1. Raising kids is hard.
2. This world is f*cked up as it is.
3. There all kinds of sickos looking to hurt your kids in this world.
4. The woman can take away your kids anytime she wants and the state supports it.
5. The woman may not have given you any options in being a dad, since men have no reproductive rights at all and are still expected to pay most of the financial burden with children.
6. The world is overpopulated as it is.
7. The Western public school system is sh*t and filled with woke ideologues and pedos.
8. The kid may not be yours.
9. The kid may be a little sh*t, ruined by your ex wife/spouse.
10. The kid may not have the right environment to prosper in.
11. The kid may not have proper health, mental or physical.
12. Your health may not be good enough to warrant reproducing.
13. Kids are expensive as f*ck.
14. Kids are stressful as f*ck.
15. Kids are a PERMANENT lifelong responsibility and you'd better have your own life sorted out first before spending 18+ years on another's.
And so on. I could keep going, but I think you get it. I sure as hell don't want any kids, for several of the reasons on here, if not all of them.
If he doesn't want to be a dad, you can't force him to. And if you did, you'd be a piece of sh*t human being. If there's no kids in his future, then maybe it's time for you two to split.
Hahaha if everyone start thinking about kids do this and that than nobody have them
There could be multiple reasons or none at all. People don't need a reason to not want kids just as they don't a reason to want kids.
So it could be anything from financial reasons, not feeling capable of the responsibility to simply just not wanting kids.
With most people who don't want kids, they generally don't change their minds. That's something you should discuss in a relationship before marriage tbh.
Talk to him about, if he's clear that he doesn't want kids, it's irrational to hope that he'd change his mind. You'd then need to revaluate whether kids is high enough a priority for you to leave and find someone else.
You married wirhout having the kid convo? You brought this on yourself.
Why the hell should he want to be a Dad? Having kids isn't mandatory. He doesn't need to want or have them. Neither do you.
But if you're really set on kids, divorce your childfree husband. Let him be with someone who also doesn't want kids - like you should have from the get go.
And then you can find a man who does want kids.
But don't try to ruin this guy's life because you didn't think to check if you were on the same page about popping out crotch fruit.
Oh ease it's his fault two , They are grown adults and should of had this conversation before marriage.
It's absolutely his fault too, but he never wanted kids and it sounds like he's been vocal about it.
So it's really on this girl if she thought someone childfree would change their mind for her.
Plus, frankly, a man can pick up and leave well easier than a woman can. Even courts rule for ill qualified mothers when fathers should get custody.
A woman has more at risk. Trying to shift the blame to the man doesn't help her.
She brought this on herself. He still has the option to leave her, and she'll still only have herself to blame.
Because its a massive responsibility. Maybe he's not ready or doesn't ever want that responsibility of always having to provide and be there for a family. Maybe he feels he would not be a good parent at the moment. Maybe he feels his life would be easier without kids. Maybe he thinks this world is a shitty place to bring a child into. Could be a whole plethera of reasons. It's his choice and it should be respected. You can find someone else who does want to be a dad.
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Possibilities:
A. He doesn't trust that you will make a good mom.. yet.
B. He doesn't feel that he is financially secure enough to raise kids. At some point when he thinks his career/income is good his opinion will suddenly change.
C. He already has 5 kids he didn't tell you about.
D. He just doesn’t want kids
@sunflower00 Yes. It's the kind of thing they should've discussed before getting married.
Children are a non-negotiable issue
Yes or no
If no, they will not change and they should not be expected to change their mind without creating future resentment resulting in divorce.
Not all men are should be father's and at the same time not all women should be mother's.
Parenthood like marriage is a calling not for everyone.
Because, in this world, if you loved your kids, you wouldn't have them.
About 40 years ago, I began ti see the shitstorm we now have.
I saw no way to protect my kids from it except by not having them.
Thus, I didn't.
>>> I worry about your kids, but I have no worries about mine. That's why I am here.
You said you didn't have kinds. Than of course why you worried.
Kids are heirs. They are your support at old age
@YoogurtBro12 not in this world. Not now.
There are a lot of woman who don’t want to be mothers either.
Not everyone thinks the same way as you do.
Lifetimes of personal experiences shape each of us differently. Plus add in genetics, biology, etc.
The bigger question is why the hell would a woman who wants kids be with a man who has stated that he doesn't? Believe him and move on. Be more picky and think things through next time.
There’s a lot of reasons. Worried he will get stuck w child support. Worried if he has a family history of mental issues that the child may have issues as well. Doesn’t want to bring a child into this fucked up world. Maybe he want a boy and got a girl. Was an unplanned birth. Doesn’t feel like he k owns how to be a father. Lady makes him feel like shot about his fathering skills or lack of so he pulls away. Has doubts that the child is his. There’s a lot of reasons.
