Should a husband defend his wife from insults of his family?

[Anonymous]

[nightdrot]

This is not even a close call. Absolutely!!

My girlfriend and I have lived together for about ten years and have three children together. We don't want to be married because we think what we have is natural and beautiful.

Our families - her dad especially - have not been universally happy with that arrangement. Things settled - especially after the first grandchild was born (though that initially made things a little rougher when we announced the pregnancy.)

However, especially in the early days my girlfriend and I were like a couple of guard dogs, protecting each other from insults by our parents. (She has had to defend me more from her dad. My dad took the situation the best. The moms were not happy but got used to it. All of our siblings have been good with it.)

Anyhow, my girlfriend means everything to me and I love her with all my heart. I cannot imagine my life without her and I am like a guard dog when it comes to protecting her. In fact, my girlfriend says that I am way overprotective.

To which I reply, that I cannot protect her enough.

[The_Mercury]

No doubt...
When we were born we didn't choose our family, but once we are married we choose our partners and protect them not only from family but from all the word is the duty.

[Bizmarkie]

Best answer ☝️

[Wonderer89]

It depends what the insult is.
If it was a deliberate insult, with the intent to hurt and cause trouble then yes.
If it was ambiguous and she’s potentially being overly sensitive there is a grey area

[CurvyPryde]

Absolutely. His wife and children are his priority now. I can't imagine any husband allowing it.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Yes ! Not sticking up for her would cause her to be isolated and estranged !

[PondyPand]

Why would he marry her and not defend her? Yes he should!

[Philyouup]

Absolutely he should. I have to assume that a family that can insult a members significant other, has issues unto their own. They sound dysfunctional and his lack of defense only shows the affect that dysfunction had on him.. He needs to fix that, or you will only grow to resent him for his lack of strength to support you.

[Izumiblu]

I guess maybe it depends on if she deserves the insults and the extent to which they are doing it.

Obviously if she did nothing to deserve it then yes he should.

[djmzes]

That right... if she deserve them, she deserves it...
If not, the husband had to

[constant_freeflow]

If it hurts her and they fail to take notice she is hurt then absolutely but in a assertive way not aggressive way also its always good to confront the situation after you talk her to calm down and tell her an embarrassing story about them to even the playing field. Maybe the joke was meant to be harmless so its a good time to set boundaries and limits to how far a joke should go.

[Evangeline2298]

I'm going to go with yes unless of course she did something wrong.

[Bizmarkie]

Yes if his family insult the women he's with he should feel just as offended since he felt this women was great enough to be a crucial part of his life

[DodgersGM]

Absolutely. Unless your spouse is doing something really wrong, you gotta have their back.

Nobody will be allowed to treat my wife poorly.

[rjroy3]

If he wants a healthy happy marriage, then he better. If I had a fiance and someone crossed that boundary I would take massive issue with it.

[Anonymous]

If he loves and supports his wife. Then yes, but if he is afraid to speak up and defend his wife against his family he should start too if he wants to have a good marriage.

[BlueDream]

Yes. Because his wife is his new immediate family now.

[ariadneR]

Absolutely yes, just as I would with my family. Him and i are a team, and that includes everything we take on together

[innoxentt]

yeah definitely he should as long as she is on the right

[rusty1333]

Absofucking lutily he should. I don't care who it is you disrespect my wife I will get up in your shit so fast you won't know what hit you!!

[KiaTate]

Yes because if he doesn't stand up to his family they'll think it's ok to continue to insult his partner.

[SanePerson]

Yeah, if anyone in my family or hers insulted her I might have to tell them to fuck off. 😎😁

[andreasderjuengere]

Any insults in this respect.
If these are insults. We have no further information?

[TacosRAwesome]

Yes unless she's the one that dishes the insults first.

[kamash]

Omg... why shouldn't he... 🙂... If he doesn't , his better half will not feel emotionally secure.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Yes.
And I expect the same from any future partner of mine.

[pinayfit]

Well , if there’s no reason for them to insult her , of course you need to defend her

[rahul_24]

Yes! Husband and wife are one unit honestly. Try to correct right and wrong but don't disrespect in front of anyone. Well at least I won't ever.