How Would You Have Felt As A Kid/Teenager To Find Out Your Parents Were In An Open Marriage?

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CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Well, I AM a teenager, and I’d be devastated! My parents have always been an example of what true love and mutual respect was. They’ve been married 25yrs and still act like newlyweds. Frankly their sex life is NONE of my business. I guess I would also be extremely upset to find out ANYTHING about their sexual be it habits, abilities…anything ! It’s literally none of my business, but finding out that they were bringing other people into their bedroom-life… yeah, devastated sums it up pretty clearly!

Alpha09 · Accepted Answer

Probably wouldn't care. That's a concept I'm open to myself if done correctly, though it's not for everyone. Children aren't born biased or closed minded so if I was exposed to a healthy relationship regardless of what kind, it would have been fine. All relationships are valid as long as they are healthy, and people get along and communicate.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Accepted Answer

They cheated on each other pretty openly all the time, so I guess I felt disgusted when I grew up.
My aunt would call them "libertines" and predict it would end in disaster.
But if I have to be honest, that wasn't at all the worst thing I might impute on them.
Still their behavior made sure I became very wary and I admit a bit prejudiced towards intimacy and that kind of things.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

My parents were divorced when I was born so not sure if this would of been worse. I can't imagine though it being any good but to each their own. The divorce effected me growing up big time... would an open marriage done the same thing? Who knows. Good question though.

MickeyMac · Answer

Honestly, I'm not sure..

I'd probably be askin em:

"Ok, soooo.. you guys are still my *blood* parents, right?

😄

No, but seriously.. I'm not sure how I'd react.. my father, I can see him going along with that MUCH more easier (surprise!) than my Mother..

Dad is, well WAS.. the wisecracking, fast life type of dude with a more "Hey! Check it out!" disposition..

My Mom was much more reserved. Never saying much, unless she had something to say. Not wantin to hear much, unless it was something worth hearing..

.. but a great listener! 😀My Mom was the type where she would be a Mother to all. Her nature was a warm and loving one. She reserved her greatest love for just ONE thing only.. Her Family. Me, My Brother and My Sister. .. aaand yeaaahh, ok. My Dad, too I guess. She deeeefinitely would NOT go for it.

Miss her eeeevery damn day.

ohshee · Answer

Probably the same way that I do now. With my hands LOL well something must have been going on. Because when I was five I found out that my dad was really my stepdad. And when I was 10, I think my stepdad was trying to be in a open relationship without my mom LOL because he got caught with the lady across the street. When I was 14 my mom is getting remarried 16 1/2 I I said fuck this and I moved out. And today as far as I know still feeling with my hands. But I have to really watch out. When I touch because that feeling from my hands gos deep to my bones, and for some reason everything else in my body, the only thing I can say , Its been a learning experience. And not knowing any other outcome I would have to keep it the same if I had to go through it again

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ArrowheadSW · Answer

Wow I'd never thought of this! If that was the way that it was back then, I would have thought that it was pretty weird. Back when I was a teenager, of all the friends that I had, only one friend had parents who engaged in "alternative activities" and they got divorced. The dad married the wife of the guy that the mom married... LOL

Lionman95 · Answer

I don´t think I´d have liked that because for me parents where also persons I trusted when I had problems with others. Open relationships would have taken that away to some kind because they could have ended at some time.
I think it would have knocked me out of my socks if I had to have choose between one of them.

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

That would not of worked. My parents were very traditional. They knew of others who were in an open marriage, and had seen all the issue they had in their marriage. It drove them even closer, and kept them in their exclusive marriage to each other. No one else was allowed in the relationship.

Lilbrown · Answer

My ex wife's father was a minister, principal and a free spirit. He had a wife (her mother) and several girlfriends that included his wife's friend. He also had an ongoing affair with my ex's friend and mentor. His behavior negatively shaped her opinion of men. She was untrusting and promiscuous.

Wisenhot · Answer

My parents divorced when I was 2 and they only got married because they got pregnant... so they didn’t get together for love in the first place. More like lust and enfactuation. I could give a accurate opinion as how it would have made me feel. Maybe strange and maybe ok with the idea. I could t share my partner though. It wouldn’t work out well in the long run

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I guess it would be a two way street, If I found out that their marriage was open 🤢eww but what would happen if they found out one of their kids had an open marriage😳 hypothetical

BLANLOLANO3 · Answer

I'd be grateful... Reason being is that my high school days sucked. I was a very loserish highschool boy. There were many girls i found cute and rejected me. And, I'd only be open to a marriage if my future date and I click well. Personally, I've never dated a girl in my life and I'm 21. But, damn... am I horny doggy woof woof

BillHe1 · Answer

AS a kid/young teenager in my day, I wouldn't have know what an Open Marriage was. But I guess seeing your Mom & Dad fucking with other adults, sometimes in your own home, would open your eyes real fast.

I guess my concern now would be if I would want that same type of Open Relationship/Marriage now that I'm and adult looking for sex in today's world?

Lliam · Answer

I would have been very confused. And it would have been embarrassing if other kids found out about it. I would probably have been traumatized.

Anonymous · Answer

My parents used to invite the neighbours over.
They hung up a blanket so we couldn't see into the living room.
They watched 70's porn Ron Jeremy and John Holmes movies with the neighbours.
I overheard my mom saying that she wouldn't go near that guy (The neighbour).
I guess my dad had the big white dick of the group.

