Why do women want marriage so bad?

[ProLife]

I never understood why women are so obsessed over marriage
Is it the ring? the ceremony? the money y'all get after the divorce?

[Sweetener_]

This is from my religious point of view :)

Marriage is God's gift to us, designed to bring us joy and Him glory. With this gift He covered our aloneness, providing us with the hope of companionship, and the joy of connected intimacy with Him and with one another.

When God created the first man in His own image (Genesis 1:27; 2:7), He gave that man everything he needed to be content. Yet, God said, "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him" (Genesis 2:18). So God created a woman from Adam’s side and brought her to the man. The first marriage occurred when God created a woman to complement the needs of the man so that, when joined in covenant, they become one flesh. The idea of "one flesh" implies an unbreakable seal meant to last a lifetime.

God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman. It is the firmest foundation for building a family. and is a life-long commitment. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church. First Corinthians 7:1-2 gives us a good reason for marrying: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman. But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband." God designed sex to be enjoyed only within the boundaries of marriage. Any sexual activity outside those boundaries is sin (Galatians 5:19; Colossians 3:5). If a person has a strong sex drive, it is usually a good idea to marry in order to minimize lust and avoid immorality (James 1:13-15). Singleness should never be used as an excuse to live in sexual sin. But if a single person can control his or her passions and live a morally pure life, there is no need to feel pressured to marry (1 Corinthians 7:37).

[Sweetener_]

So to keep it short, marriage is beautiful, that's why I want it.

[TonyMetal___86]

Amazing answer from a little princess 😊

[havingfun101]

Christian women file for divorce as much as atheist women, which is roughly half the time, with women filing in 75% of divorce cases. Marriage, cohabitation and childbirth are at all time lows and God won't protect men from women.
“Here is what I have found,” says the Preacher,
“Adding one thing to the other to find out the reason,
28 Which my soul still seeks but I cannot find:
One man among a thousand I have found,
But a woman among all these I have not found.
29 Truly, this only I have found:
That God made man upright,
But they have sought out many schemes.”
www.biblegateway.com/.../

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 a woman who is a true believer will never do such a thing, only women who are just christian on the papers will act like that...

You cannot pretend to be a christian and do not listen to what god is telling you to do...

It's true that we aren't perfect but we always try to become a better person...

[Soulmusic4all]

Amen!!!

[Sweetener_]

@TonyMetal___86 Thank you 🥰

[TonyMetal___86]

Your welcome 😊

[havingfun101]

@TonyMetal_86
Christian & Atheist divorce rates are the same, so, you're just another mark? Got it!
No true Scotsman, or appeal to purity, is an informal fallacy in which one attempts to protect a universal generalization from counterexamples by changing the definition in an ad hoc fashion to exclude the counterexample.

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 christians are humans, atheists are humans too, don't forget that we are all humans and we are all the same but what makes us different is the way of our thinking, our decisions that we make and the path that we choose to follow...

[havingfun101]

Yeah, you're an easy kill, oinking other men towards the not like that butcher...

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 what do you mean, couldn't understand what your saying?

[havingfun101]

You are an automaton; some woman will easily ensnare you with a minimum of effort and you'll run around saying that you just picked wrong, no matter how bad the environment, laws or hypocrisy becomes. You're, like fewer and fewer men, just desperate to get your peepee touched. As I've said: marriage, cohabitation and childbirth are at all time lows.

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 man your judging without knowing me at all 😂
Should i insult you now?

Look you can think the way you want about me but guess what I DON'T CARE! Because i know myself very well and such words won't shake me at all...

I'm just laughing hard about this : "your an automaton, women will enslave you easily..." HAHAHA 😂😂

Boy you really need to ask about me a lot of people on this site and do some research about me to know if i'm an automaton slave or not! 🤣🤣

[havingfun101]

I wrote 'ensnare.' ... are you really saying that if a woman divorces you, you won't chalk it up to picking wrong? You already busted out the no true scotsman, making your position clear and discounting the relationship-based, wealth extraction meat grinder that is all around you.

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 i'm already divorced dude, she didn't get a dime from me, actually she did everything in her power to come back for me but she failed because it seems that i'm not an automaton, by the way i even kept my son with me who was back then 7 years old and now about to become 14, can you dig that?

