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Huge, expensive weddings yes. You do them for the guests and not for you which itself is stupid.
Small or highly personalized weddings no.
Multiple reasons, 1. In germany because of different tax groups it can actually save you money in the long run. So money is more a plus side than a negativ.
2. It can give you a great memory that both of you share, that is all about you two. Having a wedding song allone is a way to create a beautifull memory that you can be reminded of regularly.
Also you dont need the church for a wedding. Which is stupid but yeah. I dont mind calling it wedding but thats what it is legally. It could have a different dechristianized name for all I care, but the experience and memory it creates can be worth it.
I wasn't interested in having a wedding, I just wanted to marry this guy. So he proposed and we got married the same day. My parents gave a reception for us a month later, which I tolerated because it was important to them. I did enjoy it, largely because they kept it simple and for family and close friends. But, it's really none of my business what other people decide for themselves. I enjoy weddings. My husband and I just chose to use our resources another way.
Weddings bring the whole family together. People travel a long way to a wedding and it is very memorable for most. With some thought and effort, it can be done for less than expected. The only other event that brings the family in from far off places is a funeral. So do the weddings.
Between the ceremony, reception, rings and honeymoon... it was probably about $40,000 AUD (about $30,000 USD). Our parents paid for the reception, so that was helpful, and a week of accommodation. I don't regret it. But there are cheaper ways of committing.
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I’d say extravagant or out-of-budget weddings are a waste of money. I’ve been to very cute, intimate weddings that were smartly planned and very budget friendly.
No, weddings are good for the economy. Think of all the people who make money when a wedding happens. From bakers to photographers to caterers... and others.
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Yes. Total waste. Being maried doesn' make you live much longer, make you much richer, guarantee fudelitymake you much happier.
I am managing quite well just living with my guy.
GTFO you moist bint. Weddings are marvellous affairs where two families get to join in a joyous occasion.
The problem is not weddings. It's perfidious dipshits with no family, morals or trustworthiness; trying to legitimise themselves and their ill intentions.
Then blaming "weddings" for them getting laid out.
my god. calm down💀
Marriage as a concept is overrated in general in my opinion.. It's just a piece of paper. If you're in a healthy and happy long-term relationship with someone, why do you need some lavish/fancy ceremony to formalize your union? Clearly this is done for societal/legal purposes, that's the only reason I can think of and it's a remnant of a patriarchal institution. If it makes people happy, I'm not judging them; just sharing my thoughts here
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I don't think a wedding itself is a waste of money no.
After all you don't have to spend tens of thousands of dollars or more on a wedding your making that choice to. Just like you can make the choice to only spend a moderate amount on a wedding.
I've been to many beautiful and great weddings that were done more on the cheap side.
Big weddings, yes.
Personally I’d be happy to spend some money for a wedding of about 22 people (including bride and groom). So, 10 guests each and it be just close people.
Also, my style is particular and it’s not expensive.
I’ve already looked at what a wedding of that size would cost including everything I’d want lol
I don't think that things that bring people joy are a waste of money. What's the purpose of money otherwise?
I will say, if the couple doesn't actually want a big wedding I don't think they should have to have one. The point is that it's enjoyable, if it's not then it does become wasteful.
They are if the people getting married aren't sincere about it.
These days, you get one date or one quick fuck and it's wedding bells, old shoes and rice!! 3 months later, she wants nothing to do with you!! A wedding is SUPPOSED to be FOREVER, NOT just something you do for a while on a whim!! If you can't commit, you have no business getting married!!
@Dongie Where, where?
I think its important to invest in a decent celebration. If someone tried to be as stingy as possible with a wedding, then it means they're not invested in the marriage.
But if you don't have money to even throw a decent wedding, you shouldn't be having any kids.
A decent celebration is not an extravagant celebration. Lets make this clear
what does having kids have to do with this? and what would u say is a decent celebration?
Depends how much money you have and whether you intend to stay married. Also there a big difference between a wedding and a wedding with a wedding reception.
My parents insisted they pay for our wedding reception. Yes I was a princess for the day but I wouldn't have spent that
Generally, yes, but a lot of people have money to waste. Compared to a lot of things people spend $ on, it isn't necessarily bad.
My old boss purportedly spent about $100,000 on his daughter's wedding, and that was almost 20 years ago. Probably worth it to unload her...
Especially nowadays how people are not just women. But just how it all is now it just doesn't work out at all
So please don't bother please please don't bother. You're only gonna waste your money? You're gonna break your parents hearts . All around it just isn't going to work anymore. Is everybody gonna be heart broken 💔 😕
Don't fool yourself . The last two generations killed it . Now in days it's just an illusion
The moment marriage became a governmental contract, it lost all its sense. It's still in itself a way for a woman to make sure that the man is gonna keep his promises and raise their offspring with him. Men who are against marriages here confirm my theory. Materialistic and deserve to be alone for the rest of their lives.
Its mainly allowing no fault divorce and the fact the man can get screwed over if she bails on him that make us against it. If they fixed the system and a no fault divorce is an instant loss for whoever left to where he owes nothing if she does leave it would restore the intent of making leaving a high stakes situation while simultaneously making it fair to men.
I can tell that you're exactly the type of men I'm talking about above.
That's far from a rational stance
Not wanting to have an extreme power imbalance in the relationship to where I become blackmailable is irrational? Because I pointed out the exact flaw in the system, as long as she can leave whenever she wants and be rewarded it would mean she holds all the power in the relationship. I don't like it is that way, but it is that way at least in the US. So many super loyal men who would love a balanced marriage aren't willing to put themselves in that unfair risk. Without marriage the risk of someone leaving is equal.
