What are the disadvantages of being a housewife?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

As others have mentioned, there definitely is a financial aspect, but the key issue I've discovered has more to do with a woman's identity. Other people's statements only have value to us when we already believe them. Depending on others for our self-worth doesn't work, as we have to already believe it first. Self-esteem comes from challenging ourselves and gaining a sense of accomplishment. Housewives don't have these opportunities, because as soon as they finish a chore, it's time to do it again. You may say raising kids is a big challenge and accomplishment. That is true, but you have to wait 18 years to determine if you were successful or not, and that is too long for most people to wait.

Often, they take on the role of mom rather than an identity. As the child gets ready to leave the nest, mom realizes she can't be a mom if she doesn't have kids who need her. She then focuses more on herself than her kids, as she'll reinforce dependency on the kids, so they continue to need her, undermining the true objective of a parent, which is to help the kids stand on their own two feet as happy, fulfilled, functioning, productive and worthwhile adults.

Housewives often want their kids to look up to them and need them, yet, commonly, kids are more interested in spending time with friends than with mom. As far as looking up to her, they often see her as dependent on others for her happiness and fulfillment rather than achieving it on her own. They figure whatever she is teaching them hasn't worked for her, so it is unlikely to work for them. To be a mentor, we must be doing something that works... not saying we'll do it when the kids leave the nest.

Though financial dependency can be challenging as a housewife, we can work on our identity as a housewife. It isn't necessary to have a paid job, but we need to do something that challenges us and gives us a sense of accomplishment. It could be volunteer work, a home-based business, a creative endeavor or anything project-oriented that doesn't result in just maintaining life on a hamster wheel.

AkshiJanjua · Accepted Answer

My mom says its boring and tiresome

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

They are financially dependent. I know a woman in austria who is from turkey. She was treated like shit by the husband's mum and she was lied by his husband since she went back to turkey because of him and end up not going bsck to turkey due to visa. She did not know about her rights since she took care about her kids, husband and had to deal with the husband's parents to the point she did not have time to learn the language and get to know about her rights. She did not even have the money to go back to austria to took care about her visa etc. If she worked, she could learn the language automatically, she would know more about her rights, she could buy a plane ticket to austria. She is from a poor family and turkey already has economical problems. So there is no way she can get a proper job to care of herself and kids. Now she has to deal with kids with no money and her parents can only offer little help since they are poor as I said. So she fucking messed her life up.
Then if you dont for for a very long time, it is very difficult to get a job since employee want experienced people. If your husband leave you, you end up being homeless

Curious_Pepper · Accepted Answer

Most of them go unappreciated. Like the breadwinner thinks housework is easy and you're just acting all lazy at home

razelove · Answer

Everything you do has to be calculated. How much time does it take to sweep, do the laundry, cook, what ingredients will be used, and from how much is available. You have to get the shopping done, and at the same time try to anticipate what you need in surplus as far as cash, food, generators, guns, ammo, so on and so forth are needed as securing your home is part of taking care of it.

Add to that the other pressure that most people can't overcome before getting to those concerns. Every single day that you spend taking care of your kids and home is one more day that it becomes harder to get back into your career. It's less of a concern if you never had one, but it hurts if you did have a career that paid well.

Still and all, for whatever disadvantages there may be, and the odd looks I may get for being a guy who stays at home and takes care of my kids, I love them and know the time I have to do so is short. I'll take this opportunity because even if I have more kids with a younger woman, I'll be too old to keep up with them further down the line.

Agape93 · Answer

No career aspects or income of your own.
You’re subject to your husbands financial stability.
If you leave, you’re on your own and financially fucked.
If your husband is abusive, you can’t even go to work for a few hours to escape it.
You’re treated like a live in domestic servant and broodmare.
You’ll be disrespected as guys don’t tend to realize how much work goes into keeping a house cleaned, meals cooked and kids handled.
You won’t get thanks for it as it’s considered your job now.
Etc etc.

neeeeeeeko · Answer

You have no money of your own unless your husband gives you money.
There are no days off, you have to take care of the house and kids 24/7
It's often unappreciated and taken for granted
Other people simply see you as lazy, uneducated, or both.

Leavesbound · Answer

Yes there are. For one thing you are entirely dependent upon your spouse for financial support. Also, unless your spouse helps out at home likely you will be working a lot more than they do. A housewife's job starts when they wake up and ends when they go to sleep and there are no days off.

Apple1996 · Answer

The worst thing is the judgement of others and that so many of them think that housewives lack ambition and independence even though that is far from the truth.

sabaya3 · Answer

The only disadvantage for me is having to wait for my husband to come home so we can go out together. He drives me everywhere and helps at the grocery store.
He gives me money and i'm free to do whatever I want in the house. It's not bad

Yyyyu · Answer

Being dependent on your husband for money not only can he deny giving you money for thing's you like it also make you more vulnerable
Not being able to fulfill your dream I mean I guess kids are cool but many women think really enjoy being outside and working.

petrifythepatriarchy · Answer

The biggest disadvantage of being a housewife is not being financially independent compared to the working women and being socially isolated

Mofunfour20 · Answer

There arnt any disadvantages, easier than working an 80 hour week. Its only a disadvantage if she thinks she can have a career and take care of the kids and household.

Lionman95 · Answer

People making fun of you thinking you´re not working but being lazy all day because housework doesn´t take that much of an effort.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Having to ask your husband whenever you want money for yourself and you won’t have that good independent feeling as a housewife

MzAsh · Answer

No money or resources in your name so you’re basically dependent.

Samantha_17 · Answer

Part time housewife here. If you have a good quality, spacious and modern house then it would be perfect. Waiting for your man to arrive all day while doing housework is great feeling... :)

slatyb · Answer

You have no money of your own, and no career if the marriage ends.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

The only disavantage is if her husband treats her like a slave and makes her feel that she's worthless and that his house and money aren't hers too...

After marriage god makes a man and his wife one which means there is no him and her...

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i can't say. from the depictions that are in the media it's a life of enslavement to residential duties and upbringing

Alyssa11 · Answer

I'd probably say the feelings of loneliness/isolation.

WowwGirl · Answer

Independence having something you are proud of having your own money

crmoore · Answer

If things don't work out, you may have a large portion of your life without a job, and that doesn't look so great on a resume. And you'll probably need to get a job to support yourself post-split.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

you don't get the satisfaction of making your own money You have no idea how good it feels to make your OWN money

Iron_Man · Answer

Not being able to earn money for yourself to buy yourself nice things

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Nothing really. Most women desire it more than anything. They just fear being put down but really if you do a good job everyone is actually super envious.

Unbeatable · Answer

I actually dont respect housewives. Cause Im a feminist, I believe that the service industry is large enough to negate the need for that gender role.

Better_off_here · Answer

i must say that is the cutest pic i have seen, and second, i guess you do not have a lot of a social life that some may get from going to an in-person job that most have.

zagor · Answer

In that particular case it is everyone just thinks of you as a pussy.

Adam_West · Answer

being a housewife causes women into inferiority complex

jimmy2 · Answer

Nonthing and its so favorable to the family and yet when the kids are grown you have no job skills

Nik1hil · Answer

Marry me!..  And you will find out!.. 💍😉

Wiredone · Answer

You don't have financial independence

JustAGenie · Answer

No money of your own and a lack of independence

ManasaM_34 · Answer

Too many house chores. You can't escape

alance99 · Answer

Nothing according to me

princeofromance · Answer

You have to watch Soaps Operas on Television.

srijitdutta · Answer

There is none.

lpoots · Answer

it was her choice

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