What is your opinion on having an open marriage?

[Tracker1958]

Lately it seems that I am hearing a lot of women promoting open marriage and polymory in their marriage. I can't wrap my head around how this is okay with people, especially with men. Who is the father to her kids? Who pays the child support? In my days , thing of value doesn't get shared with other people, this is a sick world people are making for their kids to live in. What is the reason to get married if you want a relationship with someone else. I am ready to get off this rock we call earth. People put no value on relationships and marriage anymore. From what I have seen, it seems to be more of the women pushing for this than men. Women can find a man to have sex with so easy but men have to work hard to get a woman to have sex with him. This one of the main reasons I think people should stop getting married or into a relationship. What is your opinion on this subject.

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Should both get sterilized before starting this kind of lifestyle?

[bamesjond0069]

The funny thing is this is exacerbating the sexual market place. Now there are even MORE available women for sex so men will have even less pressure or reason to marry or commit in any way.

Then the top men will get even more women, which now as part of polyamory it will be acceptable for women to share a man. But ofc top men don't need to share their women.

We're clearly heading towards the polygyny and war of olden days. Where you will see some men with many wives, wife hood being a sign of property, and most men having only prostitutes (that are pimped by the top men), and old women and ugly women to mingle with.

[Tracker1958]

A lot of men are going MGTOW so they will never get caught up with child support for another man's kids.

[bamesjond0069]

Yes but there generation's will be bred out. Where men who figure it out will be the one producing the entire next generation.

[loveslongnails]

If both parties want it, more power to them. Here's my observations about marriage, so far, because I've a lot of living left to do, I hope:

"Most" women seem to equate love/marriage with fidelity first and foremost, with sex being a grand and magical thing that she gifts to you, followed by a whole list of other things that prove you love her.

Most men seem to equate love/marriage with providing for the woman/family as best they can, having enough sex to satisfy them but don't put sex on a golden pedestal, followed by their own list of things they want you to give them to prop up their ego.

I think the problem is self-explanatory? LOL

[KansasX]

I first heard of polymory when I was 15. Give it another 10 years and marriage will no longer be anything normal.

As for me (because I am not perfect) I am now on my 9th partner, and I have been with him for two years now. NO WAY WOULD WE EVER do this stuff, it's just not for us, even if we both have had multiple partners.

[Tracker1958]

If you both have multiple partners is the same thing as an open relationship or marriage.

[KansasX]

We have been together for two years now, and we don't have an open relationship. My other 8 partners were from 2002 to 2020.

[Tracker1958]

Which one of them are you going to let father your kids, it's never the husband's who is the father, it's always one of your ex boyfriends.

[KansasX]

well I had an abortion with one of them a few years ago. I wouldn't let him be a father.

[Tracker1958]

MGTOW is trying to kill marriage as an institution. It means nothing to women except when she takes him to family court.

[Tracker1958]

Are you going to tell your other kids that you killed their brother or sister?

[KansasX]

I don't know. My mom had an abortion before I was born, it never bugged me.

[musicbrain5]

I think it’s very inappropriate, frankly. It goes against the whole concept of a relationship and marriage.

[Tracker1958]

She can pick any man to father her kids.

[musicbrain5]

Why would anybody accept that kind of arrangement?

[Tracker1958]

Women love it, not so much for the men. Women want to be married but they want to live like they are single. This is why the marriage rates are dropping and women can't find men to marry them.

[musicbrain5]

No, I still think it’s extremely inappropriate. Cheaters are the scum of the earth, and honestly anyone who allows their spouse to behave in such a way is also culpable if things go awry, like pregnancy and STD’s from other people. Perhaps my feelings are influenced by the fact that I have only ever had one sexual partner, and then I ended up marrying him.

If other people lack ethics, morals, and common sense and then get into trouble because of it, that is on them and also their spouse who agreed to such an arrangement. You reap what you sow.

[Tracker1958]

Just read an article where a wife of ten years had a terminal illness where only had 9 months to live. She told her husband that her dying wish was to have sex with her ex boyfriend. This why women are not worth a man's time or money. F them all, it's all they are good for.

[Guy13]

Never going to happen in my life.

[Akam93]

If your good looking I wouldn't want to share either.

[Tracker1958]

@Akam93 GOOD LOOKING? Those are the men that all the other women will want.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

it's degenerate, there's not much more to add. Monogamy was created recently for a reason. Now it's being replaced and for what reason? because you couldn't control yourself? you wanted more sex or "love" from someone else?

it's not my life so I wouldn't judge other people who do it but it's definitely not for me.

[MCheetah]

Pathetic, disgusting, and unworthy of respect. If people are that gross and immature, then just be single. They can do what they want and be as immature as they feel like without having to pretend like what they have is anything authentic between each other. Why do they have to pretend what they have is a "relationship?" I have no respect for cuckolds or mistress women, whatsoever. That is nasty!

