Is it a good idea to invite your ex to your wedding?

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This way you can announce to them that you have moved on from the past affair. Or you think this might open wounds that have healed?

VinnyMac · Accepted Answer

The show How I Met Your Mother taught me that it is never a good idea to invite an ex to your wedding and foolish as well to suggest that your partner let one of there exes come. Nobody wants to be left at the altar, get embarrassed in front of their friends and family or have to deal with any drama on their special day. A wedding is the beginning of a marriage and hopefully a long and happy life together.

If you really feel as if you and your ex are close friends, but simply no longer romantically involved maybe it would be easier to invite them to your reception. There's a whole different energy for a reception and usually people simply have a good meal, drink, dance and party with oneanother. By then you're already married and you can all just have a good time without everybody watching as you say your I does.

nitsuj86 · Accepted Answer

Lol... how do I make sure this guy knows that I have moved on... that thought alone should make you pause. If you have to tell someone you have moved on, then you haven't.

It's either to "show him what he missed out on" in which case, you still love him and shouldn't be getting married. Or it's to get him to move on from you. Which inviting him to your wedding would not only be insulting but very dangerous if he actually shows up.

No, it's not a good idea. And you know that. It's disrespectful to your future spouse, and if you have truly moved on. You should be focused on your husband, and your future lives. Your closure is bullsit. Move on or don't get married.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Even though I ended amicably with my ex, I wouldn't ever think to invite him to my wedding. We ended our relationship for a reason, and part of ending that is learning to move on and be with other people whom you feel love or like you the way it is you deserve. I would also never want to give off the appearance or rubbing my relationship in his face by inviting him to see "just how happy I am now without him." I think it's just best to move on. My best friend however invited 2 of her exes to her wedding, but both she'd dated in college, and it was years later, one was married, and the other in a long term relationship, and they'd stayed friends...so it can work for some people.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not. It’s passive aggressive, in some way.
Unless you have a child together and are co-parenting, or agree that you are only remaining friends, I see absolutely no other reason to invite them.
If you share a child with your ex and are coparenting, it’s fine to invite your ex only because of the child.
And if you are only remaining friends and accepted that you two both loved on, it’s fine, but still odd.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you have moved on, then your ex is no longer a part of your life. Having a female ex at a wedding only takes attention away from the bride on the day that is supposed to belong to her.

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

Usually no, but it all depends on your relationship with your ex. My dad’s ex girlfriend was at his wedding and it was fine because she also had a husband and they dated when they were like 18, so it wasn’t that significant or problematic for her to come.

Prezzi3 · Answer

I feel like when you broke up with your ex and started a whole relationship, that was enough announcement to your ex. I think it is weird to invite your ex to your wedding. If your partner is okay with it and you are okey with it, it’s your choice. I just don’t see any good reasons why that should happen.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Sounds like you haven’t moved on if you’re trying to prove DURING YOUR WEDDING that you “moved on”

KatieB713 · Answer

It depends on the relationship you have with your ex, but have you spoken to your partner about it as they could have thoughts on it

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

No that's dumb. If you have to invite them to your wedding to prove you've moved on then you haven't moved on

Miristheiss · Answer

No. They may show up and I would guess many partners do not want their fiance's ex's at their wedding.

bones_20 · Answer

If that’s the reason for wanting to invite them, then I’d say it’s not a good idea.

Staximus · Answer

How about get over your ex first before you get married? You're still thinking about them and have not moved on, which is not fair to the guy you are going to marry.

Flower7 · Answer

No, an ex has no place at someone’s wedding, for more reasons than I’m able to list.

clampfan101 · Answer

I’d ask my fiancée what she thought if my ex and I were still friends. If my ex never let us be friends, she could just continue being outside of my life.

Cherry234 · Answer

That's bad news. Your ex has no place at your wedding.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If you're thinking about inviting this person to your wedding, then it doesn't sound like you've really moved on.

exitseven · Answer

No way. She would probably get drunk and make a scene.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Only if they're still an active part of your social group and it doesn't make sense not to.

jahaims · Answer

That is immature. Shouldn't even care what your ex thinks

Anonymous · Answer

that's hilarious. and hilarious to think that they'd even show up.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm going to my exs wedding and couldnt be more than happy for the two of them

Anonymous · Answer

I don't get why anyone would even think of doing this🤦🏽‍♀️ unless they happen to be linked to your friends/family in some way which is unfortunate. But even then.

GMANN56 · Answer

I'm thinking that invites to other people you have fucked should be held to a minimum.

Shy_Steve · Answer

If your not really friendly with them it's probably not a good idea.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

That’s like offering to take someone out to eat and expecting them to pay

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Thats probably a bad idea unless you guys are just friends

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Nah that’s just weird tbh

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s up to her if she wants to come

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Bad idea

Desconhecida · Answer

That's a big risk

skyeee_ · Answer

nooo dont

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds fun try it

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