world. Some hyphenate to solve this but it's completely up to her. I would be very reluctant to change my last name, particularly since I"m the last of the line. I'd want the children to carry my name. This is just a personal preference.

Hal2002 · Accepted Answer

Hell no, I would not be cool with my wife keeping her last name. I also do not go for that hyphenated last names crap either.

My wife kept her name the same for work, and professional related things and I was okay with that. But socially we were Mr. & Mrs. my last name, all her ID was changed to her married name and all legal documents were signed using her married name.

musicbrain5 · Answer

I changed my last name to his when I got married. There was no reason for me to keep my name - it's not like it's going to die out with me, lol. I have 4 brothers who can keep it going.

kambo_trick3y · Answer

Absolutely I'd be fine with her keeping her last name.

To be honest, I always wondered why the WIFE had to change her last name to the husband's. Weren't marriages supposed to be like, a 50/50 thing?

But if she keeps her name... what do we name the kids? Do they choose their own last name depending on their favorite parent or something?

My brain always has these weird, random kinda questions.

sketchy · Answer

There are quite obvious, practical reasons why it's the norm - it's not about the wife becoming the property of the husband and all that crap (which is probably the main reason misguided feminists object to it).
What are you going to calls the kids? You can't just hyphenate your two last names to form a double-barrelled name, because then what are they going to do when *they* have kids? They'd have to give them a quadruple-barrelled surname, and so on...
Plus, not wanting to change your surname kind of screams "expecting to get divorced quite soon". There are probably a few exceptions (perhaps if you are of different ethnicities, and want your child's surname to reflect that), but most of the time it makes little sense.

complicated_soul · Answer

My last name is the name everyone calls me by. My parents didn't give me the family name, so I can't change that.

My last name is like people's first name in here... lol do you get me? :)

If he (husband) want me to add his last name , then sure.

ccp16 · Answer

That would be fine if she wants to keep her name, it is more common today, especially for women with a solid career and have made a name for themselves. I however would not change my name and The kids would have my last name. I am the last one to pass on my last name, so my family would disown me if I did not pass on the name...

AmandaLynn1930 · Answer

i changed my last name to his. i wouldn't be ok with him taking my name. i would have MAYBE considered hyphenating my name, IF i wanted to keep it, but i didn't so it was a really easy decision. but i wouldn't want him to take my name for sure.

MissNowhere · Answer

I would change it, I hate my last name, I can't wait to get rid of it.

SammyGurl · Answer

I'm proud of my husband, I was proud to take his last name as my own. In genealogical references and even the society paces of old, a girl's maiden name would be referred to as née last name. My two brothers can carry on the family name anyway.

Klaatu51 · Answer

"Guys:Would you be cool with your wife keeping her last name , or would u want her to have your last name. Would u be alright with changing your last name to hers? "

^y should i be "uncool"?

last name's just a last name... i don't give a shit about it... unless her last name was "shit"... then yeah i'd give a shit and i'd not change my last name to hers ;p

Jxpxtxr · Answer

I would change my name immediately because it doesn't go with my first name and people can't ever pronounce it correctly!

Iron_Man · Answer

My wife will take my last name, I would be insulted if she did not and would not marry her. I will not break away from tradition I like how Its always been. Its the honorable thing to do the women takes the mans last name.

Ярило · Answer

I would change my last name. One of my old school teachers actually kept both names, she was called McDaniel-Lowe, so there's always that option.

Maya-Vow · Answer

I'd change my name to his. I mean, I'm his and I'd want everyone to know that lol

Prof_Don · Answer

I'm cool with her either taking my last name, or hyphenating my last name with hers. Anything else is a dealbreaker.

jokery56 · Answer

Id keep my last name. She can keep hers if she wants but id prefer her to have mine. I do want my kida to have my last name. Why? Because they are my kids and i gotta keep my family name going

AleDeEurope · Answer

I'm ok with anything to be honest, but as I plan on staying in America, I want my future kids to have an American last name, so I wouldn't mind taking my wife's last name. After all it's just a name, and my last name may give some problems to pronounce and write for those who just speak English, so to make my kid's life easier (abd my wife's) I would gladly take her last name.

coldpieceofpizza · Answer

I really love my last name so I wouldn't change it. My parents never got married (but ARE together) so my mom never changed her last name and it's never been a big deal. The only problem that sometimes occurs is when my mom makes an appointment for me or something like that I don't know if she said her own name or mine.

