Is it Worth having an Expensive wedding or is it a Waste of Money?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Waste of money!!! Forget about impressing people. Use the money for a really nice honeymoon.

In my case, my wife had a good friend who lived in a condo complex with a really nice community room with big windows facing a pond. She reserved it for free. Some friends decorated it. Lots of friends brought amazing food and it was laid out nicely. I bought a wonderful cake and paid for a really good, professional saxophone player as well as a stipend for the lay minister who was also a friend. The whole thing cost us practically nothing, but it was an absolutely wonderful event full of family and friends.

The next day, we flew from California to New England at the peak of the fall season and had the most magical 10 day long honeymoon.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Whether it is worth it depends on many factors.

Is this a first wedding for either bride or groom?
What can you afford?
How big is your family?
Do you have expectations from your family about a wedding?
Will your family help you to pay for the wedding?
Will you feel cheated or deprived if you do not have a "fancy" wedding?
Will you regret spending money for a wedding five years from now?

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on you. If you can afford a wedding and think having an expensive wedding will make you very happy - then go have your expensive wedding. Me personally, I don't want an expensive wedding when I get married. I would rather elope or invite only my future's husbands friends and none of my own. I've had many opportunities to make friends but I don't take them cause I want to save money.

Iwant2kno · Accepted Answer

Personally, I don’t like the idea of having a big wedding. I rather have the most significant/important people in my life & the life of my so and share that moment with them. Only with those that will be authentically happy for you. The rest of that money, could’ve spend in our future plans or our honeymoon. 🤷🏻‍♀️

White-American89 · Answer

Depends who is paying for it. My future father in law is footing the bill.
I mean for a couple starting out and wanting to start a family wasting about ten years of working to save up enough money or taking out a massive loan that they will be tied to for years paying it and the intrest off is stupid and crazy for what will be one big party.

Is it Worth having an Expensive wedding or is it a Waste of Money?

MarkRet · Answer

A wedding should only be expensive enough that it's pleasant and memorable for everyone involved. Good music, good food, drinks, no more than about 150 guests, and a large enough dance floor. Too expensive ($8000 dress, 6 bridesmaids) is more a matter of showing off, and that's a waste of money.

Florancerose404 · Answer

A waste of money. I wouldn't want anything to fancy and I'd have about 35 - 40 guests as I'd like it to be very private. As most people I see in my relatives photos they had professionally done they themselves don't even recall most of the people that attended the after party. I don't like the idea of people who don't know me personally just treating it as a day out for some free food and alcohol.

joyjoy123 · Answer

I think there's a worth it expensive and there's just excessive. If you have a large family for example weddings will be expensive since it's not just your own celebration but your family as well. Paying for really expensive extravagant wedding stuff is more excessive. It's a want than a need in a party

Dreagon · Answer

A waste of money. I guess it really depends on how important you think a wedding is. I personally don't really care for it except as a way to avoid future paperwork. If you want to spend a lot of money on something wedding related, spend it on your honeymoon. At least you get to see some interesting things you usually wouldn't.

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

Depends on where you spend the money. If it is expensive for decorations then yes, it is a waste. If you go out of budget because you prefer to invite a few more people who will share your happiness, then no. I come from a big family. And by big I mean that at my wedding there are going to be at least 250people from my side only. Friends and colleagues not counted in. So my wedding WILL be expensive. But for a good reason... so I wouldn't call it a waste.

jp612612 · Answer

I'm a little surprised at how most people are calling weddings a waste of money. You only live once and I don't believe in a God/afterlife so all I have in this existence is the sum of all of my experiences. A wedding/marriage is a 1.3 times in a life event so that pretty much constitutes a weeding as a "major" event in your life so why not make it something memorable?

I chose poorly and had a horrible marriage (and divorce) but that wedding I threw? Man, that was fantastic.

zeekitten26 · Answer

Definitely a waste in my opinion. Maybe because I’m older now I see it as a silly thing to spend so much money on something that you can only enjoy for one day. When I was younger I wanted a huge wedding. I would rather get married in the courthouse and go on a month long honeymoon somewhere exciting and exotic. I’m also not in to diamonds. Its such a waste for me, a plain thin gold band is way more sentimental to me than a huge flashy diamond.

cheekiestpanda · Answer

I think it is a waste of money. Some people go out of their budget to impress the guests or family members or even the media.

Rather than spending so much money on a wedding party, I would rather have a simple one with the closest ones and use the rest of the money for what is needed in the future.

young_old_soul · Answer

Expensive weddings are huge wastes of money. Unless my future fiance's parents are very wealthy (in which they most likely wouldn't approve of someone like me in the first place), and they want an expensive wedding for their daughter, I will go for the cheapest possible venue I can find.

Anonymous · Answer

My wedding was pretty big with too much elaborated events leading to the reception day.

All I could remember I was so exhausted with little sleep, I did not enjoy my own wedding haha!!

Thankfully we hired a photographer so at least the in photos I look like I was happy when truthfully I just wanted to sleep.

hahahmm · Answer

Everything is relative. If you make a lot of money then the expense would be small to you but seem large to people with less money.

The problem is when people borrow money or use all of their money since a wedding isn’t an investment

mrArcher · Answer

It's a waste of money. Unless you're a millionaire, you can have a small wedding with about 20 people themed or not themed, however you like it, within the bounds of say... 2500$. Food and entertainment for the guests you can provide yourself without some stupid agency to rip you off.

madgoat · Answer

Some people want the fairy tale start.
Some people can afford an expensive wedding (or have parents that can).
Personally, I feel loading down a new marriage with vast amounts of debt is rather silly.

