Why do women want to marry so badly?

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Elena_the_Star · Accepted Answer

First of all, since when we are little girls we are told we would get married and every disney princess in storybooks and movies gets married to Prince Charming. Secondly, girls love dressing up, and who doesn't like a day where you dress up as a princess and are treated like one? Guys dont care so much about dressing up, hair, makeup, their wedding tuxedo, wedding venue etc.. lots of girls have already planned it out lmao.( Me included).
Secondly, being wifed is kind of an honour. While men's focus is usually to get sex, women's focus is to get commitment and stable love. Marriage is the highest form of commitment.. you are literally legalizing your relationship and involving the state. So, while many men consider marriage to be ehh or a burden because they are going to be stuck with one woman for the rest of their life instead of having the opportunity to go after other women, if a woman has managed to " lock down" the man she loves, and get him to offer the highest form of commitment to her, what's a bigger honor than that?
Convincing a man to have sex with you?- too easy
Convincing a man to propose and be married to you for the rest of your life?-HARD
It's a victory and makes you feel good that you are considered wife material by the man you love. It's just like how women hate being the "other woman"/ sidechick... what would you rather be- be the wife or a fuckbuddy? Goes to show your importance in the said man's life.
Personally, I would rather be cheated on sexually by my serious boyfriend/ husband than finding out he loves someone else. Even more hurtful would be if I find the guy I like/love was just using me for sex while being in love with another woman and would leave me in a heartbeat... that I have no importance at all in his life and heart. Believe, I have been in that position, and it makes you feel dirt cheap and not something you want to experience ever in this life..
at least with sexual infidelity I can be like, whatever it was just sex, I am the one he loves and thats what I value more. Now imagine being on the other side.. get why women like getting married and being "secured"?
But men don't see it like this, quite the opposite, a man would gladly be the sideguy and have sex with another man's wife, he'll even feel like a stud doing that. Ask any man and if given the choice, he would prefer being used as a sextoy by a married woman than being the said woman's husband and being cheated on.

doopayo · Accepted Answer

Societal standards pushing values on marriage. By a certain age women are “expected” to be settled down which settling down is viewed as having a house, kids, etc and I honestly couldn’t disagree more with this. Most people just have kids for convenience not because they genuinely want to do the work it takes to raise one and because of that please. If you want a kid please think about how much it costs to pay for the kids needs, don’t bring someone in this world if you can’t afford it.

And don’t bring something in this world if you aren’t going to do the work of taking care of it. And as for marriage, most people settle for marriage in America because it’s like they’re unable to live alone. And I feel like a basic life skill should be being comfortable being by yourself for prolonged periods of time.

The standards on marriage and kids are mostly a byproduct of religious practices and values back in the day, which are not only outdated but not working in my opinion.

EmbraceThePain · Accepted Answer

Lots of reasons. I think one of these reasons has to do with biology. From my understanding, women are wired to want to find a high-quality mate that will stay with her to raise the child or children they will have after mating. Now, with birth control and condoms available, some may think this notion is out of date, but I believe it’s something deeply wired in women and is not going away anytime soon. I believe marriage is one method of instilling a solidifying body to raising a child. In marriage, the loyalties and properties of the man and woman are each other’s which ideally should bind both together through life. Women want protection and want support in raising their child, but they want all of this with the right man and they want it assured.

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

depends on the woman. I'm the one that mentioned marriage first to my fiancee. I went so far as getting a custom made ring and planning for a new place to live when we tie the knot. Lots of guys gonna hate on me doing that maybe but its based on outdated info. If a woman wanted to marry you for your money you'd need to be a top earner to day or she'd have to be dirt poor herself. My fiancee and me make the same income. Even IF it didn't work out (I hope/pray thats not the case) I won't be getting screwed in alimony court or something. Plus we dont want kids anyways so that's another thing we dont have to worry about.

AmandaYVR · Answer

They love love. Stability. Being able to raise children and have a family unit. It feels like a milestone of life. The wedding/princess dream fulfilled.

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Answer

Women are definitely not the only ones that desire marriage. In many places in the world, most people want marriage whether they're women or men. Marriage is simply the best living arrangement for an adult. Marriage allows you to spend plenty of time with the person you love non-stop and have sex with the person that you're attracted to. In addition, marriage allows you share income with your partner, which makes it easier to pay bills and own property. Marriage is also the best way to raise a family for people that want children. Children being raised in a home with both parents that love each other is better than children being raised solely by a single parent, by the child support system, or children only having limited access to their other parent. This is only more likely to happen if you're having sex with people you don't have any real feelings for. However, for marriage to be the best living arrangement for an adult, marriage has to be done right. Both men and women should choose better and the most compatible partners, as well as show love, care, kindness, and loyalty to their partner. Communication is also important, whereas both men and women should express any problems that they might be having in the relationship to prevent cheating. If people actually put in the effort to make marriage work, then it is a beautiful thing.

