I'm a gay man and my fiance wants to dress up as a bride for our wedding and it is giving me second thoughts, does this mean that he's not gay?

[Anonymous]

I proposed to my love back in Christmas after a year of dating each other. He is super feminine and he likes to dress up as a woman almost 24/7. The only time he ever doesn't dress as a woman is when he is at work. He is a lawyer and wears a suit and tie everyday to work. When he gets home he throws off his suit and changes into yoga pants, panties and a women's t shirt. When we go out to eat dinner, he insists in going as a woman from head to toe. A dress, makeup, a wig and high heels. He wears the tallest heels and acts like a woman. At first It didn't bother me but now I feel like I'm engaged to a woman. He wears a short nightgown and a thong to bed and curls up to me. Then last month he told me that he is going to grow out his hair so that when our wedding day comes which is in June he will curl it. He is even going to be wearing an traditional Chinese dress that is for a bride for the wedding reception. He says he always dreamed of being a bride and wearing the dress for his wedding cause it is part of his culture, he's chinese. Now I feel like I'm marrying a woman. Does this mean that he's not gay if he dresses as a woman and will now be a bride at our wedding? Why does he insist on wearing this dress instead of a white suit? Below is a picture of the dress that he bought for the wedding reception, it is a catalog picture of the dress and he paid $700 to get it custom made to fit him.

[AbsoluteCutie]

I’m no expert, but he sounds transsexual. It sounds to me that he’s always been this way and it shouldn’t be much of a surprise to you that he’d want to do that.

[Asker]

i thought at first it was just a fetish that he had. I guess ill be married to a woman technically now if he decides to go do the full transitioning.

[Asker]

he's petite so he does look good in some of these outfits.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you're suggesting he's not gay. What straight man would dress like a woman and be in a relationship with another man...

[orangecherry]

thats an ignorant response he might be transgender and a trans woman is NOT a gay man

[Opinion Owner]

@orangecherry that's just another debate about if they're a man or not and we don't need to get into that

[orangecherry]

op is a gay man he does not want to be with a woman. a trans woman is a woman where is the debate

[Opinion Owner]

@orangecherry the debate is obviously that they are not a woman. It's fine if you believe that they are, we don't need to get into that

[orangecherry]

well he doesn't want his MAN in a dress and heels what part dont you understand?

[Opinion Owner]

@orangecherry I didn't say I didn't understand that. What I said is that I don't get how putting on a dress automatically makes him question that he doesn't like men

[orangecherry]

ok hon im done with you

[mrhappy69]

I mean like trans or maybe non binary, question is would you be bothered if it turns out that he is a woman? Do you really love "him"?

[Gnlsv]

Why were you made man and woman? Folks just deceive themselves about the gay thing

[Andrew1968]

It is bizarre that people who are straight think a man in a skirt or dress is gay, and that people who are gay think that a man in a skirt or dress is straight. When will people realise that fashion has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation.

[orangecherry]

I would say he might be transgendered not a gay man. you should have a long talk with him to make sure or else he might tell you in the future he wants to transition and you will be married to a woman at that point

[boggboss]

Sounds more like he is trans

[KatherineJ]

No, it is just what he wants I guess?

[HedwigInABox]

He seems to be trans