I think they're for people who don't want to take the time to really vet out their partner longterm and take the time to build that rock solid foundation, so they throw up the safety net that implicitly says they don't trust you to not hurt them and it subconsciously affects the entire relationship. And since you never build that foundation it's likely to end. Marriages with prenups have a significantly higher probability of divorce. To me that is telling of both the people in their character and values.
You shouldn't be looking at marriage when you've only known someone for 1 year. If you've been dating for 2 years, that's a long enough time to really develop true deep love. Because you've seen them happy, sad, angry, stressed. relaxed and gotten a wide enough view of who they really are deep down. So if you can honestly say you love them 2 years in that has more meaning that 3 months in. It's at that time you might consider the idea of marriage seriously. Because In those two years you SHOULD have developed intimacy with your partner well enough to know if you can really trust them and trust the relationship.
u Sounds good I have a house that's bought and paid for I don't want some bitch coming along taking my house away. So sign the prenup
You have to be careful. In many instances the court can throw them out and not honor them in circumstances. So just because you have one, it does not guarantee you total protection of your assets. It also depends on the status of your partner if you split. If she becomes homeless or in poverty, then you will likely have to give them enough to sustain life. And there are assets you cannot always protect... at least in community property states.. like your 401k, retirement plan, work salary, etc. because technically "half" belongs to your partner as soon as your marriage begins.
Anyway, be careful and do some research. It would probably be a good idea to consult with a lawyer first.
I know this may be a long way off but for others reading this considering them who are getting married soon, please take this into consideration. I know this because I researched into it.
If I were to get married, I would want a prenup.
Believe it or not, women have to pay spousal support too. Whoever makes the most money has to support the other person if a divorce is brought to the table.
I’m not rich or anything but... im definitely not broke and I want to be able to separate my accomplishments and hard work from any romantic partner. Even if the relationship lasts forever.
I’m not really concerned about the statistics so I don’t worry about divorce. I just want my things to be mine. I don’t want to share the credit or benefits for something that was there LONG before some other person stepped into the picture. What’s yours is yours, what’s mine is mine, and if you want—we can create something else together. Simple.
Just don't get married. Marriage is a sacrifice, and if your not prepared to lose anything, your showing you don't really trust your wife, and that's selfish. Yes, it does say that because now you cursed your marriage. You shouldn't even be thinking about divorce. That's how plenty get into divorce. Because they cursed it and themselves by having sex before marriage. THAT is how nearly 90% of divorces started. If you never really had anything accumulated during the marriage, they can't take it anyway. Only what is accumulated during marriage such as a house, children, etc is discussed. Not personal belongings before that.
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It’s a personal choice. Most marriages end in divorce due to bad mating strategy to begin with. In general, people are foolish and dumb and are choosing the wrong partners. The question is, are you one of them?
I understand those who may want to have one.
We don't have that concept where I come from. Both sides equally lose from the divorce.
Women that get upset that their man asked for a prenup and try to shame him into not getting one by saying, "you only want one because you already think this marriage is going to fail, and you don't fully trust your woman" are the type of women that are literally going into the marriage with intention of getting a divorce so they can take half his shit. If she truly loves her man then signing a prenup wouldn't be a big deal. Plus it saves her ass as well since it's not just "whats yours is yours and mine is mine". Prenups decide clarifying financial rights, avoid arguments in a divorce over who gets what because it was decided long before when the two loved each other as opposed to deciding when they hate each other, protects each other from debts. Just imagine women, if you don't sign a prenup and you get a divorce and your personal debt is fine but his has gone to shit. . . you're going to be taking some of that debt along with you without that prenup. Also, let's not forget that a judge can toss a prenup aside if they think that the prenup is not fair. If you truly love each other going into the marriage then if the marriage does not pan out you want to make sure that you both come up with a fair assessment while you guys care about each other rather than try to figure it out when you could be at each others throats.
If you’re already entering a marriage thinking “this one might not make it” then you better not even bother getting married.
Unless you’re a millionaire I don’t think you should bring that bad juju into the relationship.
However if the other partner already has kids then for sure it should be more focused on protecting what belongs to the children.