btbc92 · Answer

Because a woman desires sex. She desires a lifetime partner who she loves and desires a family. It is built in her. Men say they want sex yet they deny marry. God called sex to be a marriage and marriage all about sex yet, these men want free sex. They treat you as a whore in bed yet say they don't like whores. A woman cannot do a duty of a wife if she is not a WIFE. men today want sex without real commitment, yet are upset about how much work it takes. While many young women and girls have a healthy imagination about marriage. The reality is it requires work. It's not that women don't want to invest. The men just make it much difficult and disappointing. They don't want to work to build something, yet they're horny. While many marriages was done for political and financial reasons, for war, or to join bloodlines, it is also something God called us to do out of love. Your only supposed to have sex with 1 person which is your spouse to begin with. That is not what is happening today. You want sex, get married. You can't handle it, why should we have sex? In the end, you want to win and you want us to lose, yet you say we want to be winners and you losers. If a woman never loved you, why would she marry you unless you have money or something she wants, which may by your birthright, money, and or to have your sperm for her to be joined to your bloodline. Because that is what sex actually is. It si about BLOODLINES. You take on her genetic line and she takes on your genetic line by via your sperm. So be careful who you try to POKE. Not just who you get pregnant.

Babybebe15 · Answer

For me, personally, I think marriage is a beautiful ceremony to showcase the union between newlyweds. My partner and I are waiting til marriage for religious reasons so it’s a big deal for us. The thought of marrying him, living with him, traveling with him, having his babies lol, and spending the rest of my life with him is exciting. It’s not necessarily the size of the wedding either as we don’t want a big wedding, but a small one with close friends and family.

I look forward to the day we say “I do” and commit to one another. I think it’s an important way to express your love and commitment to that person you want to spend the rest of your life with 🤍🕊

amadimal · Answer

* for companionship - they actually want to build a life with a partner they love
* to start a family (with a partner in some cases they might not be ”in love with”)
* social pressure - they are being told by society that they aren't ”fit” if they can't find a man willing to marry them + they are being told how getting married is like being a ”princess” for a day + they are being told there's a ”timeline” for everything (you HAVE to get married by that age, you HAVE to have kids by that age & so on)
* for money/status/resources - which offer a heightened sense of security
* because of religion/cultural factors

Roxxy99 · Answer

I think women tend to romanticize weddings. They’re almost like a fairy tale for the bride, being treated like royalty for a day, the beautiful gown, the flowers, being the center of attention. Marriage also symbolizes commitment and stability which can be very important to many of us.

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage is just a public declaration that your monogamous with one person for a long time. Thats the traditional view. It also is a society standard. So many women feel it's more stable as it holds each person accountable because when you get married, depending where you live, you are sharing your spouses assets such as house, cars, but also sharing each other's debts. if you were to separate, the law could be more involved to divide assets. Rather than when not married. (Although now in some states or places being together for a long time is like getting married).

So basically it's just an open public statement that you're holding each other accountable and of course that you found a lifelong partner.

PinkHamster · Answer

It’s part of life. I don’t want to stay someone’s girlfriend for the rest of my life. If he loves me enough he would make me his wife and carry his last name forever and have our beautiful family together, not keep me as his sex toy and whenever he gets bored he move on to the next target. I really won’t waste my time and life on a guy that doesn't want to marry me in the end.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

1st marriage young ( late teens) kids having kids that kind of thing young & dumb
2nd marriage my 40th yr spiritual growth ( baptized that year to) love, 2 people becoming one but cancer took all that & left shattered dreams
So no more for me thank you I've enjoyed the journey but I'm good 💓

FictionalCharacter · Answer

Are you talking about the wedding ritual or the life long companion?

Cause I personally, don’t care about a big grand wedding. Since most of my family got married in court.

I’m more interested in finding that special someone to start a family and spend the rest of my life with.

Angelo75 · Answer

The good women:
- Stability
- Steady place for children
- To be loved unconditionally
- Following what the bible says

The bad women:
- To be sure they don't have to pretend to be nice
- So they don't have to work and can just be lazy
- So they don't have to care anymore about the way they spend the money
- To make sure that even if the guy leaves them, they'll still get money

clairebearrrr · Answer

Because of my parents. They make it look so fun and effortless, they’re best friends and that’s what I want as well. I’ve also always wanted to be a stay at home mom because I love children so much, but I’ll probably have to work.

MzAsh · Answer

To secure a man’s commitment, loyalty, devotion, and to secure a stable family.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Those who want it 'badly' are suspicious to me. They usually lack a sense of reality; or they have... ''additional motivations''. Lucky enough, this is just one sort of many.

aliali8 · Answer

hun, most men out there want to get married too. men are just less vocal about it.