She asked for my permission to see him 😏

Man you should feel sorry for yourself living in a 1st world country were you males gave women all her rights and YOUR RIGHTS too, are you happy now with all the crazy feminists hovering around you while you can do sh*t...

Man just spare me, your 33 and not a kid, i'm a 34 y. o REAL MAN and about to become 35 in February, only 1 year difference between me and you but you make it look like there are 20 years difference!

Just GROW UP than come back to me! 😏

[havingfun101]

Women get custody in 90% of cases, so she was a living disaster or she'd have custody and your son would call another man daddy. I'm so correct, that it already happened and you're doing as I predicted, as evidenced by your earlier rationale.
We're about to make women register for Selective Service and Affirmative Action is next. Your dumb luck is just that & she still could've said that you beat her & touched the kids and got custody, but that'd hamper her ability to get a new man. Finally, unless she cheated on you; if you marry or sleep with another woman, it's committing adultery.
Matthew 5:31 “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except [d]sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery."

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 she haven't cheated, she's suffering some mental issues and she was manipulated by her aunt...

What your saying is true but none of what you said happened with me! Maybe because i'm a real who knows what to do and what to say, she knew that she couldn't do a thing with me because i wasen't the one ending everything and i was always the good man but we all make mistakes cause none of us is perfect but what matters is that i believe in eternal marriage and keep my promises unlike others!

You talk too much, seeing the war ain't like living it ok the ground so please spare from your advices and when you achieve 1% of what i've done, come and talk to me!

No one gave rights to women other than some stup*d nerds who lacks balls...

I believe that women are equal to men but they are differen and they can never be like each other, a man is a man and a woman is a woman!

The U. S is a beautiful country and it was always the greatest, i hope that it won't end because of the corruption and signing too much rights here and there for everyone, you can NO and you can disagree right? In your country they say it's freedom, don't you know that too much freedom will make humans animals again? Everything in this world must have borders and lines!

Anyways it's good that you live in the U. S some European countries are even sh*ttier than the USA a hundred times more, men who are living there must always look to their d*cks just to make sure that they are males and that's if the feminazis haven't removed these parts from men in the 1st place 😂

[TonyMetal___86]

By the way my ex is still single since she left from 6 years till now, just so you make sure that she didn't leave to have another man 😂

Do you know what's the difference between a male and a man? A male is just a mammal who is an automaton led by more powerful beings like a slave! While real men are knighs who rides their horses, win the battles and become heroes and to be able to become a knight, the 1st thing you should do is learning how to ride a horse, in this case the horse is the woman, if you can't ride the horse well enough she will kick you off, mop the floor with you and you won't be able to go no where to earn all the achievements that a real knight have achieved! 🛡⚔

[havingfun101]

Do you mean that you were no good in bed, so you were divorced? I'm right about your attitude pertaining to "Christian" women as your no true scotsman fallacy indicates. Would you agree that you're willing to commit adultery with someone (not your wife) according to the bible & that you're a real man because you validate yourself through women?

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 well i never cheat and i'm divorced now which means i'm single, if i met a real woman, i won't have sex before marriage just like i did the 1st time which means i haven't committed adultery and never will...

A marriage needs 2 people to work for it and succeed and if one fails, you cannot blame the other on the marriage's failure...

I told you why i'm divorced, 1st of all she was the one who divorced cause i don't believe in divorce, 2nd: the reason of our divorce is her accusing of domestic violence "beating her, treating her like a salve... etc" with all her accusations, SHE LOST! 😌
WHY DO YOU THINK SO? Don't you know that an honest person who never lies will always win, sooner or later?

Have a nice day...😌

[havingfun101]

Read that bible verse I left, again. Unless she cheated, if you marry someone else, it's adultey because God sees you two as being still married. ... False, e. g. someone cheats.
... I fault men for marrying in an environment that gives women all the power, which is unbiblical; due to women having authority over men and being surety for a stranger.
Well, she could have stepped in up with child abuse or sexual abuse allegations and increased her chances of getting custody. She's obviously incompetent. ... Congratulations on your sex trophy.

[TonyMetal___86]

@havingfun101 how can god see you married if you aren't anymore? If one of the couple destroyed the marriage and didn't want to continue anymore while the other did the opposite, what's his or her fault? Why they should suffer the consequences of something that they haven't done?

God knows every person for their reality...

