What's your opinion of an open marriage?

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luminiferous · Accepted Answer

It's a stupid excuse made by people to sleep around, while still having someone responsible for their emotions and bills.
Even though i dislike Polygamy, it's still more logical than the open marriages. Because at least the people are married, they share responsibilities and its less likely to get diseases.
Look at the statistics more than 90% of open marriages fail and more than 80% of people in those relationships experience jealousy.
Open marriages are an excuse to cheat without looking like an ass and still keeping your spouse around for your other needs.
I'm so tired of people following animalistic instincts.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

How about in that case you converted to FLDS go live in Utah and become a polygamist. Other then that no don't even bother getting married. What is the point of your just going to be bouncing from dude to dude. God I didn't realize how shelter I was until I came into this site.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

The man is a fucking loser and going to be made the butt of every joke. Its morally wrong and his moral failings will lead to "cuck angst" where he will explode in some nonsensical fashion like Will Smith just did. This is why i won't hang out with them, they can be dangerous in unexpected ways I've seen this happen with guys more than just on tv, one stabbed someone with a pen so i just avoid their morally corrupt and violent outburts, they are bad people. Their wives are fun to have sex with though as long as i dont even have to meet the POS loser husband.

oh_k789 · Accepted Answer

It will be fruitful, and sustainable, to people who can sustain freedom. Which goes far beyond being at liberty for a while in some things.
There is a book, a worthy one, written some 160 (or about that) years ago, where they say such people is one in ten thousand.
Perhaps it's one in one thousand. Perhaps one in five hundred.
It's highly unlikely it will work in a positive, life-improving, lasting way. And at the same time, there's nothing, probably, wrong with that in principle.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not a true marriage then because marriage is supposed to be a loyal committed relationship. If two people have no responsibility or obligation of exclusivity or loyalty, there is no reason to be married. An open relationship isn't really much of a relationship at all if it is just one of your multiple sexual or romantic partners. That also means the relationship has to have significant emotional detachment for people to be able to sleep around and avoid jealousy. Many open relationships are just excuses for one partner who isn't satisfied with their significant other to cheat with permission without getting in trouble. If two people mutually agree to sleep with others, fine. However being unfaithful literally goes against the meaning of marriage so people who are not even exclusive have no reason to marry whatsoever.

ZackBan · Answer

Doesn't exist, it's another liberal utopia.
Personally I'm not a fan of marriage altogether but if I was I'd want it to mean something.
That being said if a married couple came to me and the woman expressed interest to which the man had no objections i would gladly take part in the whole thing but my potential wife is off limits

TANMAN55555 · Answer

I have a good buddy with low libido
he gave me the option to have sex with his girlfriend
i trust this guy and he showed he trusts me
i felt very loved and respected and the girl was down for having me part of their relationship

while i have not flowed through with it
i understand there are situations and i appreciate the offer when presented
although i wouldn't want my wife having sex with anyone else
there's no reason for that

Lionman95 · Answer

There may be it will work out with but I´m none of them, I don´t see much of a reason besides maybe juridical and tax advantages to be married in the first place if you want to see other people for sex also.
From my point of view it contradicts my definition of a marriage hence there is no special emotional bond between two people because they both have intimacy with others.
But if it works for you than give it a try.

TheorionMage · Answer

BEEN THERE, done that... IN ALL THREE ROLES.
Call it what it really is...
a revolving 'Friends With Benefits'

The 'tricky' part is assuring ALL participating are disease-free and
responsibly using birth control. RECREATIONAL sexuality is JUST that.
Friendly with ongoing 'intimate' massage.

MecheD · Answer

Different strokes for different folks truly. For me I just couldn't I'm very attentive and to me learning someone is a strenuous thing to do. How she likes this, what happens when I do this... etc. With that behavior I would be expecting the same in return. I feel if the marriage was open it would cause more damage than it would benefits. I would constantly be bettering myself for the wrong reasons. I go hard for mine and I would like her to go hard for me.

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

Could be fun, needs some serious ground rules up-front too... even then, might cause some problems so not for everyone. But as far as I'm concerned, it's the lying and sneaking around that makes "cheating" such a "bad-thing" Also, helps if the couple (s) in question have Dom/sub leanings to keep the relationship roles functional and defined.

TrueConfection · Answer

I've heard of some that work (swingers and what not) with rules that both people respect.

Personally, it could never work for me. I'd be jealous and I'd be disappointed that my husband didn't mind me seeing other men.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Why even get married at all if you want to fuck others on the side? Seems like a total waste of time. If you really want bang other dudes, then w/e go for it. Those dudes aren't gonna complain, but I would never marry a woman who wanted to fuck other men. I wouldn't even live with her. That's a friends with benefits arrangement and should not be taken seriously.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a fake pretend marriage for people who can't commit or stay loyal, but still want to say that they're married. It's basically an insult to real married people.
Some also use it as an excuse to sleep around and keep a Cuckold to pay the bills and watch the kids.

honeynut-scenarios · Answer

Hell to the no. What’s mine is mine, but if you’re all for it then more power to ya

BrickBiggems · Answer

It's like smoking at a gas pump. You may think it will work but eventually  it will blow up in your face

VanniusSella · Answer

I know some people who've made one work, but the majority of folks I know who've tried it just can't make it work. Three couples went back to being monogamous (including mine), two ended in divorce. The one that worked had so many rules and so much red tape that it sounded to me more like a business relationship than a marriage. It's a great fantasy, but I've never seen the fantasy become reality in the way everyone expects.