AndrewMG · Answer

I still don't believe (or don't want to believe) they've ever had sex (I mean I'm guessing I was a result of immaculate conception) so I wouldn't believe it lol

Ditto626 · Answer

Me: Mom... Dad... Don't tell me this stuff. 😑 What you do is your business. But don't expect me to take any orders from your lovers.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Unsafe in my own home, like as in I would feel unsafe using the toilet be cause I dunno where those strangers have been or what they might be carrying,

Chris_u006 · Answer

As a kid? Upset and devastated.
And what I don't know at the moment can't hurt me afterwards if I ever would find out.
Im not even sure if I ever would put any blame of any of them.
Luckily for everyone they separated 23 years ago.
Adults that act like stubborn children to eachother and also talk shit behind the other persons back, that can destroy any relationship.

Gypsyqueen91 · Answer

I think It depends on the person -
some people can maintain this sort of relationship and may even be better parents for it - where it sort of makes me curious is weather or not its hurt you or made you feel differently - I think your very much entitled your opinion and this is actually sort of becoming a trend - Peoples spiritual/ emotional and physical needs play a role in any sort of relationship and overall can factor in - perhaps for some this sort of emotional settling down is what they feel is needed to bring balance into their life - personally I understand that were all energy and what may work for some is not going to work for others - I would try patience - unless it damages your well being - In this day and age I believe it is MUCH more common then had it been 20 - 30 - or even 100+ years ago

Leavesbound · Answer

Considering how much of a prude my mother was I'd have been shocked to the point of being catatonic.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Stop talking with them and forget that they are my parents... I'm happy that my parents were conservatives, we don't have such things called OPEN marriages! 😂

douride2 · Answer

It would have been a total shocker to me. My mother being a very uptight Baptist who was brought up in a Catholic boarding school.

Feelicks · Answer

Probably better than the divorce and abuse shit show that I actually got. I should be so lucky.

stormiigrl · Answer

I mean it is their decision if they chose that lifestyle kudos to them and if i was brought up to accept it no change to me really. As long as they look care of me growing up the rest is null void

pigoat · Answer

Raised by a single parent and haven't seen them date since before i was a teenager

BlackTealLazer · Answer

I wouldn't care because I don't like either of them.

Adam1978 · Answer

I guess that would have been the norm I grew up with. I don't think I would be judgmental, because I am not that today.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It would make me wonder about things, now through the grapevine I've heard my parents cheated on each other I believe when they were younger in the marriage so who knows?

noob__master · Answer

I would have grown up in a confused household without a male role model in which to follow after and to teach me. It would have been basically a fatherless home and we see how those tend to turn out.

zagor · Answer

Might wonder if Dad was really Dad if that had been the case.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

That would be pretty fucked up. Interesting question Brains.

Sillyboi98 · Answer

Never happened. My parents have married longer than I was born lol

IraqLobster · Answer

Where is my shotgun, for once it's going to be useful.

DocJones · Answer

I am pretty sure I wouldn't have liked it one bit.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Pissed off. Its a fucked up thing to put a child through in my opinion.

Dontaaa · Answer

Tbh, knowing how I am, I probably wouldn't give a shit as long as it wouldn't get in the way of what wanted to do.

Liber8CopWatch · Answer

I wouldn't care because it wouldn't have been my business as long as my basic needs were met, like a roof over my head, food, in my stomach, clean clothes on my back and a firm disciplining hand when I screwed up

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

I would have felt disappoint and confusion why they waited till I was a teen to realize/find out about parents open relationships

tallcuck · Answer

Bad. I wouldn't believe my father is my father. I would run away asap. Wouldn't you? Hearing your mother being a slut, or your father banging someone else than mum? Well. Great way to ruin a family.

fonduegirl · Answer

I've always wanted my parents to get divorced. They're a shitty pair.

alowe72 · Answer

I think my mom would have been a lot happy and her needs would been met. I would have want to know more, so I could've had that.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Longs if they don't push the other's as also father's or mother's to me. I would be fine and not confused by it. If they started saying oh this is your new mum i would be unhappy.

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure how I would have felt and not sure what to say to our kids if they find out

loves2learn · Answer

Absolutely shocked. My parents are prudes.

sp33d · Answer

I probably would have thought something like "oh, such a thing exists, fair enough".

Wiredone · Answer

What my parents did was none of my business. It didn't involve me

Tstrbrainer · Answer

If it happened I won't be very bothered except if I was a kid below 13

BennyClark · Answer

From my life experience now, no i wouldn't. Its only been a traditional construct that we should have ome partner. Sex is normal. I dont want my kids to be closed minded

Avicenna · Answer

I'd have been horrified

etexbearkat · Answer

My parents aren’t and never have been.

karaspara · Answer

I would've been embarrassed and appalled

Massageman · Answer

I have no idea. I just know they wouldn't.

KatherineJ · Answer

I would have been shocked, and sad.

Anonymous · Answer

I would have been disgusted.

anon_teen · Answer

I wouldn't care, its their life... To each their own.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Not sure what to say about that.

jerdanro · Answer

I just threw up in my mouth a little.

OddBeMe · Answer

I’d feel better about being a serial killer.

msc545 · Answer

That would have been a little weird.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I wouldn't want to know

SwitchGirl · Answer

relieved, maybe they would be happier

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