[havingfun101]

1 Corinthians 7:10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 *But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.* And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
(Keep in mind the sexual immorality exception from Matthew)

[CupcakeKiller]

Definitely the divorce money.

[Unit1]

I sense the truth.

[postaldudePL123]

@Unit1 yep!

[Jack9949]

You look like a gold digger tbh

[CupcakeKiller]

@Jack9949 yes that is why I became a lawyer.

[Unit1]

All of it! You named it all!

Plus the big ceremony and them being in the center of the spotlight. All the attention to get them internal and emotional orgasms. Then they can show it all off on instagram and collect those likes.

And if he dares to leave or she gets bored? Then it's FREE MONEY for her! Who doesn't love free money? Can you point me who does not love free money? Anybody at all? *crickets chirp*

You see they won't talk about it. Why would anyone disclose their master plan in life? Just to invite saboteurs?

There's also social pressure on women. However I would encourage women to be more themselves and stand their own ground and not follow the crowd, who puts them under the pressure of GET MARRIED HURRRR. If they want marriage, good for them. If they don't want marriage, I would root for them to stand their ground and not marry.

[CasaNorba]

you pretty much answered your own question with your last sentence brother.

lets not forget that being married to them is something they can brag about for the rest of their lives. since all women believe that all marriages are "happy" accompanied by the good life they love to watch and read about in romantic novels and soap operas

[jennifer_bloom]

The answer is having somebody you can live with and one with for life - somebody to hug and hold and kiss and sleep with and have kids with and somebody who can give you a reason to wake up in the morning

[Jacked_Jones]

HAHA nice joke.

[honestGUY45]

I, and a lot of other people have had all of that without being married. We'll, except for the 'for life' part. SO GLAD I didn't marry her!

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And you're acting like it's impossible for that to happen without the government involving in their love life. Or perhaps you don't do all those things unless you're married.

[MelanieG2]

This reminds me of the lyrics in Beyoncé’s song Flawless. It starts as a little girl. Our entire life, girls are taught to aspire to marriage. We are told that out of all of our life’s choices, marriage is the most important. We are judged if we are not married by a certain age.

“We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
"You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man"
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage
And we don't teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes”

I personally have always been a hopeless romantic. I think marriage is beautiful, and one of my biggest aspirations in life is to have my own little happy family. I am a one man kind of woman. I think it would be amazing to have a soul mate and best friend all in one. Life is better with a partner, if you are on one accord. I thinks it’s beautiful. Love is everything to me. You can build so much with your significant other. It also has a huge impact on your children. My parents are still married, and I look at them as goals. I want the love that my parents have. I only want to be married once. I pray that God sends me the man of my dreams. I pray that I know when he crosses my path, I don’t have to question if he is the one. I just got out of a toxic relationship. He was my first love. But he hurt me so bad, that it hurt for me to breathe in. Crazy because I thought he was “the one.” He was literally like my Prince Charming. The PERFECT MAN. Until I seen his ugly side. I am now not interested in dating men for a very long time. I do not want to entertain any man who is not my husband.

[GlitterFairy16]

Honestly if id reflexed on my personal reasons for being obsessed with marriage its probably because of all the Disney movies i grew up watching. It's only recently the media stopped pushing the idea into little girls head but marriage equals a happy ending and that a womens wedding day is the most important day of her life and its her special day to feel like a princess.

I can't help but just dream about wearing a beautiful dress, having a grate party with people I love around me and letting the world know but me and my future husband love each other and want to spend are lifes together as one.
Also i just think its safe to get married especially if you want children. I just gives that extra bit of protection and comfort knowing if things get hard we can't just walk away and risk making a mistake, we have no choice but to try and work it out and make it better plus if one person dies in the relationship you run the risk with being left with nothing to help get on without them.

[Tstrbrainer]

Beautifully written

[markony]

Great reasoning

[ragequeen]

Honestly I don't get it either. Some women and even men believe marriage keeps you in the relationship. That's not true. People still have affairs and cheat in a marriage. It's because modern times are more susceptible to it and it's more accepted to have sex outside a marriage. I would say only get married when you've been together for years, maybe when you've gotten old and know this is what you want. Marriages are expensive, a hassle and so are divorces. No need to through that emotional stress when you can be just as committed and close without a wedding.