I'm def getting a form of prenup. Here it's called registered partnership. You can still get married and everything, but what's yours is yours and what's mine is mine. F. e. if his parents granted him 100k it would be his only after a divorce. I want it to be that way. Not because I don't believe it will not last. But simply because it feels wrong or weird that if you get married you suddenly share everything.
I think it's fine to have a shared bankaccount where we tribute equally to. Like for daily things, food, rent, new washing machine etc. But I also think it's important we both have our own money that we can spend on safe as we each like.
I'm more about equality in a relationship. So for me it's not a safety net. More a way to make sure (legally) that we can be together, but still be free. As in... not having to share every little thing.
I somewhat support prenuptial agreements.
Marry someone you don't want to lose. Marry someone that the anguish in your heart from a divorce would outweigh anything you keep in a prenuptial.
I don't believe in alimony or handing over the whole house and property to someone.
Keep what you pay for. If you both paid for the land, then sell it and split the profit, or one of you pay for the remainder of it if you don't want to let it go.
I see material possessions as a personal thing. If I marry a woman with land and we get divorced, she keeps her land.
If a woman marries a guy with land and they get divorced, he keeps his land. Etc
While these agreements make sense for those with a lot of assets, keep in mind that the courts don't have to honor them. The big reason is that no one can "agree" to break the law so if the courts find that the agreement is in violation of laws, they'll just ignore the prenup agreement anyway.
Opposed.
Aside from philosophical & ethical opposition to the concept, legal worthlessness is also a grounds for rejection. Time & time again, they have been nullified, voided, invalidated, etc.
So why waste money on paper that will be just thrown into the fire anyway?
Always have one. Imagine it doesn't work out, you'll always be glad you had one. I feel each person should keep their own money separate too. Always protect yourself in this matter. Cause when it goes bad, they won't care usually if you're homeless, or anything else, always make sure you're ok, even if you have a secret lockbox and are saving money in it. I believe fully in a prenup.
You can't have both unless you change the marriage vows. How about:
"I ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse unlessit gets to bad, for richer, for poorer unless its extreme, in short or mild sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till we part, according to our tolerance; and thereto I pledge thee my hope & only hope.
Or something as such
I've thought about it occasionally. Id say if you have doubt then maybe you have consider the whole relationship. Me personally, I know I can trust my girl without a second thought. Maybe its because Im naive, I like to think its because I know and trust her.
Prenups is for people who love a person, but isn’t willing to lose everything for that person. I think it’s okay if both partners have something to themselves, but a bad idea with a partner whose trying to get a prenuptial when they don’t have anything to lose
I think it’s a personal choice for middle class people and more of a necessity for the rich.
I think it’s it’s fine to have one if that’s what you and your partner want especially because statistically divorce is becoming the norm.
Personally I don’t think I would ever want one but in 10 or 15 year I could have a different opinion
My partner and I have already discussed it and if in the future we were to get married we would get a prenup. We both agreed that yeah we love each other bad hope nothing would ever happen but in the case that something happened and we didn't want to be together, we would want one.🤷🏻♀️
It's a very sensible idea and one that I approve of, even if she had more assets than I do I would still encourage it. I get people not liking the idea cus it's almost like a written declaration of a marriages impending failure to some people but it's just sensible. You don't know how your marriage will end and it's better safe than sorry, better to have it and not have needed it.
I think I'd want to get one myself. It's not to say that I think it wouldn't last, but people change over time and who I marry today might not be the same person in ten years. And when that happens I'm gonna want my money.
I think they're a good idea. Even if they're there to protect him more so than they are me, at least it gives him a bit more security and people can't claim (in the event our relationship goes wrong) that I only wanted his money.
I don’t think I’ll be ok if he asks for one because the moment I go into a relationship, it’s all or nothing at all. 🤷🏻♀️
I never signed one when i got married. He never asked. We both had nothing when we got married. We have about a quarter million saved and eighty k in equity now, but that's both of us saving.
I am not saying it is bad to have one. I am just saying it didn't occur to us to get one.
If I have had a pre-nup I wouldn't be living in a RV right now. I recommend all men getting a pre-nup if they are thinking about marriage, especially if you own your own home, cars and other assets because there is a good chance you could lose it all.
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