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Do you think the man or the woman has more responsibility in marriage? If you are married, what are your responsibilities?
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Women. This is not to say that men don't have their own responsibilities either or that they always have it easy, but they get away with not fulfilling their responsibilities far more easily whereas a lot of the ways women contribute are not even noticed let alone appreciated. Men get mad when we say it but then they will go ahead and also get mad about how women divorcing more is "breaking families", rightfully admitting that women carry the bigger load of keeping the family together and bonded. They won't change their baby's diaper, don't even remember their children's birthday or age or how old they are but then will come on the internet giving big speeches about being the leader of the house. I have seen and known way too families that just gave me the vibe of "if the mother passes away this family will completely break apart and the daughters and small children will have no one to look after them". My best friend and I know each other since kindergarten, she grew up with an abusive father and while it always affected her mental health, she only started mentally breaking herself when her mother started letting go as well and now SHE is the one who seems to be the one taking up the emotional labor to keep the family together for as long as she could.
None of my grandparents are alive anymore. I've noticed when my grandfathers (from my father's side and mother's side) passed away, not saying that we didn't miss them or love them or share fond memories with them, but life kept on going and we still continued to have gatherings, meet and stayovers and all things you have when you have a big family. But it is when my grandmothers died the gatherings never felt the same again and it felt 'incomplete'. It's not the men who are making friends with the neighbors to the extent that women are doing. It's not men who are keeping up with what's going on in the house and outside of it as well to the extent that men do. Emotional labor is real and something you will never be able to put a value on.
Men also know it very well, which is why men re-marry much faster after their wives death than vice versa. Statistically married men have a higher life expectancy, they are very aware of how much they need women. What's valued in women is still there and even more now than ever as we are becoming more willing to educate ourselves on matters like mental health, psychology, parenting, nutrition etc and applying them for the benefit of those around us. The only card men had to play was that of the provider and as women are becoming less and less financially dependent on men and marriage is becoming less of an obligation so no one wants to marry for the sake of it but rather because they actually want to be with the person, aka men now actually have to put effort into impressing women, they are not happy.
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Well I depends on what you want out of a marriage. This why it should not be taken lightly. So many times young people get married because they love with each other but don't understand the responsibilities of marriage it should be a equal commitment they are working together on a common goal to build a life together and should stay in touch with each other through communication because situations change as time goes by it's important not to loose focus. The responsibilities will change from time to time. Things may not allays be equal. Like example a man generally makes more money. So should they each pay 50% of the bills or should they combined there money take care of there needs but so much away for savings possibly to buy a house in the future and enjoy the rest however they both agree.
If you leave it at, "Marriage" it would sound like the woman, because the marriage is often within the home and family unit.
I think you need to make sure that matrix is an all view of what each person does within the family. If you have a husband who works 12 hours a day at a back breaking job, is it fair to have him come home and work another few hours to help his wife who works 8 hours a day in an office setting.
Some people want to make just household choirs fair, where your equality idea is just there, and it's not.
Especially when you factor that the family income is based on the couple who has to go out and bring home resources to care and maintain their family.
537 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. The man has more responsibility in the marriage as this encompasses more than Stuff. It requires and ability to lead, to walk the talk, further spiritual development, and provide for the princess you have spoken for. There is no growth unless the spiritual life is equally yolked from the beginning
I know this is a two way street but the majority falls on the male. And he ought to assume or stick with a dog.
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A healthy relationship should be give and take. What roles one another plays depends on what you're looking for. But a one sided relationship isn't healthy and is a recipe for misery for both of you. Since when one isn't happy the other isn't either.
There are unhealthy relationships that go both ways that can be one sided.
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Hopefully it’s equal! We may gravitate to different roles within the marriage, and we may do different things, but without both people fully involved in the marriage, that marriage is doomed!
Just because something is different, does not automatically equate to a power imbalance, or especially that one roll is more important than the other, or even has more “responsibility” than the other, for that matter. The roles that BOTH parties bing to the table within marriage are very different but they’re equally crucially important! Especially if they are parents! With parents, the rolls are even more different, but they are also infinitely more crucial, and equally responsible for the upbringing of the child/children/younglings! The responsibility is equal but the importance tends to lean toward women when children arrive and I’m not talking a about income, duties and who does what, as a parent yeah the father is important or whatever but the mother In most cases is what decides to make it or break it.
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Depends.
Ideally both of them have 50/50 responsibility in marriage. But that is not practical from any point of view. Hence, it is subjective to the couple. Each one should try to balance the other in things the partner is not able to contribute, or is able to contribute less.
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"Traditionally" it's the womans because its seen as her fantasy and its either the husbands job to pay for it or one of the parents as far as i know. But in my view it should be a collaborative experience because they are both going to be there and it is for them so do with this as you may.
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I truly believe that we should share the responsibility but I also believe that the woman should take care of the house , fix food , tc of the husband etc
But I also believe if the husband has a day off just to relax the woman.. etc
And help her out
Etc - Anonymous(18-24)
Responsibility for what? I don't care what anyone says, men and women have different kinds of responsibilities, and trying to say one has 'more' responsibilities is essentially saying one's responsibilities are more or less important than the other, which is worse than pointless.
452 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. In a traditional marriage women definitely have more responsibilities but in a modern marriage the responsibilities are equal.
For my marriage its more traditional so I handle pretty much all the responsibilities besides working
Marriage is partnership for life. So, I'd say they both have equal responsibilities.
- Anonymous(25-29)
It depends on the marriage. But one thing is clear, both have more responsibilities in marriage today than in the past.
Marriage is less appealing today than ever before, especially to men. Marriage in the West is dying a (not so) slow death. As a man, I can't speak to why that is from a woman's perspective, but I definitely know why it's the case for men.
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Depends on the couple. In most of the long lasting healthy marriages i’ve observed, they usually do a good job of separation of power and responsibility.
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Well ideally it should be equal, but data has shown that in marriages where men and women work the same amount of hours, women still to the majority of the domestic labor.
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You know what’s crazy? It depends on the couple, and the stage of life they’re in. Wow. Crazy
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Whoever's name is on the bills and mortgage is going to need to be responsible.
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Today it's generally equal in terms of responsibilities. In terms of benefits, risks and costs, women definitely get the better end of the deal in modern marriage, which is why men are declining marriage in record numbers today.
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This is like asking which is more important
Yin or Yang?
But they compliment each other just like traditional male and female roles
I would say the woman. It is the men's the job to find and court a man, it is the woman's job to keep the man.
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Depends on the couple, who works, if they have kids or not, etc.
- 553 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.
Usually the woman as she has to deal with the kids a lot more assuming they have kids in the house.
Both have different responsibilities but equally important. Depends on the culture you belong to.
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