Derekk · Answer

Personally I can not be satisfied until at least 50% of Kansas has been inside of my wife. Great question thanks for asking :)

slatyb · Answer

It's like any other consensual adult behavior. I don't have an opinion.  Could I be in an open marriage? Maybe, I don't know. It would be easier if my wife wanted to also see women.

wagsingle · Answer

LOL at the religious fascist rantings. Seriously folks, if it's not your thing, just don't do it. But live and let live.

Matthew812 · Answer

I was in a open marriage for 21 of28 years, that ended as freinds , and close contact for 3yrs after. We were best friend's for all of it, almost all of it.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I can't see the reason for even getting married if you want the freedom to have sex with others. What's the point?

Anonymous · Answer

I see it as an option. I had sex without emotional attachment plenty of times to know I don't be default mix sex and feelings. If my man can do that to then down the line (like after 15-20 years together) opening up could be worth exploring.

RobT312 · Answer

Relationships are personal. If it works then it works. I don’t think “open” would work for me but a committed threesome may work for me

kuladiamond · Answer

i dont really think it can work, if you ask for an open relationship you might aswell get a divorce

EmmaMary · Answer

Personally I'm absolutely dead against it and fortunately so is my husband.

Anonymous · Answer

It makes no sense. why would they get married then if they want to see other people

Mofunfour20 · Answer

If that's the case there's no point in getting married, unless you're a woman

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Once it's open, it's not a marriage.  Once it's a marriage, it's not open. The term is an oxymoron. For more information on this, consult Will and Jada Smith.

llorando · Answer

Not something I'd ever be interested in, but if a married couple are both open and OK with an open marriage, none of my business to tell them they can't.

Cubus · Answer

If you don't want it to be exclusive then why do you bother with marriage then?

Texas2stepper · Answer

Thou shalt not commit adultery. One of the Ten Commandments. Otherwise there will be misery. It’s called human nature.

bolverk · Answer

Not a good idea, I've seen it totally wreck marriages when one partner gets jealous of the attention the other partner is receiving.

exitseven · Answer

Maybe it is good for some people I could not do it.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Noooooo thank you. I wouldn't want any part of that.

Nagatoro · Answer

Why even get married? Might as well just stay single and fuck around.

myabe123 · Answer

That defeats the point of marriage. Just get a divorce or have a friends with benefits

Subarugirl · Answer

It's not for everyone, but as long as they are all consenting adults, there shouldn't be an issue.

Guanfei · Answer

That's a big no. Either I'm enough for you, or you can leave, I'm not sharing my wife with anyone.

Chattyguy44 · Answer

No thanks, marriage is 1 to 1 thats it, m/f, f/f, m/m thats it

888theGreat · Answer

You end up here !

Staximus · Answer

Why even get married if you're going to screw around on each other?

Luopio27 · Answer

If all sides are cool with it, why not let them enjoy their rights and freedoms.

crmoore · Answer

Not for me but I don't oppose other people doing it

Better_off_here · Answer

i do not understand it at all. if you wanna sleep around then do it on your own time. i think anyone that does it is just wrong.

tallcuck · Answer

It is a house share not marriage. But better than leaving after few years if it lasts it is ok...

Waldoe · Answer

I love Open marriages... as Long as I am not the husband...

xJayleenx · Answer

That’s a terrible idea I wouldn’t be able to stay in a marriage like that

EnglishEuropean · Answer

If you can deal with it, fine. It wouldn't be for me.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I couldn't do the MFM thing... But yes i could do the FMF one.

Anonymous · Answer

An open marriage is a failed marriage, end of story, end of discussion. Its pathetic.

Redhead999 · Answer

Somebody always ends up getting hurt

Anonymous · Answer

Don't get married in the first place if you need an "open marriage".

Anonymous · Answer

Makes more sense to not be married because a lot of unmarried couples aren't even open

RasmusAiken · Answer

An open marriage is not a marriage at all.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Rubbish. It's absolute rubbish.

Now_Here · Answer

Disgusting. A big 'no' for me.

artstatues · Answer

They're really not for me  Ewww

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It's not a real marriage.

RealMarek · Answer

It rarely works and it certainly is not for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Pointless. Why bother even being married?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If it works for those involved good for them

girlwithglasses01 · Answer

why get married in the first place then?

Kelly6 · Answer

I’m in open marriage and it works fine

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