To sign a prenup yes or no?

[sheikalana]

In my opinion no one ever gets married thinking they're going to divorce later but sh*t happens and sometimes things don't go as planned. I agree with prenups. I don't think that after a divorce I should still be responsible for someone I'm not with anymore and vice versa.

Hell yes!

I don't think is necessary

[Sonorous]

I would never get married in the first place. Buuut I'll entertain...

I wouldn't sign because I'd want my spouse to know that if they remained a good person, I'll always be supportive of them. Even if it means helping them get on their feet after a divorce. Even if it means that I sacrifice luxuries to help them out. As I would want them to do for me. Because yeah, you might not be compatible intimately. But that doesn't mean you can't be friends.

And because if they ever did me wrong, I wouldn't want them to benefit from that. That dynamic is all wrong. It would just be unfair. I'd want them to have to maintain my trust in order to get benefits. Which is not really a hard thing to do at all. It only requires that they remain a good person. 👨🏿‍🦼

[Bob92220]

I think it depends on the person. I've invested in rental properties and worked my butt off fixing them up and renting them. I live in southern CA and all of my assets are close to 2 million dollars. I was dating a Philippine lady that wanted to marry me. I told her we would have to sign a prenup so she broke it off with me. Now, if I had nothing I wouldn't mind getting married without a prenup.

[Apple1996]

Nah I couldn't ever be with a guy that already had a plan for after our divorce. At that point there is no need to get married if he's already planning on it ending. And I just hate greedy fucks so couldn't be with a guy like that. My husband is very very far from being greedy so luckily I'm already with the right guy.

[sheikalana]

I don't see it as a plan for after the divorce. But in case something happens do you think is fair for your ex to still be responsible for you?

[Apple1996]

100% considering I gave up having a career to be his wife and have his childern. I'd expect him at the very least to still be financially supportive for his childern

[sheikalana]

Oh okay now I understand why you think the way you think. Under your circumstances I absolutely agree with you.

[Paul09]

What are a 80 year old? This isn't the 50s anymore lol. You do know divorces happen alit, right? Better to he safe than sorry.

[Apple1996]

@Paul09 I'm not 80 lol I just live more of a traditional lifestyle

[sheikalana]

@Paul09 if this is their dynamic as a couple and works for them who are we to judge?

[Paul09]

You need to stop saying "traditional" . Real traditions, woman are slaves, can't vote, stay at home , doesn't work, has no hobbies. It's 2022 is what I'm saying. Time to evolve out of old "traditions" Equality!

[Apple1996]

@Paul09 I don't believe in equality. I'm a stay at home mom, no I don't vote nor care to, and all my hobbies are mom hobbies like sewing, gardening, candle and soap making like I'm pretty much the definition of traditional

[Paul09]

I'm glad your happy and have great hobbies. But you are far from traditional, like 100% women. Old ways are not the best. Why don't we have a ton of stat at home dad's? I know I'd lose my mind stating at home and getting my life paid for me. Sounds good and bad at the same time. When you kids move out, then what?

[Apple1996]

@Paul09 I'm planning on having 6 kids (have 3 rn, wanting more) but it's gonna be a hot mintue till they are out. Me and my husband have plans on starting a farm once he retires so I'll probably be busy with that

[Apple1996]

@Paul09 and I'm not losing my mind at all staying home. My boys keep me extremely busy

[Paul09]

Well good to be married to a rich husband I guess. And Omfg 6 kids? Wow that's maddness. Why don't you just work at a daycare 🤣

[Apple1996]

@Paul09 oh no if I had a rich husband I'd be having 10-15 kids and nah I like having my own kids. Much different then caring for others

[Paul09]

That's like 100k per head. Yeah you are rich enough to have tons of kids and not work. I'm just saying you aren't a baby factory lol. Such a rough world to have many kids in.

[MissDebra1]

always do one, when things go bad they prob won't be caring about your needs, protect yourself. and keep your money separate from theirs in your own account, and you each just contribute to the bills from your own funds.

[BCRanger10]

I am entirely against them. They anticipate problems that a couple can't resolve or won't be willing to resolve. They introduce a fundamental mistrust, a barrier into what ought to be a full giving of each to the other.

[Drumlin2001]

I'd happily sign a prenuptial. I'dwant it to layout financial assets and how everything is split, but also address custody for kids. Far better to sort it all out whilst everyone is being reasonable and has no reason to be vindictive.

[EaterPeter]

I guess yes, there has to be at least some conditions met. It don't have to be set in stone. It should be changeable every 4 or 8 years.

[sheikalana]

Is it possible to make an amendment later on?

[EaterPeter]

Yes, that is what I meant at the end.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Noodle_fan]

they shouldn't get in relationships on first place if they can't trust each other , let alone to get married

[Changiis07]

Which is good to get to know the person first and see if values, goals and everything else aligns before moving in getting married

[Texasgal95]

I agree it’s better safe than sorry to have a prenup then you don’t have to worry as much as to who gets what if the marriage were to end

[Anonymous]

Very smart thinking!
Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. One can never go wrong with it.
I let some others do these mistakes for us, so they can set up an example on how to not be like.

[exitseven]

Before we got married we had a good laugh over having a prenup. We were both flat broke.

[sheikalana]

Does that mean there was no need for a prenup?

[exitseven]

yes, that is what that meant

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah I agree with them and would have one with next life partner.

[Guardian45]

Unfortunately with 50% of marriages failing, prenups have become necessary.

[Pinay_ako]

Depends on the conditions

[TheFlak38]

Prenups are like toilet paper. The divorce courts don't care about them. Just dont get married and you will always be on the safe side.

[RandomGuy1030]

Not necessary. Just dont get the government involved in your sex life

[Avicenna]

Sounds like a good idea

[Anonymous]

the Asian cow said " Depends on the conditions" perfectly sums up her lack of brain mind

[TheSpaceGnome]

A prenup is required.

[WhitneySnow]

They’re a good idea

[Iron_Man]

Sure I don’t want her taking my home

[legalboxers]

C-Y-A.. best advice I can give

[Debbie14217]

Heck no... you leave with what you had

[jimmy2]

It's sad but marriage is cheap these days

[MikeInHawaii]

YES!!!

[lofii]

Hell yeah