What are the pros and cons of becoming a housewife?

[TonyMetal86]

[Wonderer89]

Pro:
more time to pursue extra curricular and hobbies that you’re actually interested in
House can be thoroughly cleaned more often
Should be no issue with home cooked meals for every lunch and dinner
If children are involved more time to spend raising them instead of relying on family/childcare
More availability to get involved with their school and extra curricular activities
Don’t have to work
Depending on the person; could be the most desirable and fulfilling job in the world

Cons:
Unless marrying wealthy (a small percentage of men) will be living in a lower socioeconomic group than if both were working
Less money means fewer options for children’s education, holidays, orthodontics and other medical nice to haves
Have to be self motivated to actually clean the house and provide meals daily
If the husband chooses to leave or dies unexpectedly she is left with nothing (no employable skills, outdated education, no job experience and life insurance runs out quickly)
Very little to do once children are in school
Studies show childcare in children under 5 have a discernible difference in socialisation, cognitive and language development helping prepare them for structured learning when they’re school age
Depending on the person; it could be boring and unfulfilling

[TonyMetal86]

Thanks for your comment but some men do realize that if something happens to them, what the wife will do after? He knows that she gave him her everything and he was her everything, even if she was accepted to work again, it will be very difficult cause the passing of her man made half of her dies... maybe she will be living like a phantom...

That's why some men like me will assure that her insurrance will remain the same till the end of her life and will never expire and she will still get a monthly income just like when her husband was alive and this monthly income is also as long as she's living, also she won't be living onnthe streets cause the house she was living in is owned by her husband and nownit's her's...

But all these will stop immediatly if she loved someone and got married again...

[Wonderer89]

Except that’s not how insurance works... it would be nice if it did; but it doesn’t.
You pay your life insurance premiums for a nominated payout amount.
You die.
She gets that amount and that’s it.

You can romanticise it all you want but it’s not the reality of how the world - or finances work

[TonyMetal86]

It is how it works here, and by insurrance i meant, if your sick and needed hospital, you won't pay a dime for it, anytime you enter a hospital is free, blood tests, mri's, all kind of treatments, you won't pay for them except for the doctor check and medicaments, half the price...

Everything i said are true, i'm an honest man and i never lie... such insurrances are only received when a man works something in the government for specific years...

So i'm not making things...

[Wonderer89]

And by insurance I meant life insurance to cover life’s expenses... mortgage, rent, utilities, cars, children’s education, clothing, food, extra curriculars etc etc etc.
Him being dead and her having no employable skills does not a happy life make. It’s hard enough going from two wages to one wage if he were to die - going from two wages to nothing leads people to be homeless.

I haven’t said you’ve lied, I’ve said you’re being naive and not wanting to see the reality of what life is like for women with zero income, no experience and no skills when their husbands die unexpectedly

[TonyMetal86]

Are you even reading what i'm saying... i'm not naive or making things up, also your right if the wife had to pass and live up with all these things, bur that's not my case or some other people's case...

My insurrance means that she be treated in most hospitals with paying a dime and get all the blood tests and x-rays or mri's without paying a cent...

2nd, her husband owned his house which means she will never be homeless, and about children expenses and your expenses and life expenses, well your were living a good life while your husband was alive on a specific amount of money, now after he's gone you will still receive nearly the same amount of money that he was receiving until the end as long as your not married, which means that financially your likely to remain the same as if he were alive...

The only thing that you will no receive anymore, is his love, his presence, or maybe a big part of your heart that is gone with him... but what he left for you is better then nothing...

[Wonderer89]

🙄 it’s like we aren’t even speaking the same language.

You’re talking about medical insurance. I am not, as it’s not relevant to me living in a country with universal health care.

I am talking about life insurance, which is an optional insurance some people choose to take out which gives a beneficiary (in this case; the wife) a one off payment in the event of her husbands death.

That money does not last forever or until she gets married again. Once that money is gone, that’s it. She doesn’t continue to get his salary - because he’s dead and isn’t earning one. I’m not sure what it is you’re missing in this concept that you keep saying “now after he's gone you will still receive nearly the same amount of money that he was receiving until the end” because that does not happen.

The vast majority of people do not own their home until later in life, it’s mortgaged which means the bank still needs to be paid. Which is what the life insurance usually gets eaten up by

[TonyMetal86]

I do understand what your saying and i do know about the healthcare system, but not all countries have that healthcare system and some who have it, do not get the same level of treatments as others who pay for the hospital...

I get what your saying that when he 's dead, the wife gets his life insurrance and when the money is all of it spent, she will be left without anything... your right!

All i'm saying is that is not the case of every housewifem i was speaking about my personal situation, if such thing happened with me then she won't be in a misery or somewhat dead or humiliated...

There are other people too, who aren't like me and aren't like what you described... he might be rich and own a company and more, his widow will handle the business in his place and work it out...

[Wonderer89]

Then perhaps rephrase your questions to “what are the pros and cons to being MY housewife” if you don’t want to know what people’s actual options and opinions are. Because I wasn’t aware we were talking about what it meant to be YOUR wife - just a housewife in general. Which is what my answer is based on. The reality for the majority of people, not elite 1% who can marry rich enough to not have to worry about money for the rest of their lives - which I actually addressed in my original answer in point 1 of the cons

[TonyMetal86]

Also about the salary, which in my PERSONAL case will still be paid for till the end as long as she's not married, it's like she's working and earning an income while in fact she remains a housewife...

She will need no one, it's like her husband is still there at least from a financial side...

[TonyMetal86]

I won't rephrase it cause i was asking in general, but when you replied to my question, all i wanted is to let you know that not all the housewives will have the same fate and that's all...

Also i do know what the majority will suffer from if they were a housewife, but when you want to become a housewife, that's not what you will think of, if he's dead or not, all what you want to do is make him happym give him your everything and be always there for him...

What if you die? What will he get? I know what your going to say, cry or 2 days or so and maybe he won't or stay depresses for a year or so than he wilk marry again and that's it...

Let me tell you something, not all men are the same, when your truly married, some men might get hysterical and never acceot the fact that their wives died, some might never be married again, some might conmit suicide, you will never know or feel what it means that his othr half was ripped from him...

No matter where he goes he see her...

[TonyMetal86]

Her voice is always in his mind... etc

[Salsacumbia]

Pros: Be with my love of my life and kids if we have any.
Cons: if anything should happen to my husband, i wouldn't have my husband, and ill be the loneliest widow ever!! Which will suck big time.

The rest of the life things my husband and i will be a team to keep building into our commitment of our life together.
Thats what i think, no one needs to agree with me.

[KatherineJ]

I’ve done the Stay At Home Mom thing.

Pros:
-Not depending on someone else to raise your kids, or paying for childcare
-Always having a clean house
-Always knowing what’s for dinner

Cons:
-One income, meaning less money for fun activities or luxuries
-Not using your education
-Not having interaction with other adults
-BOREDOM

[TonyMetal86]

Not all housewives are the same...

[KatherineJ]

Of course not. I’m just giving you MY opinion-for whatever it’s worth.

[TonyMetal86]

Thanks for your comment...

[Lance1965]

You don't have to work, it is awesome. I have played the house-husband role before and it is pure luxury compared to having to do actual hard work for 8 hours a day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U38af8UjJ6s

[TonyMetal86]

😂😂😂

[Hugemoth]

Pros - you don't have a job
Cons - you don't have a job

[TonyMetal86]

You have a point there, but according to her situation with her man...

[markjohn9696]

pros be banged cons banged