[SnowedIn]

I think that if the people involved are all of legal age and all are consenting then that's what they choose. The slippery slope of saying what should or shouldn't be done is that that can easily be turned around. As for your update, absolutely not.

[Tracker1958]

So, are you going to raise her child that may not be yours?

[SnowedIn]

IF a child was conceived, then sure, I'd raise that child. But if a couple is going to have a truly open relationship, then there has to be trust and communication and planning and that would include birth control.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine a guy worth his salt going a long with that. I couldn't respect a man that accepted me sleeping with other men, if I can't respect him I can't be with him.

[Tracker1958]

Most of the time it's the women asking for this.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I couldn't respect or be with a man like that.

[Tracker1958]

I seen a woman that had 11 kids by 8 different men just for the child support. Her words not mine. She was getting 2300 a month no child support.

[Tracker1958]

On child support ×××

[Opinion Owner]

I know a few women like that. One I know had four to some very high earning fathers.

[lightbulb27]

sounds like another bad idea some of our selfish generation "re-invented" to solve their problems.

you hit on a lot of reasons it's a bad idea.. If the humans are flexible enough, then it might work.

Like Mike Tyson said so well..."everyone has a plan, until they get punched in the face".

[Labokachulaa]

I know someone who's done this and it's something I couldn't ever do. They were by always fighting, and I personally feel like when the lady became pregnant the last time, it wasn't from her partner. Lol

[Tracker1958]

When they act like trash, you treat them like garbage.

[Labokachulaa]

I agree with that.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

It's not my cup of tea but I also don't have a problem with other people doing it... you have to do what make you and your partner happy and that works for you then great if it's doesn't then great

[Tracker1958]

It's just better to stay single, then you can F anyone you want , as many as you want to. If she acts like trash you get treated like garbage.

[UniquelyBasic]

Open on both sides is okay if it works for the couple but open on one side is where I don't like it. Im not into open relationships but im happy for those it works for.

[Tracker1958]

Both should get sterilized for this to work.

[UniquelyBasic]

False but pregnancy and disease can be an issue

[Little_Bumblebee]

I could never be in an open relationship or marriage for that matter.

If I had a partner who wanted to do anything romantic, intimate or sexual with someone else, then they can leave.

[Berethor]

Who is the father to the kids? yea that's why I would never accept other man.

[Anonymous]

i don't see the point of getting married if you're just going to act like you're single. it's pathetic and desperate.

[Tracker1958]

From what I have read, it's coming from mostly women.

[Tracker1958]

Apparently, women don't care who fathers her child. It's a bigger problem with men.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know what you're reading, but that's very untrue.

[Tracker1958]

Story from reddit mostly but other places also.

[Opinion Owner]

LOL .

[Tracker1958]

It's stuff like this that bringing down the value of women to nothing more than a sex play thing. This is why men are going MGTOW. Now men are no longer marring them, they are just F ing as many as they can?

[AnUglyBarnacle]

If she asks for one, then it's divorce time. Won't ask for one, won't tolerate her asking me.

[exitseven]

If somebody wants to do it it is fine with me. I never would.

[KostasKouvalis]

It's kind of stupid because it defeats the whole purpose of being married

[Cubus]

If you want this, then why you want to get married in the first place?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I think its wrong. Marriage should be exclusive between one man and one woman.

[elizamichale1]

To me its the best idea

[Tracker1958]

Have you seen the artificial womb they are developing? It's called ECTOLIFE. The need for women is coming to an end. THANK GOD.

[Tracker1958]

How do you know who fathers your kids?

[elizamichale1]

Why would i not know who fathers my kids huhh

N need of women is always going to be one of the most imp one no matter what they invent honey

[Tracker1958]

I do to. We need to put an end to marriage and stop all births for at least 50 years. 8 billion people on the earth is too many. Canada is killing their people at a high rate. They call it MAID. Assisted Suicide pushed and funded by the government. The USA will start this very soon. California already has.

[elizamichale1]

R u serious?

[Tracker1958]

I do to except don't get married or live together. If you want to F like dogs then stay single.

[elizamichale1]

Well i m married n we r living very happily we r fucking all the times be it like dogs or not lol

[Tracker1958]

Different people?

[elizamichale1]

Each other n different too

[dustybiker]

It makes me think they are two people who settled.

[trina_x]

i would never want it

[In_Trance]

It's not for everyone

[sheikalana]

Well, is no for me.

[Tracker1958]

All women will jump ship if the right man has enough money. You all will.

[sheikalana]

Except I already have more money than most men.

[Tracker1958]

So, you are the man of the house, are you looking for a wife to marry?

[sheikalana]

Just because I'm successful and fought for what I have doesn't mean I want to be the one who wears the pants.

[Lucy68]

No thank you

[tzdc21]

Uh... no.