[Tricia720]

Growing up I didn't believe in marriage. I didn't trust that a piece of paper could tie two people together and that's all it took.

Now that I'm in my 30s, I would like to trust someone enough to have that soul connection. That trust to where I want their last name to be mine. To have children and pass on his name. But, at the same time it would require a lot of communication before I give up my last night for a relationship.

I don't want a wedding ceremony. Take my ass down to the court house and get it over with. We would be spending that ceremony money on other things. I don't believe in divorce. If you go into something 100% you better trust that choice with your life. If there is even a sliver of doubt... It's not happening. If I ever got married it would be forever. So we better have our shit together.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

When you look at women's history, it becomes a bit more clear. Of course, we live in modern times, but just like there's still sexism out there there's still some remnants of the older times still unconsciously affecting people today.

Fortunately marriage is becoming more about actual connection and not just money.

Though money honestly is still one of the best benefits of marriages or civil unions.

Marriage is a way to protect and deliniate joint assets, establish prenuptial agreements, and usually gain some tax incentives in some western countries.

There's usually some fiscal benefits on top of the socially encouraged marriage thing.

[bamesjond0069]

I disagree. Marriage is becoming far more about money than anything else. For example in the past prenups were not needed because you couldnt get divorced. Now men like me have to sit with a lawyer and an accountant to have both tell me their advice is not to get married because of the financial reasons. Seems far more about money now. When it used to be about religion and life and family and money. Now its mostly money because everything else had been removed from marriage.

[JFelix]

Firstly I think it's important for women to get married because they feel like your stuck with them forever if you're married. I mean you are literally giving them a ring which is the shape of a circle (which symbolises infinity as a ⭕ never ends).

Then like you said the ceremony. Girls want to be the first out of their friends to get married as not only competition but to show off you, and the ceremony. Why do you think women want muscular men, so they can show off, have you ever seen a celibrity with an ugly husband or wife? No.

And lastly I think it's just the fact girls wish to get married since theyre very little. So when it becomes reality it feels like the best day of their life.

[iseekpinetrees]

Because we all grew up with fairytails! Hot guy meets girl. Sweeps her off her feet and they have a magical life together.

In reality though it's more like a sense of security. Everyone wants someone to come home to. To be loved. To be needed. To be wanted. To always have a friend. To build a family with. To do right in their parents or in gods eyes and what's better than finding someone who does all that and keeping them forever. Pretty sure every woman wants to find someone to grow with and have an all around partner in life.

But most of us now a days realize it's just a goddamn paper and u can do most of that without the ring. It's just not guaranteed you get to keep the fucker for life.

[honestGUY45]

I'm sure some have legitimate reasons, but most of the ones I've seen in action are in competition with their friends to see who gets the bigger more expensive ring and has the bigger more expensive wedding because that's somehow a representation of their worth and the ones that don't get married are considered old maids and it's the consensus among their friends that they aren't good enough for a man to marry them, especially if they're already living together or at least sleeping with them. I've seen a woman send herself gifts to her work and even go as far as buying herself an engagement ring to stage a love interest so she's more 'attractive' than reality would suggest. If that's what they're basing their reasons for getting married on, then they don't deserve a husband.

[MzAsh]

The commitment
The loyalty
The investment
The show of trust


I value my man’s full trust and devotion to me as his partner and I of course do the same to him. A man who shows hesitation about marriage proves he’s not trusting or committed enough to be with me.

[mamamai]

The promise that the man isn’t going to use us and suck all the joy out of our life then dump us and leave us with kids. Many women who are in a serious relationship are giving up a lot to be with the man and they want the man to be willing to do the same. Guys don’t seem to understand by being with them, and having children we are risking a lot.

[backdoorman]

Men are risking just as much. You make it sound like men are the ones who dump and run when in fact 80% of divorces are filed by women, and when they do they usually get the kids.

[Flower7]

Many of them want stability and they want commitment from the guy and they possibly see marriage as proof that he really loves her. Also, many people prefer to have children while married, so without marriage, that stops them from starting the family that they want.

[NEONSNEK]

Society. Hollywood. Traditions. Their Friend got married. Now they want to get married too and have their happily ever after. If you want my opinion? I would say people often get married too quickly. Before they even know who they are themselves, before they had a chance to discover really it is they want and don't want. It wasn't until I turned around 30 things started falling into place.