Also if I'm ever engaged to someone and they make a big deal out of me not changing my last name, than that would be a clear sign for me to call off the wedding.

Sara413 · Answer

I will keep my last name. I'd be OK with it if he wanted to take my last name for whatever reason he might have, but I wouldn't expect him to. Example, I do have a guy friend who took his wife's last name because they wanted to share a name, but both liked her last name better (his last name was close in spelling and pronunciation to male genitalia lol)

Skadouchebag · Answer

I think that when two people get married, they should both abandon their old last names and decide on a new one together.

YazanAA · Answer

I really believe that it's completely up to her, if she likes to keep her last name then let her keep it and if she likes to change it to my last name then let change it, I'm completely indifferent about that. It's not an issue.

523206720 · Answer

I would not change my last name because I want to honour my grandparents who died. On facebook I use my grandmother's last name instead of my dad's last name.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm going to change my last name to his but put my last name as the middle letter. Like my name, R., His last name

Anonymous · Answer

Well, ik I am only 15 but if I ended up marrying the guy I'm with (fingers crossed, we've already been together 4 a year haha) I'm afraid I would have to keep my name. His surname is horrible, it sounds really bad with my name... But I guess my future babies could have his surname, i'd just have to name accordingly

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't change it. This is my identity, this is the person I have been for the last 27 years, why would I change it?

I believe in marriage, my parents have been married for more that 33 years and my mom never changed her last name.

I read that someone said "I need to make decisions for both of us". No, we take decisions together.

Definitely times have changed and you can married whoever you want.

SilenRose · Answer

I would take my husbands last name and keep my original last name for business. I also like the idea of combining our names together. For example West and Kardashian would be Westian. Bad example but you catch my drift.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I would prefer if whom ever I marry takes my last name but I'm not going to be really angry or anything if she keeps her last name.

PANDAmonium · Answer

I'd be cool with her keeping her own. If we were to have kids though I'd want the kids to have both last names.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm probably gonna change my last name to my husbands. I think it makes the most sense.

KatherineJ · Answer

I took my husbands. But that is a personal decision.

BurgundyClouds · Answer

I would want to change my last name if I liked my husbands last name. If not I would just keep mine or he can change his last name to mine.

Anonymous · Answer

If changing your last name is a person's only concern when it comes to marriage then he/she does not deserve to be married at all because they don't know anything about marriage

Bigbuckeyes · Answer

We kept our separate names. Its easier and she is published. We know that most will refer to us as "mr and mrs x" but oh well.

ElissaDido · Answer

I keep mine and he keep's his. That's how all the women do it in my country and I like it.

fraudchilddx · Answer

I would keep my surname but also take my husbands surname so it's like a dual surname lool :)

Genie23 · Answer

I would change my last name. ☺

CountVronsky · Answer

I would be OK with her keeping hers. I wouldn't be OK with losing mine.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

I would rather have the same last name, however it doesn't matter if I take hers or she takes mine.

Anonymous · Answer

No my last name is Peacock and I wanted to get rid of that name since the day I was born.

Anonymous · Answer

I wanted my wife's surname but she's too traditional and wouldn't have any of that.

Omar5881 · Answer

In my culture women should keep there last name

Creole_Flavor · Answer

I'll add my husband's name to mine

jwhit · Answer

I would prefer her taking my last name.

SnowHearth · Answer

I got married once, I kept my own surname.

bubbletrouble · Answer

I dont care about that

chocolateismylover · Answer

Keeping my name

Anonymous · Answer

It really depends on his last name.

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