Lauren-green · Answer

I think it's a waste of money, I see some people spend hundreds if thousands of dollars on their weddings. My mum got married in the lounge with only my grandparents there to witness it lol. I think a nice backyard wedding would be enough for me

ghostqueen · Answer

If you have tons of money, suure. If you're barely making it financially and you're just gonna end up putting yourself in debt for one day, absolutely not.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Nope expensive weddings aren't worth it i rather just go to the local Church
say our vowels and that would be it and everyone meet at the local Fire Hall
for a luncheon or small get together with food nothing major.

realitymode · Answer

There is no point to a large wedding. There is no relationship that will benefit from not having the money used on the wedding for more important things.

Anjali090 · Answer

Eeey! I want a big fat luxurious wedding with 1000 guest. I don’t care what anyone says! 👍🤣🥰

MlleCake · Answer

My experience has been that every dollar that was spent on my big wedding is a dollar I wish I'd had for something else later.

Cold_hearth · Answer

I think it's pointless to have a huge ass wedding only to end up being divorced after a couple years. It should neither be too extreme nor too lame.

mistixs · Answer

Waste of money for one day. Save the money to improve the marriage itself, not the wedding

PondyPand · Answer

It's worth it if the people think it is. Some people don't need extravagance to hold memories dear. Others do.

Anonymous · Answer

I personally don’t see the need for a massive wedding. I’d rather keep the focus on us two getting married in front of our loved ones, so anything else should just fit around that with a theme that means something to us.

SkipStop · Answer

Any wedding is a waste of money. And that includes the dress. It's nothing special. Marriage doesn't mean anything good these days.

A-man-22 · Answer

Waste, marriage and weddings are pointless.

A bond with a massive red escape button for your wife and a large hole in your pocket.

You don't need all this to show you love someone, there are other ways to do that.

Neelie1x · Answer

Start with extravagance and you will be lulled into being a spendthrift. Start with frugality, and you will put money aside for the future.

Kas19 · Answer

Weddings are kinda stupid in my opinion. Big weddings I mean. So yeah, I say a waste of money.

chriss · Answer

It's like the same thing as partying so it's a waste of money

ariadneR · Answer

I've talked about this with my boyfriend. I'd much rather a small wedding and travel the world for my honeymoon, than big wedding no honeymoon

Anonymous · Answer

Why waste all the money on an expensive wedding when the only people who are having fun is the guests while your worrying about the expenses of the wedding and what a waste of money

humanearth · Answer

Waste of money. You dont even need a marriage licence. To be honest. Its something the law made up so they can get your money

Iron_Man · Answer

That's really the wife's responsibility of her parents to take care of it though that's the tradition in the United States of America but they are very expensive.

thelokisniper · Answer

A wedding is supposed to be about the beginning of a life bond not the ceremony. You can have the smallest wedding and have good solid marriage until death. The ceremony is just an accessory.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I think it's a waste of time and money. It doesn't show love and it doesn't guarantee that the marriage will last or be happy. A simpler, cheaper wedding is better.

Browneye57 · Answer

The amount of money spent on the ceremony is in direct proportion to the percentage chance it will fail. The more spent, the more chance it will fail.

Renee93 · Answer

Total waste, for a few hours and most of it is to impress others it's not because couple's personally want what all of what they're doing.

xkforcesc2 · Answer

The statistics are pretty clear that the more expensive the wedding adjusted for income, the shorter the marriage. you're far better off with a small wedding and putting money toward a house or experiences like travel.

GiveMeAllTheCookies · Answer

Waste of money. But who am I to judge how someone else spends their money.

Anonymous · Answer

I believe in traditional weddings. As in her parents can waste as much money as they want on it, and I'll be expecting a decent dowry as well. Otherwise, I'm staying single.

Shuri · Answer

It’s worth it if you think it is. I wouldn’t want something large and expensive personally, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing if someone does.

Massageman · Answer

You can have a very nice wedding and blow the budget. Over-extravagence is a waste.

My daughters both bartered for some services, had relatively affordable dresses, etc. and saved a lot of money for other things.

Evil_Chuck · Answer

I'd like to say you can't put a price on a lady's happiness, but realistically, yes. It's a spectacular waste of money.

RedThread · Answer

Waste. Invest it in a house and the future for you both.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Weddings are far too expensive, but usually not as expensive as the likely divorce.

Agem123 · Answer

Oh, if I'm marrying the love of my life it is a once in a lifetime thing so I would prefer a big, expensive wedding.

Anonymous · Answer

if you can afford it, then I don't see why not? suit yourself bro, you only live once.

2shredded · Answer

Fucking huge waste lmao. Getting married and the wedding 😂

Vesta · Answer

Def. not worth it. 75% of marriage wind up in divorce

Twenty2 · Answer

Waste of money. Marriages should be exclusive and small.

esotericstory · Answer

i think its a waste of money since most marriages end up in divorces because of money problems.

LuWe22 · Answer

Waste a money. I prefer a small close Wedding with my family

HereIbe · Answer

Total waste. Total and complete waste. That money is spent to entertain EVERYONE ELSE. Fuck 'em.

lacaras · Answer

Waste, I'd rather have a small wedding with just family and then a nice after party with friends

Hurdleez-Swampede · Answer

No wedding is worth $10K or more. People can get a respectable wedding for $500 or less.

ashley1996 · Answer

Waste. Probably end up divorced anyway

Flower7 · Answer

I think it's a waste. It's only one day

Paris13 · Answer

Keep it Within $6ooo. xxoo

TheBootyChest · Answer

It's a waste if you use all expensive items.

GraveDoll · Answer

waste rather spend it on the honey moon.

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