Waste of money!!! Forget about impressing people. Use the money for a really nice honeymoon.
In my case, my wife had a good friend who lived in a condo complex with a really nice community room with big windows facing a pond. She reserved it for free. Some friends decorated it. Lots of friends brought amazing food and it was laid out nicely. I bought a wonderful cake and paid for a really good, professional saxophone player as well as a stipend for the lay minister who was also a friend. The whole thing cost us practically nothing, but it was an absolutely wonderful event full of family and friends.
The next day, we flew from California to New England at the peak of the fall season and had the most magical 10 day long honeymoon.
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Whether it is worth it depends on many factors.
Is this a first wedding for either bride or groom?
What can you afford?
How big is your family?
Do you have expectations from your family about a wedding?
Will your family help you to pay for the wedding?
Will you feel cheated or deprived if you do not have a "fancy" wedding?
Will you regret spending money for a wedding five years from now?
I think it depends on you. If you can afford a wedding and think having an expensive wedding will make you very happy - then go have your expensive wedding. Me personally, I don't want an expensive wedding when I get married. I would rather elope or invite only my future's husbands friends and none of my own. I've had many opportunities to make friends but I don't take them cause I want to save money.
Personally, I don’t like the idea of having a big wedding. I rather have the most significant/important people in my life & the life of my so and share that moment with them. Only with those that will be authentically happy for you. The rest of that money, could’ve spend in our future plans or our honeymoon. 🤷🏻♀️
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Depends who is paying for it. My future father in law is footing the bill.
I mean for a couple starting out and wanting to start a family wasting about ten years of working to save up enough money or taking out a massive loan that they will be tied to for years paying it and the intrest off is stupid and crazy for what will be one big party.A wedding should only be expensive enough that it's pleasant and memorable for everyone involved. Good music, good food, drinks, no more than about 150 guests, and a large enough dance floor. Too expensive ($8000 dress, 6 bridesmaids) is more a matter of showing off, and that's a waste of money.
I think there's a worth it expensive and there's just excessive. If you have a large family for example weddings will be expensive since it's not just your own celebration but your family as well. Paying for really expensive extravagant wedding stuff is more excessive. It's a want than a need in a party
A waste of money. I guess it really depends on how important you think a wedding is. I personally don't really care for it except as a way to avoid future paperwork. If you want to spend a lot of money on something wedding related, spend it on your honeymoon. At least you get to see some interesting things you usually wouldn't.
Depends on where you spend the money. If it is expensive for decorations then yes, it is a waste. If you go out of budget because you prefer to invite a few more people who will share your happiness, then no. I come from a big family. And by big I mean that at my wedding there are going to be at least 250people from my side only. Friends and colleagues not counted in. So my wedding WILL be expensive. But for a good reason... so I wouldn't call it a waste.
I'm a little surprised at how most people are calling weddings a waste of money. You only live once and I don't believe in a God/afterlife so all I have in this existence is the sum of all of my experiences. A wedding/marriage is a 1.3 times in a life event so that pretty much constitutes a weeding as a "major" event in your life so why not make it something memorable?
I chose poorly and had a horrible marriage (and divorce) but that wedding I threw? Man, that was fantastic.Definitely a waste in my opinion. Maybe because I’m older now I see it as a silly thing to spend so much money on something that you can only enjoy for one day. When I was younger I wanted a huge wedding. I would rather get married in the courthouse and go on a month long honeymoon somewhere exciting and exotic. I’m also not in to diamonds. Its such a waste for me, a plain thin gold band is way more sentimental to me than a huge flashy diamond.
I think it is a waste of money. Some people go out of their budget to impress the guests or family members or even the media.
Rather than spending so much money on a wedding party, I would rather have a simple one with the closest ones and use the rest of the money for what is needed in the future.A waste of money. I wouldn't want anything to fancy and I'd have about 35 - 40 guests as I'd like it to be very private. As most people I see in my relatives photos they had professionally done they themselves don't even recall most of the people that attended the after party. I don't like the idea of people who don't know me personally just treating it as a day out for some free food and alcohol.
Expensive weddings are huge wastes of money. Unless my future fiance's parents are very wealthy (in which they most likely wouldn't approve of someone like me in the first place), and they want an expensive wedding for their daughter, I will go for the cheapest possible venue I can find.
Some people want the fairy tale start.
Some people can afford an expensive wedding (or have parents that can).
Personally, I feel loading down a new marriage with vast amounts of debt is rather silly.My wedding was pretty big with too much elaborated events leading to the reception day.
All I could remember I was so exhausted with little sleep, I did not enjoy my own wedding haha!!
Thankfully we hired a photographer so at least the in photos I look like I was happy when truthfully I just wanted to sleep.Everything is relative. If you make a lot of money then the expense would be small to you but seem large to people with less money.
The problem is when people borrow money or use all of their money since a wedding isn’t an investmentIt's a waste of money. Unless you're a millionaire, you can have a small wedding with about 20 people themed or not themed, however you like it, within the bounds of say... 2500$. Food and entertainment for the guests you can provide yourself without some stupid agency to rip you off.
I think it's a waste of money, I see some people spend hundreds if thousands of dollars on their weddings. My mum got married in the lounge with only my grandparents there to witness it lol. I think a nice backyard wedding would be enough for me
If you have tons of money, suure. If you're barely making it financially and you're just gonna end up putting yourself in debt for one day, absolutely not.
Nope expensive weddings aren't worth it i rather just go to the local Church
say our vowels and that would be it and everyone meet at the local Fire Hall
for a luncheon or small get together with food nothing major.There is no point to a large wedding.
There is no relationship that will benefit from not having the money used on the wedding for more important things.Eeey! I want a big fat luxurious wedding with 1000 guest. I don’t care what anyone says! 👍🤣🥰
My experience has been that every dollar that was spent on my big wedding is a dollar I wish I'd had for something else later.
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