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I never understood why women are so obsessed over marriage
Is it the ring? the ceremony? the money y'all get after the divorce?
Is it the ring? the ceremony? the money y'all get after the divorce?
This is from my religious point of view :)
Marriage is God's gift to us, designed to bring us joy and Him glory. With this gift He covered our aloneness, providing us with the hope of companionship, and the joy of connected intimacy with Him and with one another.
When God created the first man in His own image (Genesis 1:27; 2:7), He gave that man everything he needed to be content. Yet, God said, "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him" (Genesis 2:18). So God created a woman from Adam’s side and brought her to the man. The first marriage occurred when God created a woman to complement the needs of the man so that, when joined in covenant, they become one flesh. The idea of "one flesh" implies an unbreakable seal meant to last a lifetime.
God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman. It is the firmest foundation for building a family. and is a life-long commitment. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church. First Corinthians 7:1-2 gives us a good reason for marrying: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman. But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband." God designed sex to be enjoyed only within the boundaries of marriage. Any sexual activity outside those boundaries is sin (Galatians 5:19; Colossians 3:5). If a person has a strong sex drive, it is usually a good idea to marry in order to minimize lust and avoid immorality (James 1:13-15). Singleness should never be used as an excuse to live in sexual sin. But if a single person can control his or her passions and live a morally pure life, there is no need to feel pressured to marry (1 Corinthians 7:37).
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Definitely the divorce money.
522 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. All of it! You named it all!
Plus the big ceremony and them being in the center of the spotlight. All the attention to get them internal and emotional orgasms. Then they can show it all off on instagram and collect those likes.
And if he dares to leave or she gets bored? Then it's FREE MONEY for her! Who doesn't love free money? Can you point me who does not love free money? Anybody at all? *crickets chirp*
You see they won't talk about it. Why would anyone disclose their master plan in life? Just to invite saboteurs?
There's also social pressure on women. However I would encourage women to be more themselves and stand their own ground and not follow the crowd, who puts them under the pressure of GET MARRIED HURRRR. If they want marriage, good for them. If they don't want marriage, I would root for them to stand their ground and not marry.
you pretty much answered your own question with your last sentence brother.
lets not forget that being married to them is something they can brag about for the rest of their lives. since all women believe that all marriages are "happy" accompanied by the good life they love to watch and read about in romantic novels and soap operas
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The answer is having somebody you can live with and one with for life - somebody to hug and hold and kiss and sleep with and have kids with and somebody who can give you a reason to wake up in the morning
This reminds me of the lyrics in Beyoncé’s song Flawless. It starts as a little girl. Our entire life, girls are taught to aspire to marriage. We are told that out of all of our life’s choices, marriage is the most important. We are judged if we are not married by a certain age.
“We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
"You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man"
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage
And we don't teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes”
I personally have always been a hopeless romantic. I think marriage is beautiful, and one of my biggest aspirations in life is to have my own little happy family. I am a one man kind of woman. I think it would be amazing to have a soul mate and best friend all in one. Life is better with a partner, if you are on one accord. I thinks it’s beautiful. Love is everything to me. You can build so much with your significant other. It also has a huge impact on your children. My parents are still married, and I look at them as goals. I want the love that my parents have. I only want to be married once. I pray that God sends me the man of my dreams. I pray that I know when he crosses my path, I don’t have to question if he is the one. I just got out of a toxic relationship. He was my first love. But he hurt me so bad, that it hurt for me to breathe in. Crazy because I thought he was “the one.” He was literally like my Prince Charming. The PERFECT MAN. Until I seen his ugly side. I am now not interested in dating men for a very long time. I do not want to entertain any man who is not my husband.-
Honestly if id reflexed on my personal reasons for being obsessed with marriage its probably because of all the Disney movies i grew up watching. It's only recently the media stopped pushing the idea into little girls head but marriage equals a happy ending and that a womens wedding day is the most important day of her life and its her special day to feel like a princess.
I can't help but just dream about wearing a beautiful dress, having a grate party with people I love around me and letting the world know but me and my future husband love each other and want to spend are lifes together as one.
Also i just think its safe to get married especially if you want children. I just gives that extra bit of protection and comfort knowing if things get hard we can't just walk away and risk making a mistake, we have no choice but to try and work it out and make it better plus if one person dies in the relationship you run the risk with being left with nothing to help get on without them. Honestly I don't get it either. Some women and even men believe marriage keeps you in the relationship. That's not true. People still have affairs and cheat in a marriage. It's because modern times are more susceptible to it and it's more accepted to have sex outside a marriage. I would say only get married when you've been together for years, maybe when you've gotten old and know this is what you want. Marriages are expensive, a hassle and so are divorces. No need to through that emotional stress when you can be just as committed and close without a wedding.
Growing up I didn't believe in marriage. I didn't trust that a piece of paper could tie two people together and that's all it took.
