Should a husband defend his wife from insults of his family?

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nightdrot · Accepted Answer

This is not even a close call. Absolutely!!

My girlfriend and I have lived together for about ten years and have three children together. We don't want to be married because we think what we have is natural and beautiful.

Our families - her dad especially - have not been universally happy with that arrangement. Things settled - especially after the first grandchild was born (though that initially made things a little rougher when we announced the pregnancy.)

However, especially in the early days my girlfriend and I were like a couple of guard dogs, protecting each other from insults by our parents. (She has had to defend me more from her dad. My dad took the situation the best. The moms were not happy but got used to it. All of our siblings have been good with it.)

Anyhow, my girlfriend means everything to me and I love her with all my heart. I cannot imagine my life without her and I am like a guard dog when it comes to protecting her. In fact, my girlfriend says that I am way overprotective.

To which I reply, that I cannot protect her enough.

The_Mercury · Accepted Answer

No doubt... When we were born we didn't choose our family, but once we are married we choose our partners and protect them not only from family but from all the word is the duty.

Wonderer89 · Accepted Answer

It depends what the insult is.
If it was a deliberate insult, with the intent to hurt and cause trouble then yes.
If it was ambiguous and she’s potentially being overly sensitive there is a grey area

CurvyPryde · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. His wife and children are his priority now. I can't imagine any husband allowing it.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Accepted Answer

Yes ! Not sticking up for her would cause her to be isolated and estranged !

PondyPand · Accepted Answer

Why would he marry her and not defend her? Yes he should!

Philyouup · Answer

Absolutely he should. I have to assume that a family that can insult a members significant other, has issues unto their own. They sound dysfunctional and his lack of defense only shows the affect that dysfunction had on him.. He needs to fix that, or you will only grow to resent him for his lack of strength to support you.

Izumiblu · Answer

I guess maybe it depends on if she deserves the insults and the extent to which they are doing it. Obviously if she did nothing to deserve it then yes he should.

constant_freeflow · Answer

If it hurts her and they fail to take notice she is hurt then absolutely but in a assertive way not aggressive way also its always good to confront the situation after you talk her to calm down and tell her an embarrassing story about them to even the playing field. Maybe the joke was meant to be harmless so its a good time to set boundaries and limits to how far a joke should go.

Evangeline2298 · Answer

I'm going to go with yes unless of course she did something wrong.

Bizmarkie · Answer

Yes if his family insult the women he's with he should feel just as offended since he felt this women was great enough to be a crucial part of his life

DodgersGM · Answer

Absolutely. Unless your spouse is doing something really wrong, you gotta have their back.  Nobody will be allowed to treat my wife poorly.

rjroy3 · Answer

If he wants a healthy happy marriage, then he better. If I had a fiance and someone crossed that boundary I would take massive issue with it.

Anonymous · Answer

If he loves and supports his wife. Then yes, but if he is afraid to speak up and defend his wife against his family he should start too if he wants to have a good marriage.

BlueDream · Answer

Yes. Because his wife is his new immediate family now.

ariadneR · Answer

Absolutely yes, just as I would with my family. Him and i are a team, and that includes everything we take on together

innoxentt · Answer

yeah definitely he should as long as she is on the right

rusty1333 · Answer

Absofucking lutily he should. I don't care who it is you disrespect my wife I will get up in your shit so fast you won't know what hit you!!

KiaTate · Answer

Yes because if he doesn't stand up to his family they'll think it's ok to continue to insult his partner.

SanePerson · Answer

Yeah, if anyone in my family or hers insulted her I might have to tell them to fuck off. 😎😁

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Any insults in this respect. If these are insults. We have no further information?

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes unless she's the one that dishes the insults first.

kamash · Answer

Omg... why shouldn't he... 🙂... If he doesn't , his better half will not feel emotionally secure.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Yes. And I expect the same from any future partner of mine.

pinayfit · Answer

Well , if there’s no reason for them to insult her , of course you need to defend her

rahul_24 · Answer

Yes! Husband and wife are one unit honestly. Try to correct right and wrong but don't disrespect in front of anyone. Well at least I won't ever.

2tall2handle · Answer

Hell yes. Why did you marry his sorry ass if he won’t?

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

No she should take a look at the insults as constructive criticism and change accordingly

2opaz · Answer

I would idgaf if i hurt their feelings neither, sometimes people need to be put in their place

hugzy · Answer

Well the genders are near to equal now , and most people use brains...

jenny_145 · Answer

Yes he should as he marrie d her and shouldn't let his family make fun her

MemeSupreme · Answer

If you love someone you should stand up for them.

loveslongnails · Answer

Does a bear shit in the forest?

Nabzilla · Answer

Yes. Otherwise, why did you marry her?

issabelle · Answer

Yeesss he absolutely should if he truly loves her

Volvagia · Answer

if he wants to? I don't know

RumEro · Answer

he should but not in a angry way

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely he should if he’s convinced about it

TheScream · Answer

Yeah That's that forsaking all others thing

DavisSmith · Answer

Absolutely.

CatherineJones · Answer

Yes defo

Kiwedin · Answer

Absolutely!

livelove143 · Answer

Hell yes

Anonymous · Answer

Depends if they are right or not but sure

avaava5959 · Answer

yeah probably

Malita55 · Answer

YES!!!

reptocarl · Answer

Yes he should

martin84444 · Answer

Yes oscourse

BelAmi · Answer

YEs..

tfcwiseguy15 · Answer

Yes.

LegateLanius · Answer

Yeah

Rachelle_13579 · Answer

Yes he should

Nicole812 · Answer

If he can

gclark2708 · Answer

Yeah

xhihje · Answer

Yup!|

vocaloidfan164 · Answer

Yes they should

Pauliho · Answer

Absolutely

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Absolutely

InfiniteGray · Answer

Of course he must.

Ramsey99Apeman · Answer

Yes.

Faxtron · Answer

Absolutely

Revolver_ · Answer

He shouldn't

montycircus69 · Answer

Yes that is his role

monstruo · Answer

Most definitely

bluesky777 · Answer

Yes.

rockrewls · Answer

Yep...

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