I'm not in the US. Even in places where there's no "power imbalance". People still abstain from marriage. If you are so worried about your money, then better marry your money and die alone. Women have been keeping up with men's bullshit for so long and now they whine at a very slight inconvenience. I'm saying this as a Catholic woman that doesn't even believe in divorce.
I care about things being fair. If a country has a fair system where if she leaves for another man she gets nothing from me (or I get her belongings if its truly 50:50 income and an equal system) then its way different. Because the whole point of marriage is that you stick to it and that there are consequences if you don't. I like that principle a lot. I just don't like the idea of getting punished if a partner is disloyal. If the country in question does not have that issue either trough sensible laws or sensible judges then i'd be in favor of marrying.
In India, marriage is compulsory. And small weddings are discouraged. People take loans to marry off their daughters. It's like iphone here, you use it to show your status and power, which is very important in a country driven by communities
well good thing im not in india then🤷♀️
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Some weddings? Yes. You don't need the biggest and most in-demand venue, you don't need some tropical destination or cruise or whatever. My wife and I spent a total of $8,000 on ours.
So weddings in general? No.
Fancy weddings are definitely a waste of money. I only spent 50$ for my marriage license. That was it. Everything else i had or was free
Most weddings are not a waste of money. However, some people spend $10,000 to more than $100,000 on a wedding, and that does appear to be excessive.
objectively, but no one works like that lol
if its worth it to a couple and it'll be a special memory, then it wouldn't be to them
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For the most part, yes. A gathering of friends and family does not need to cost much. I find it largely acceptable though. One time experience.
well so is a lot of things, we dont celebrate everything else u do once in ur life?
Perhaps acceptable made it seem I support it. As far as I am concerned, it could all be done at a fraction of the cost without losing any of the meaning.
But in the case it is important to have the pomp and expenditure for a hypothetical partner I do not mind. So agree it is mostly a waste, but we do a lot of things that are not for us but the person we are with. Don't even get me started on wedding rings.
110 % guaranteed they are
Plus a complete rip off , it you have to do it ( later ) do it in an inexpensive manner.
If you can afford it, nothing is a waste of money.
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Personally no I don't... However as always, it's simply one's own preference.
Having a wedding isn’t too dissimilar from throwing a birthday party, spend as much as you like and have the celebration you want.
No. When you’re ready to get married, a wedding is a wonderful thing.
even if it costs a million dollars?
I wouldn’t pay a million dollars for a wedding
thats what you’ll have to pay ig u want a big wedding🤷♀️
You can get a decent wedding for like $100,000. And yes, I would pay that.
if u have a small family and use cheap stuff🤷♀️
No. You can get nice stuff with $100K. It will be a small wedding though. If you wanna invite like 500 friends it’ll cost you more.
Only 5% of Americans have a net worth of $1 million, and that’s counting real estate. They’re not blowing it all on one wedding.
yeah obviously
who cares ab americans?
Never mind
Oh yes, of course! You'll need to save that money later for the divorce!
Big time waste of money, and I don't get the whole concept of marrying either. Why can't a couple just live together. Why do they need to write a contract which often ends in disaster?
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Yup, because you can also invest that money in your future together.
Yes, I'd rather just be married, skip the wedding party and honeymoon trip, and go straight to the everyday married couple part of it.
I said no, but it's not the wedding that's expensive, it's the reception, and that is a huge waste of money. Save that for a nice vacation or a down payment on a house.
yes, they are a rip off too. Anything that has to do with a wedding costs twice as much.
For me yes for most women I think no. It's really sacrifice you make for them.
what?
A lot of men are an interested in having a big wedding and a lot of women are interested in it and want to spend the money for it. So as a man it's a sacrifice you make for her.
A lot of men *aren't* interested in having a big wedding...
or js meet in the middle? she's a grown woman (i hope) that can accept that nobody really cares
Nahh... I love to make sacrifices for my girl. It's part of what a man does for a woman. And if she loves him she does the same for him.
sure js dont come whining ab it later🤷♀️
🤣 I probably will! Especially if we're having a fight!
Common courtesy dictates "Yes" goes first and "No" goes second.
At least I clicked the correct answer this time.
the one that they had in Italy for $50 million was a joke but I want you to get married one day and don’t worry about the money

Someday maybe? 🤔
Yes. Save the money for a down payment on a house or an automobile.
hey definitely can be. but they can also just be like any other party.
Its like giving your date flowers upped to the extreme. Its a unfalsifiable costly signal.
So whether its a waste or not is subjective.
Yes. It is like celebrating a suicide ritual at least for the man.
if marriage is so awful for men, why do they still get married?
@chocolatetwopointtwo its totally waste of money , same as expensive diamond ring
Do you suggest going before a justice of the peace or just shacking up?
Totally. I knew someone who spent $10,000 on a wedding and then she got divorced a couple years later
They are not a waste of money, unless they are too extravagant.
To a certain degree.. not gonna go overboard for one day, but also you want to make it special.
I'm against the signature made at the wedding.
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No I don't Agee
why?
well a holiday lasts longer than a party, why waste sm money for only one day when u can spread it?
sometimes i do tho?💀
Yes and without doubt
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If I need the money, then yes
Not if you have a wedding you can afford
It depends on your religious values.
if it winds up in divorce, of course
Like I have that kind of money.
Weddings is actually waste of everything
We should make wedding less expensive.
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Mine sure was
Yes, I agree.
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Nope I dont agree
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Yes agree 👍
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