Country full of momma boys afraid of both Responsibilities and Risks…. You get this kind of thing on a piece of paper snd signed before marriage. Committement requires it 🤷🏻♂️…no guessing no regrets…
Many thanks
it's OK!
I would say at a guess, until you divorce. An unwilling dad wouldn't be worth much and you won't be happy if you can't be a mum. Sadly, I can't really see a long term relationship. I think you need a long chat to see why he is against kids and work out your future while you are still young.
Can I ask why you didn't talk about kids before getting married? Did you just assume youd have kids? You were really young so that might explain the “mistake” on not bringing it up. Which is why I dont people should get married so young, so quick.
Maybe because the risks of it. Have a child now and have to raise said child. And now, kid is 13 and things haven't been well and it's divorce time. So i would say because of the risks it has and they ain't ready for such responsibility.
Having kids is not for everyone. It is a huge responsibility and cost boatloads of cash. It is a long term commitment.
I knew somebody who I went to high school with who matter of factly told me that he was too selfish to have kids.
guys want to be established so that he can spend time with family and kids, else he's an absent dad. or doesn't want the stress or divorce.
how about you ask him?
Did y'all not plan this out before getting married? 😳
Seems that this would be something to discuss BEFORE you get married
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I love you're answer exactly 💯
I'm in no ines side on this one. The two of you are grown adults and should have had this discussion before considering marriage. It's his fault and yours!
You could get it on right now!
But perhaps best to talk to him and get some counselling. Maybe he is impotent or infertile but doesn't want to tell you?
Let's just admit men you're age are way better and mature. This stupid 29 year old men child acts like a 5 year old. I believe he should had mentioned this while I don't want kids before considering marriage. This is why I don't date men my own age because they don't explain them selfs clear. Guys you're age in the other hand are 1. intelligent , 2. knowledge ,3. Experience and mature.
Did you not know he didn’t want children before you married him?
Frankly, we didn't talk about it.
You should have talked about this before marriage.
Parenthood isn't compulsory deal :/
i can't stand children
and the only reason ill be a dad at this point
is because im an only child, male
i also don't want to marry but ill do it anyway, because it's the right thing to do
Sorry?
you married him, thinking he would "change his mind", god you're an idiot
So you are!
come again?
Why wouldn’t you talk about this before you got married? Lots of reasons why, some of us just aren’t interested in having kids.
Some people just don't want to have kids. It's not a big deal
What a cute boo boo bear 😊☺️🥰❤️ Thanks for giving me baby fever 😒😭.
About 10 years. We don't have a body clock like you, and often very little time looking after babies growing up so we don't get it.
Not to mention some women's attitude to their husband as soon as the baby arrives.
A million and one reasons some to do with himself, others to do with you.
I'm sorry but if he doesn't want kids you should believe him. Did you ask if he'd ever want kids?
Not every guy wants the responsibility of being a father. I'm surprised that y'all didn't talk about that before getting married.
It's overwhelming at this juncture in my life. I think when I'm ready then I will be happy to be a father, but at the moment it is already hard enough to take care of work/life.
Well just make sure you tell that to whoever your marrying before considering marriage with that person.
Not all people are cut out to be parents, lady
I wish I’d started younger. Had my first at 29.
You guys didn't talk about this while you were dating?
Shame on you for marrying a guy that didn’t want kids. You want different things and aren’t compatible
It's time to discuss his reasons and re-evaluate the marriage, maybe move on if needed. Depends on what is most important to you and if he is absolute is his refusal.
Believe it or not, most men are ambivalent about babies.
Recommend not letting your biological clock take priority over your relationship and common sense.
I don't want kids because I like time, energy, and money.
Being a father is a huge responsibility. With divorce rates being so high, especially in the urban affluent world today, it could also mean a huge financial setback if anything goes wrong in a realtionship.
This is something that you should have discussed before marriage.
He worried about getting child support can ruin his life and being homeless I don't blame him.
Most men can't even look after themselves, let alone a child.
Feminist have destroyed fatherhood and marriage.
.💯.
Because I'm more likely to have my child ripped away from me in family court than to be a part of thier lives.
Ahhh, i can smell the divorce coming from here. This is something you needed to ask before getting married. Enjoy the divorce.
Should have been agreed upon before saying, "I do."
Shortsightedness.
Selfishness.
In worst cases (not all), some "other" plan.
Most of the times it's for selfish reasons...
Better ride that bologna pony soon you’re in the danger zone 😂
Tell him you want to be a mother. Why you don't want to be father and when he want to become father
Give him six more years. If he still isn't ready, than its time to think about moving on while you still can.
Maybe he isn’t financially ready or afraid the attention won’t be on him anymore
Raising a child is no easy job even for dads. I guess that's why.
Some people just don’t want kids
Feminism has made fatherhood a liability.
Did you not discuss this before getting married?
How did you not know this beforehand?
Disturbance in financial and mental balance
Because he's gay
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