What is the brutal truth about life after marriage?

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Littlewife · Accepted Answer

Experiences may vary. I think men actually have a better chance of finding love again than women depending on factors such as age and children. Often divorced women (at least from what I've seen) will get a lot of male intrest espicially if they got left the house in a divorce and has an ex who's having to pay a sizeable amount of alimony and child support will get used and treated like shit by various different guys who either want an easy lay or to use her for her resources. I think long term it's women who regret divorces the most while guys are devastated in the short term.
Age for women seems to be a big factor in the quality of guys they get asked out by after a divorce. Like many of the divorcees I know say they had married a good man and were asked out by loads of Great guys before they met their ex but now all they get is losers and they regret throwing their marraiges away.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

The closure you become to each other, the more arguments you are going to have. It's normal to have fights. It is not normal to abuse and belittles each other. Marriage will reveal A LOT of things you never knew about your partner. And NO. Shacking up before marriage isn't going to help. So don't even try. Many find this out the hard way by a year of marriage. You will go through changes drastically, but it's healthy and not meant to be feared.

Chris00987 · Accepted Answer

It's awesome at first.
You can have some really great years together.
Then sometimes people get too comfortable and stop trying.
They get bored of each other and slowly drift apart.
After many years they want something new.
They talk to other people about their problems rather than each other.
They just go through the motions and stay together for the kids.
Sometimes they cheat.
Then it all blows up.
They separate, then miss each other.
They hook up, then fight, then break up again.
Then they miss each other again.
Then they ignore each other.
Then 3 years and a bunch of other people later they start flirting with each other again.

dantetheexplorer · Accepted Answer

The brutal truth is that marriage is not something that is kept together by fairy tales and Disney's version of what True Love is.

It's a serious commitment between two people that requires effort and hard work from both parties.

People who say that marriage and love should just come naturally and that two people who are right for each other will live and love effortlessly, without problems and challenges, are high on the marketer's version of love.

starfyredragon · Answer

If you didn't marry someone you're also friends with, you're screwed.

If you married someone you're also friends with, you'll get into fights on occasion (like you would with any of your other friends), but stuff will always work out.

The "don't date friends" mantra is a lie, if you're dating for marriage material. Nearly every happy couple I've known was friends before they dated (and those that weren't were friends-matrial, and I could see them still hanging out if they ever did break up for some reason). Every broken couple I know wasn't.

Either you like your spouse as a friend, or you're in a bad relationship.

Also... having kids. PUT IT OFF! Kids totally cramp your style. Once you have them, they're a bundle of joy and become the center of your world, but the rest of your world gets sucked into them like a collapsing black hole. Once you have kids, you'll love them, and you'll never regret it... BUT you'll never ever get around to doing the things you wanted in life, and you'll almost completely stop your personal development. After you get married, wait several years.

JudgmentDay · Answer

From the way I've looked at it and heard about it it's even more work and even additional costs involved to maintain that marriage. It isn't all set and done and you haven't exactly "won" anything. Don't expect it to be all comfy and easy, those that do and don't do much or anything at all to maintain their marriage is setting themselves up for failure, pain, disappointments and even more miseries.

MlleCake · Answer

It's hard to explain the depth of the companionship you feel. And when you love in a certain way, the piddly annoyances become almost invisible.

Your spouse becomes the person who would do anything for you, and you them.

genericname85 · Answer

if you think with marriage, the efforts you have to make, to continue to attract the partner you're with finally stop, you're mistaken. it gets more challenging than before, cause getting too used to each other kills it. Also having that kind of set of expectations to the person your partner got to know makes it a challenge to try new stuff and just be crazy and exciting.

dipeshb · Answer

The thought of marriage itself is so scary. How can you give away your freedom and chained to 1 woman? Moreover, you can't live the way you want to after a marriage. You have to take approvals for doing something, eating, drinking, hanging out, shopping, etc at the cost of what? This is not the life any guy had dreamt of. It's better to be single and live free rather than being a dog of some bitch.
FYI : I am single and these are the same words spoken by few of my poor married friends.

Lovethedove · Answer

It continues to be work to maintain a healthy happy relationship. It’s not a fantasy where things just are perfect with no effort. It’s also not a nightmare where suddenly with the rings on the people change into monsters.

CubsterShura · Answer

It doesn't matter if you knew or dated each other seven days or seven years before marriage. What matters is how much effort you put into a relationship AFTER marriage.

09-M-020 · Answer

It is a very serious thing, and not a game, in which two people commit to each other, and it can be hard to maintain a healthy relationship, plus a marriage will definitely have fights and arguments.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

The brutal truth is that it is work. You have to work on your marriage. That whole thing of marriage just being sustained by your natural attraction to each other is a lie.

Unit1 · Answer

Before you know it she will reveal her true self.

And if you have the penis and if you are getting divorced, be ready to become broke all the way down to ground zero again. Who doesn't like free alimoney? Kindly point me to this person.

KatherineJ · Answer

He is going to see you without makeup, and your nicest outfits. Marriage is a lot different than dating. Not in a bad way, just different.

Safa01 · Answer

Hard works continue, you have to commit to the marriage and put all your heart into it.

Desconhecida · Answer

The guy just lost the war. Sadly, we must say goodbye to sex.

Claudiastar · Answer

get comfortable start showing true colors everything you loved about them starts becoming the reasons you don't anymore thinking you can find someone better

Reach500 · Answer

I've never been married so I guess take my opinion with a grain of salt, but I'd say to have goals and even a mission statement for the marriage so it doesn't get boring and purposeless

mladasrpska · Answer

the hormonal sysem of male is not suitable for monagmy

OvershareGamer · Answer

A lot of men just commit suicide because they missed the boat to start dating again.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

A complete change can happen anytime after marriage between both couples.

Krishna_94 · Answer

I'm not married. but i live around lot of couples and what I have learnt from them is that life don't allow you to do things that you want to.

taleswapper · Answer

Your partner, who has been idealized in your mind up until now, is no longer so.
And guys turn outward, as is they're biological programming. His role changes from seducer to protector, even as her's changes from siren to nuturer.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

A lot of them end in a divorce where the greater earner gets financially raped.

1828avaava1828 · Answer

I'm not married so I will have to defer to others answering this question. thank you

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Undesirable qualities surface. It takes work to love someone and be loyal and faithful.

Jacksoscar · Answer

Just remember if you think weddings are expensive divorces are even more so.

Full_Metal_Jacket · Answer

All your resources are taken by the bitches and you're left on skidrow.

dragoblack · Answer

It's no different than usual except you just combined your legal stuff for taxes and other stuff.

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

That you have no longer have time for yourself

Nia_chan · Answer

Marriage kills love 🤷🏻‍♀️

hibffhk · Answer

you find out you are not compatible

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Hint: Don't ever marry a heathen.

zuricose · Answer

It's not as bad as it sounds

PrettyRegular · Answer

They love each other and make each other happy.

Furuok · Answer

Two keys for every key hole.

Sha84 · Answer

much more enjoyable

fulloflife · Answer

sex sex sex!

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