Do you think a large fancy and expensive wedding is a waste of money?

[Anonymous]

No because...

Yes because...

[xHoneyxBeex]

As someone currently planning a wedding, I think it depends. I wouldn't say it's a waste if someone actually has the ability to spend a high amount of money on their wedding. In this case, if it makes them happy and they can afford it, then it's not a waste. However, I don't believe that anyone should go into debt over a wedding. If a wedding causes a couple to get massively in debt before they have even started their life together, I would consider that to be a waste because I don't think a wedding is worth ruining your credit for. Expensive weddings can be beautiful but small, intimate weddings can be equally as beautiful. At the end of the day, it depends on the couple and their ability to pay for it.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Absolutely a waste of money, I've DJ'd and led many weddings in my life and I'll be the first to say that anything tied to the wedding industry is an outright scam built on the backs of men's money and women's whims. There is absolutely no reason that anyone should be having a traditional wedding ceremony anymore, just pay for someone you know to get licensed to officiate your wedding and have a big ass party or whatever you want at a place people actually want to be.

I'm not the biggest fan of Adam Ruins Everything because he does misconstrue a lot of information in the show and has absolutely bad takes in certain areas but this episode was solid. If you get a chance, look for the Adam Ruins Weddings episode of Adam Ruins Everything, it's very well done and has a lot of common information but also a lot of more less obvious points.

[exitseven]

It is the most wasteful thing I can think of. Besides the fact that every time you buy something for a wedding it costs twice as much, it is nothing but a scam.
My wife and I will give each of our kids the same amount of money. They can use it on a wedding or a down payment on a house or whatever they want to spend it on. I suspect they will not go crazy on a wedding.
My wife and I had a real homemade wedding. She wore her mother's wedding dress and my father in law and I remodeled their basement. My father in law felt so guilty about not spending enough money on our wedding that he bought us a washer and dryer for our first house.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Titanya]

You just feeding people that you may or may not like to talk shit and galavant around at your expense. Sometimes you dont even know half of the people or you dont care about them like that, to be there.

I feel like weddings should be intimate and personal.

There will only be a handful of people at my wedding
If I dont trust you with my life or make me happy in some way you won't get to witness such a beautiful endeavor.

[OlderAndWiser]

What are the rules for deciding whether something is "a waste?" How is "a waste" defined?

[Starrisunset]

While big expensive weddings are a great way to celebrate a very special day, I'd personally feel sick if I spent a lot of money on a wedding. If people want to spend their money that way I don't see it as a wrong thing to do but I'd rather use that money to spend towards a nice honeymoon or pay extra money towards a house.

[pleasestopthis]

Yes, a huge waste of money. I don't see the point in buying a expensive dress I'll wear once, booking an expensive place for a big party to entertain a lot of people I don't care for.
I'm a frugal person and highly introverted so I want a small wedding, with a beautiful but affordable dress, in an affordable place, with only our family and closest friends.

[pleasestopthis]

I prefer to invest that money in our honeymoon or our newlywed home.

[Dinklex3]

For me, yes.
I'd rather spend that money on a month or 2 long honeymoon, exploring making great memories and experiencing new things.

[cth96190]

Yes, because the money would be applied better to a home.

[jshm2]

Depends what you mean by large, fancy and expensive.

I've been to small expensive weddings, I've been to large cheap gypsy weddings. A wedding is a wedding and you're being a dick judging the event when you're just a guest there.

[MCheetah]

Yes. Weddings literally only exist for women. (Straight) Men don't care about them at all.

[TacosRAwesome]

Yes because it's mostly for other people and I don't like most other people.

[Aquariusmystery]

Having a small wedding is perfect. So many people I won’t have to invite lol

[Eli9400]

Wedding is about being together with friends and family. About lvoe and oficially saying we will stay together forever. It is about people. It should not be like Look I invested a huge amount of money for "party". Better to invest money into accomodation - buy your own house with garden. My opinion...

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

you never know if it will be a successful marriage or not. you just wasted a bunch of money, on a marriage that failed (75% of marriages today, wind up in divorce)

[Dchrls78104]

Yes, I do; I believe that such is a waste of time and money and no real proof of love.

[Anonymous]

Yes.
As a general rule: The more expensive the wedding, the shorter the marriage will last :)

[MrJMM]

It's just telling people how rich they are. Aka they are making a big sitch just to show off.

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it (debt free obviously) then go for it if you want it

[Iron_Man]

It seems like it but it’s really nice when your there

[anylolone]

Yes because the more you spend, the more likely you are to divorce.

[NerdyAndTall]

it just seems unnecessary

[zagor]

Yes, but it's a lot of fun for everyone else.

[jeffryrobertbabb]

It's a girl's special day, it's worth paying for.