[TheFlak38]

Why shouldn't they want it? The entire system and its laws guarantee a woman the time of her life if she gets married. Once the wedding is over the man's life is over and the woman's life is about to start. Men can only lose and women can only win. I would have done it too if the game was so rigged in my favour.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

So they can divorce you and take 50% of your stuff legally.
That said, not all women are like that. Some genuinely want to find the right man to spend their lives with but end up with guys that use them and treat them like shit. They make their own beds in that way.

[MissRomantic]

Well, why I want it is because it’s a symbol of lifelong commitment and plus, it’s romantic and cute. I also believe that sex within marriage is accepted by God.

[DizzyDesii]

Mine is partially religiously related. But also, it feels like the ultimate step to commitment. If he commits adultery, thats on him. I ain't goin to hell for his ass

[HOAAH]

For me it's so i can introduce him to everyone as my husband and have him included in my family. In a sense it makes me and him feel more like we really belong together and we want the world to know and accept it.

[Sonorous]

Because it is evolutionarily advantageous for them and their offspring.

[Sonorous]

Seems silly to say because it appears that everyone should know this and what it involves... The fact that our values, behaviors, and actions are because of evolution... But it's not something that's accurately socially enforced, so people often grow up hearing the blue pilled version of love/the false version that sounds good to the ear. And that's understandable.

You'll often see that women partially admit to that when it comes to this topic. By "that" I mean that evolution makes us attracted to each other. But go any deeper and you'll find that a lot are misguided. So much so that it hurts even their own relationship life. And they can't even see it. I don't blame them though. Life is full of lies and ideals. But they'll often focus on the feel-good love aspect rather than the truth.

The truth's that love is more superficial than people give credit. They do it because they either don't know the truth, they like that false appeal so they reject it, or because they know it's true but it would be evolutionarily disadvantageous to say or imply. 😂 Funny world we live in.

But they'll explain the feel-good aspect when asked why they got married rather than the actual motivating factors. As I said, it's understandable. I believe that anything that happens is nature working as it was intended to work (even though it may not look that way to us from this perspective). And most women genuinely think they want marriage for reasons that it will make them feel good and that having a partner to love and grow old with is all they like about it, etc... But those aren't the actual motivating factors. Generally speaking at least.

[Sonorous]

And the effect of that can be seen through the many divorce statistics out there. Oh, they're high alright! And women initiate the majority of them. A whopping "two-thirds" based on an official 2015 study!

When money gets tight and the relationship doesn't feel like it did, their actions will quickly show why they were in the relationship. I mean, it's no coincidence that divorce rates went up during the recent financial and pandemic crisis.

It's in women nature to be hypergamous. And it's in their nature to value superficial aspects like looks, money, social status, etc. Just like it is men's nature to do what we're programmed to do. Now, (disclaimer aka I'm not a bad guy) I'm not saying there aren't exceptions. I'm simply saying that once a guy has those, she will then focus on the less realistic aspect of love that the media dishes out. The one that feels like it will last forever. But in reality, it's almost doomed to fail because people are in denial of their own intentions.

[Sonorous]

Now for the kids, marriage ensures that the women and her child will have a better chance of being compensated in case of a split. But that's not often the main reason why women get married so I didn't cover that aspect in depth. It's just a plus if they get caught up in that situation. Which again. It's completely understandable why they have the values, behaviors, and actions.

For further clarification of who I am and why I have these views:

I'm temporarily MGTOW and no it's not for political reason or for hatred. It's for personal reasons. I'm not an incel. I'm not a part of any community like redpill, black pill. I just like knowing the facts and they've got a lot over there. I do want to make clear that there are always exceptions and I am not trying to generalize. Just talking about the behaviors of the majority. If you aren't the majority then there's no need to be offended. Even though I have these views, I am very neutral about life as a whole. People are gonna be how theyre gonnda be and I don't hold anything against anyone. I just like facts,

[Sonorous]

And like I said, everything is...

[Maelisarbb]

Um. That's not true at all. Girls were raised to believe that was the only way they could live a happy life. We thought marriage was the only thing we could achieve in life, and after that, we'd be completed.

I do not believe that now, at all. I know there are other *more important* goals for me. That doesn't mean love is not part of my plans, but I show it differently