Marriage is definitely a Liability for men.
If you divorce him, it could put him in a really bad position financially. Marriage is something really serious and really dangerous. That’s why men hate it or steer far away from it. It causes more damage to men than it does to a woman at all.
there's a lot of Gold-Diggers that benefit from divorcing a man.
WATCH THE YOUTUBER “BETTER BACHELOR” he talks about all this.
And nobody owes you money. If 18k is bad. You need to grow up and look for further options.
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This is one of the top 2 reasons I'm single. I get people being concerned about money because marital woes and money problems go hand in hand, it's a statistical fact. But when a woman tells me a guy needs to make, "x" amount my response is simple, "NEXT"! Because the simple fact is life DOESN'T come with guarantees. I have made enough money that I shouldn't ever have to work again. But that's because I'm sensible, thrifty, and I've also been very fortunate in life. Money comes and goes, jobs are gained and lost, but a man or woman with character. That is permanent. Give me a woman with 0 to her name and strong work ethic over a pampered princess with a million dollars any day.
Personally, I think he has his values in the wrong direction but if you really want this guy then you're gonna have to suck it up and get it done. But I don't think you should EVER marry this dude. If I was your man, I wouldn't care what you made. And personally I don't think a guy should even consider marriage until 25 years of age; maybe 30. Women's brains mature way faster. The difference between me now vs at 18-21 is shocking.
No, of course not. You should marry someone because you love them and want to spend the rest of your life with them, regardless of how much money they make. It takes time for some people to build a career and make more money and that's okay. I'm sorry you're going through this with your boyfriend, maybe you should talk to him about it and let him know how you're feeling regarding his expectation for you to make more.
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I don't thInk it's about money, it's an excuse to not have the marriage discussion. Because he probably doesn't want to marry. Because it's a really bad deal for him. So he rather keep status quo. Marriage is not a security for men, it's a liability. So it's best kept off the table.
You have to be able to support yourself regardless if you're in a relationship or not. Your income is way too low for that. You would be a financial burden to him. A relationship should be two people working together as a team for mutual benefit. Currently you're not in a position to be part of such a team. Get a good education, then get a good job. You're supposed to be an equal partner, not a burden.
Sounds like a convenient excuse on his part.
Personally, if I were marriage minded. Money wouldn't stop me. If anything being married comes with financial benefits and makes it easier to make money.
Assuming you're not trying to have an expensive wedding/party. More than likely him saying waiting for you to make more is really you getting your shit together and proving to him you're actually ready.
Because in all seriousness that is importantNot the only thing, but a huge factor. And not so I could brag on her, but the fact that marriage is a huge financial risk for a man should the marriage fail. The biggest reason is that there's no sanctity in marriage anymore, and no real consequences if she's the one who breaks her vows.
Been there, done it, had it go south, still paying for itMy husband started working straight out of highschool and married me the same year on a 40k salary. My dad worked nonstop for a year to be able to marry my mom. If a man wants to, he will
It’s not for him to say… if it is as simple as you say…. Tell him. Your done!
Honestly I would think that the point of marriage is to make a woman feel free safe about having my babies. Money is a part of that, but not really the focus.
those are extremely low salaries, i don't blame him.
also, i don't think he's the right one anyways.If that was the case then I probably would not have got married.
It's a factor but not as big as me being a burden as my body fails
Break up he's an assholes. He just want some trophy wife to brag about...
No. Maturity and the feeling to end single life matters too
Imagine this scenario. You live your life, you do your thing. Then you have a party, ceremony, etc in a white dress pretending like you're from 500 years ago. It's insanely outdated marriage is. It's a misfit.
Im not brainwashed. So I don't believe in that mumbo jumbo.
I always say. Do not sleep with a man before marriage, then it is the woman who gets upset. he's just looking for excuses. A man who wants to marry will marry you under any circumstance.
I would never get legally married lol
even if richYou woman are selfish.
Last night my ex put me in a position to choose between her or my mother.
You woman are selfish.I would be gone myself.
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