Should older women be allowed to marry younger men?

[Diamond0702]

Of course

Nope

Other (Comment)

[sedrftvgyhujik]

Why not?
Now i'm not really looking for older older women but if i met someone and she was 34 say and things where great maybe I was 19-20 when we met so we had time to go far enough to trust each other that much and maybe it made sense as well since she was Australian and i could no longer work remote for the software company and for security reasons and as a senior aeronautical engineer there where lots of opportunities near and even in my company witch was set up in a unused air craft hanger near a research facility so it made sense.
I made all that up but it could happen

[Tony1974]

Love has no age or so I'm told. Sure they can marry whomever they want if they can find an agreeable partner. Just like short guys can marry a tall women if they want; if they can find somebody who wants to marry them.

[Relentless_Hippie]

I voted other. They're already allowed, there's no laws preventing it. But just because they can doesn't mean they should, and it doesn't mean it isn't disgusting which also means people shouldn't be stopped from viewing it as such.

[LadyTerror]

What's disgusting about it?

[Relentless_Hippie]

@LadyTerror Lots of things. The main one being they're old enough for the person they're having sex with to be their child.

[LadyTerror]

If that's the age difference we're talking about, then I agree with you. I thought you meant a few years older.

[Relentless_Hippie]

@LadyTerror No a few years older is alright I was going off of that picture in the post lol.

[Sweet_Sour]

i think it is gross... thats my opinion

[peachblossomluck]

Why wouldn't that be ok? I know a younger man married to a woman old enough to be his mother and they are quite happy:)

[peachblossomluck]

Thank you:)

[writing_essays]

It depends on the maturity of the person and what the age difference.

[Rainie_]

Why wouldn't they? If older men can marry young women then why can't older women?

[dontknow12]

I think many people are still worried about societal norms. Since older men/younger women relationships are the standard some people find the opposite weird, or they're afraid they're gonna get judged. I don't think this way but, a lot of people do.

[ThisDudeHere]

Anyone should be able to marry anyone so long as one or both are not underage, mentally ill, or in any other way incapable of giving complete consent.

[Saoirse_Nua]

Once everybody is above age of consent, it is their choice

[sovetskii13]

There is no law against it. If the two people love each other then let them get married if they want to. No maximum age difference limit.

[Sunburst223]

They already can. It's not that common, but they can.

[AleDeEurope]

They're already allowed to do that. I don't see why it should change.

[ElissaDido]

I don't see why not as long as both are adults and consent.

[matheus_mb]

Of course they should, there shouldn't be age restrictions for marriage for people who are 18+

[Tellme]

Yes, of course!
Everyone should do what they feel like!

[Bandit74]

I don't think anyone says it shouldn't be allowed. It just doesn't happen much.

[greycadillacs]

If the man is above the legal age, then why would they be restricted?

[DVanx]

Yeah every adult should be allowed to marry any other adult if both of them want it.

[sweetshyguy]

People should be allowed to do whatever the hell they want as long they don't affect anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Allowed? yeah do what you want, marry who ever you so choose... The hell... Why not?

[Anonymous]

Yes if they love each other but I think at most be a 20 year age apart

[TripleAce]

Sure if wants to fiddle with a dinosaur he can

[AriadneSky]

they are 'allowed'. its legal didn't you know?

[jp612612]

I yearn for the day when this is legal!

[Intraluminal]

They are already "allowed"

[Yumix]

sure, why not?

and it's allowed anyway

[ASEXY]

Of course, who cares?

[Righttobeararms83]

If they are both adults

[Hollywood-Glam]

Sure, I see no problem with it.

[bcromartie]

No. That's a waste of genetic material.

[Sunburst223]

You do realize not all relationships result in kids, right?

[bcromartie]

That has absolutely nothing to do with what I just said.

[Sunburst223]

You said it would be a waste of genetic material, making it sound like it's a waste because a younger man can't have kids with a younger woman.

[Sunburst223]

*older woman.

[bcromartie]

That's exactly why. The emphasis being on the word "cannot" and not being irregularly circumstantial. Your response likely alluded to circumstantial states and choices.

[Sunburst223]

My point was that not all relationships have to result in kids. If that was the case, letting infertile young people marry fertile people would also be a waste of genetic material, as would same sex marriage. Hell, even two fertile people marrying and not having kids would be a travesty as well by your logic. Not every relationship needs kids.

[bcromartie]

I covered this before you brought it up because both homosexuality and infertility are considered irregularities in humans. Menopause is a regular cycle in humans. Then you inserted choice which I specifically avoided because I figured your only course of action would be to allude to a minority (irregularities) or unwillingness (choice) which, in turn, does not actually deal with this particular issue.

Unless you're going to argue gerontophilia you're pretty much not going to make a dent in the fact that, considering normal circumstances, it is a waste of genetic material and potential for older women to have younger men.

[Sunburst223]

I'm well aware of the fact that from a biological perspective it is indeed not advantageous for younger men to be with older women. Because of that, that is why relationships between younger men and older women are not as common as younger women and older men. No one is disputing that, nor is anyone saying menopause is not a natural part of human biology. The reason I brought in choice was because humans are not solely slaves to our biology. Does biology influence a lot? Yes, especially our sexual preferences. But if that's all there was, people wouldn't be choosing not to have kids, or to have partners they can't have kids with. A man being with an older woman, while not terribly common, does happen, and it is not a "waste" of anything.

[bcromartie]

Let's take a male who is attracted to an infertile female. It is biology, not choice, which dictates his attraction to the person and it is biology, not choice, which dictates her infertility. In this sense they are indeed slaves to biological urges and his love for her, chemical and neurological, is triggered simply by his brain which does not take into account fertility but instead solely the prospect of fertility (i. e. she is female and capable of sexual activity).

That's what attraction is. So the same is true of homosexuals; choosing to go against that particular imperative is the choice element no different than choosing to leave someone you are attracted to who is infertile based on their infertility. That is the logical segment which goes against biological demands.

But in the case of non-irregularities that doesn't work. When you ejaculate in a vagina where the uterus has no eggs and is supposed to be void through natural happenstance you're wasting opportunity.

[bcromartie]

The good news is that I guess no one really minds that these individuals have chosen to fail to pass on despite having sexual behaviors indicating an urge to pass on. They will die the way they were born:

Childless.

[CheyenneBae]

If the woman is only 3,4 years older than okay..

[TheFlak38]

Is there a law preventing them to do so?

[MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah]

How is this a question 😂

[FireChick9701]

Do you know it is already allow?

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Yeah. I don't see an issue.

[fauchelevent]

I don't see why not.

[Anonymous]

They can no law against it.

[LadyTerror]

Why shouldn't they?

[COCOCHANEL]

yes of course

[Sabretooth]

... gross