Now that I'm in my 30s, I would like to trust someone enough to have that soul connection. That trust to where I want their last name to be mine. To have children and pass on his name. But, at the same time it would require a lot of communication before I give up my last night for a relationship.
I don't want a wedding ceremony. Take my ass down to the court house and get it over with. We would be spending that ceremony money on other things. I don't believe in divorce. If you go into something 100% you better trust that choice with your life. If there is even a sliver of doubt... It's not happening. If I ever got married it would be forever. So we better have our shit together.-
When you look at women's history, it becomes a bit more clear. Of course, we live in modern times, but just like there's still sexism out there there's still some remnants of the older times still unconsciously affecting people today.
Fortunately marriage is becoming more about actual connection and not just money.
Though money honestly is still one of the best benefits of marriages or civil unions.
Marriage is a way to protect and deliniate joint assets, establish prenuptial agreements, and usually gain some tax incentives in some western countries.
There's usually some fiscal benefits on top of the socially encouraged marriage thing. Firstly I think it's important for women to get married because they feel like your stuck with them forever if you're married. I mean you are literally giving them a ring which is the shape of a circle (which symbolises infinity as a ⭕ never ends).
Then like you said the ceremony. Girls want to be the first out of their friends to get married as not only competition but to show off you, and the ceremony. Why do you think women want muscular men, so they can show off, have you ever seen a celibrity with an ugly husband or wife? No.
And lastly I think it's just the fact girls wish to get married since theyre very little. So when it becomes reality it feels like the best day of their life.-
Because we all grew up with fairytails! Hot guy meets girl. Sweeps her off her feet and they have a magical life together.
In reality though it's more like a sense of security. Everyone wants someone to come home to. To be loved. To be needed. To be wanted. To always have a friend. To build a family with. To do right in their parents or in gods eyes and what's better than finding someone who does all that and keeping them forever. Pretty sure every woman wants to find someone to grow with and have an all around partner in life.
But most of us now a days realize it's just a goddamn paper and u can do most of that without the ring. It's just not guaranteed you get to keep the fucker for life. 
I'm sure some have legitimate reasons, but most of the ones I've seen in action are in competition with their friends to see who gets the bigger more expensive ring and has the bigger more expensive wedding because that's somehow a representation of their worth and the ones that don't get married are considered old maids and it's the consensus among their friends that they aren't good enough for a man to marry them, especially if they're already living together or at least sleeping with them. I've seen a woman send herself gifts to her work and even go as far as buying herself an engagement ring to stage a love interest so she's more 'attractive' than reality would suggest. If that's what they're basing their reasons for getting married on, then they don't deserve a husband.
The commitment
The loyalty
The investment
The show of trust
I value my man’s full trust and devotion to me as his partner and I of course do the same to him. A man who shows hesitation about marriage proves he’s not trusting or committed enough to be with me.The promise that the man isn’t going to use us and suck all the joy out of our life then dump us and leave us with kids. Many women who are in a serious relationship are giving up a lot to be with the man and they want the man to be willing to do the same. Guys don’t seem to understand by being with them, and having children we are risking a lot.
Many of them want stability and they want commitment from the guy and they possibly see marriage as proof that he really loves her. Also, many people prefer to have children while married, so without marriage, that stops them from starting the family that they want.
Society. Hollywood. Traditions. Their Friend got married. Now they want to get married too and have their happily ever after. If you want my opinion? I would say people often get married too quickly. Before they even know who they are themselves, before they had a chance to discover really it is they want and don't want. It wasn't until I turned around 30 things started falling into place.
311 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. Why shouldn't they want it? The entire system and its laws guarantee a woman the time of her life if she gets married. Once the wedding is over the man's life is over and the woman's life is about to start. Men can only lose and women can only win. I would have done it too if the game was so rigged in my favour.
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So they can divorce you and take 50% of your stuff legally.
That said, not all women are like that. Some genuinely want to find the right man to spend their lives with but end up with guys that use them and treat them like shit. They make their own beds in that way. -
Well, why I want it is because it’s a symbol of lifelong commitment and plus, it’s romantic and cute. I also believe that sex within marriage is accepted by God.
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Mine is partially religiously related. But also, it feels like the ultimate step to commitment. If he commits adultery, thats on him. I ain't goin to hell for his ass
For me it's so i can introduce him to everyone as my husband and have him included in my family. In a sense it makes me and him feel more like we really belong together and we want the world to know and accept it.
Because it is evolutionarily advantageous for them and their offspring.
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Um. That's not true at all. Girls were raised to believe that was the only way they could live a happy life. We thought marriage was the only thing we could achieve in life, and after that, we'd be completed.
I do not believe that now, at all. I know there are other *more important* goals for me. That doesn't mean love is not part of my plans, but I show it differently
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