Anonymous · Answer

LMAO! The girls on this site me laugh. They proclaim their independence, individuality, and determination.
So yo ask them a simple question " Why do they want to marry so badly" and how do they respond? One of two ways
1. Social pressure/gender expectations, "princess mentality", companionship, driven by maternal instincts.
"I Am woman here me roar... just let me ask if it's ok first". 🤣
2. They don't... but still can't tell you why.

Anonymous · Answer

Not all woman, my cousin met a dude off bumble who she went out with for a month and he brought up “their marriage and kids”. That’s scared her off so fast she broke up with him keep in mind she was like 19 or 20 too. She told me that she did want to get married but not till she knew or dated someone for a long time.

Alpha09 · Answer

Lots of reasons. Social conditioning, in love with the fairytale fantasy, financial stability, family pressure, personal fulfilment, love and companionship etc. Or they just want to because that's what they want to do🤷

ct1243 · Answer

Want and is are two different things. Commitment is important to me and it seems a lot of guys don’t want commitment so why date anymore? I wanted marriage a long time ago, but due to the nature of dating and men absolutely not !

CubsterShura · Answer

Because it is a wonderful thing! Like yeah I could live on my own being single and providing for myself if I happen to never find my man, but what fun is it to live just for the sake of living?

Coulis · Answer

Because marriage is protection for the woman as offensive that is to all these empowered types. No matter how clever you are, or how much crossfit you do, women are still more vulnerable in this cruel world.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Because we want babies and it looks bad if ur not married or not with the daddy.

Anonymous · Answer

I am more excited to finish college and start travelling

hahahmm · Answer

Some women are smart enough to know that team work is less work than doing everything on their own. Yes, feminists also take advantage of that when they get with a guy who doesn't realize that he's on her team but she's not on his team.

genericname85 · Answer

cause their hormones make them want children and marriage suggests long term partner-security, which ensures that the offspring can be raised in a team. that's why marriage as an institution exists in the first place.

Juxtapose · Answer

So they can steal your money when they divorce you.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

It’s the dream they push on little girls with Disney movies. And they have no career aspirations

exitseven · Answer

Lots of girls have it drummed into their heads at an early age to marry some Prince Charming guy who is handsome and rich and they will live happily ever after.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Companionship, stability, keeping with social norms, plus two incomes is always better than one.

Hoper-101 · Answer

I don't understand why I wanted/want marriage so badly.

Mortdikeuu · Answer

I did when I was in my early twenties. I'd rather avoid men now though.

Lady_Ann · Answer

I really don't but we want a baby and we are Christian so I'll get married in order to have a baby

Toast792 · Answer

I really don't want to... I think it depends on the person. A ton of men really want to get married too.

Anonymous · Answer

Not just women, my boyfriend is really adamant about us being married. While the feeling is mutual, it’s pretty clear that it’s something he desires way more than me.

Anonymous · Answer

In a word: Disney. Not saying that marriage is necessarily a bad thing, just saying that that is what has influenced all these women to romanticize it to the extent that they do.

rienna888 · Answer

umm i only wanna marry cuz I wanna know my partner loves me more enough to marry me

Anonymous · Answer

Because marriage is an extremely good deal for women, and not so much for men.

Nazgol · Answer

Because we were conditioned from an early age by society and parents that this is the norm for girls when they grow up

jasco · Answer

Well i wanna get married so i can have something to look at when i wake up every morning

REALSTEEL · Answer

for personal gain i was married for only 7 months long enough for her to get her visa that was that

Anonymous · Answer

We want to be seen as someones wife, they're everything. it feels comforting to know that someone else wants to share the little time they have on earth with you.

Daniel_Dano · Answer

Many reasons , they can finally have babies without any fear.

lofii · Answer

So they can take everything you worked hard for and leave you homeless 💯💯

Waldoe · Answer

because they don't want to work, and they don't want to live under a bridge

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Who wouldn't want to get married? Don't you want to have a stable relationship and long-lasting love?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Because its natural instinct to desire and form a family unit.

Iron_Man · Answer

It's like winning the lottery Its an easier life for them if they find the right well off compatible partner

sixtyeightplusone · Answer

It's the best deal in the world for a woman. For a man not so much

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Guaranteed half your stuff plus alimony. Marriage is purely financial for women.

Spade07 · Answer

The answer is subjective. Basically like all the answers to questions on GAG

Wise4myage · Answer

They could do it for desperate reasons, but that wouldn't be a good thing.

nevernevernever · Answer

For women it represents stability

123lucy · Answer

I don't really want to marry at all

In_Trance · Answer

Very good question. I'm not so sure they even know why

Konabeana · Answer

Because it promises stability and a future

josephinelcajon · Answer

Society has drilled it into us also some religions

maryisbreathing · Answer

I don't know I don't want to marry to be honest

Exterminatore · Answer

They need a security blanket.

LogicalGal123 · Answer

That's a good one! I have no clue. Lol

Eldoradο · Answer

Women: "We want to marry so badly". LMAO

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