If your spouse dies, do you find someone else or stay a widow?

[humanearth]

This is moistly meant for the older couples on here.

But you young couples can sure answer to

Find a new partner

Stay a wiidow

[OfMiceandMen]

I dated a few women over the years after my wife passed-on. Not sure if I will ever find anyone quite like her. We were very close growing up which makes it difficult. I know her family still as we got along really well and they like to see their granddaughter on a regular basis. So there is a little bit of difficulty moving on entirely, as it feels like I would die inside, even though they gave me there blessing many times.

The same goes for my daughter, I would want her to be okay and have a good relationship with the person.

I've been cheated on twice, thinking they were good people, which kind of turned me off from finding someone.

If I find someone that I can be with the rest of my life, that would be great, however, at this stage, I doubt that'll happen.

If I can find my till the end friend again, then I am sure both my wife and her parents would understand, or I would at least hope they would.

[humanearth]

Thats very well said, thank you for sharing

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks.🫡

[WanderingLoveWizard]

After my soon to be fiance of 7 years killed herself, I told myself I'd never meet another girl and I'll just wait till I die to see her again.

Then time went by, I met a girl, and decided to give it another shot.
I've been with her a couple months and I'm starting to realize I was right all along.
I can never fall in love again and hoping to has proven to be futile.
Once you meet the love of your life, and they leave you like that, it's incredible how difficult it is to ever have that with anyone else.
It's like a divine force that pulls you away from anyone else, but that one love. No matter how amazing they are, it will never be the same.

[Genie23]

That's too painful to even think about especially since you said elderly couple, which means spending at least 20 years together... Knowing heart, I know I am not strong enough to be able to survive for long without my partner, but let's say, if some how I get stronger and manage stay alive for years, I'd invest my time on other things that makes me happy, like painting, reading spending time with kids, spend more time with friends and even make new friends... But a partner? No.. I don't think I can fall in love again and get married. I just can't... But I think if people can move on and be allow themselves to be vulnerable and fall in love again, they should give their life another chance.

[Genie23]

Thank you for MHO!

[Apple1996]

Nah It would feel wrong to date again if my husband died. Wouldn't want to replace him

[razelove]

I'd want my wife to find someone new as well. I mean, it's really just a coin toss anyway, will I die first or her. The only alternative is that we get divorced, and one of us leaves in such a way that the other never knows. regardless I'd move on and get with someone new if I win that coin toss.
I smoke and drink, so if something did happen where she kicks the bucket first, I'd imagine it would be in the nearish future, getting with another woman and letting it be her turn to win the coin toss seems fair.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I would feel dead inside, give me few month to recharge and i choose single life. Away from people , just single all alone and free

[Likes2drive]

Should find another if you’re still young enough but seems like in older couples the other one dies soon after from a broken heart. My stepdad never found anyone again and has lived as a widower for almost 20 years now since my mom passed

[Juxtapose]

I would stay loyal because someone you truly love should not be replaceable. If your mom dies are you going to get a new mom?

[LiamJHayden]

The vow is "till death do you part." so one is not bound. There is nothing disrespectful about seeking companionship in that situation.

[Sparkie460]

I wouldn't find another woman. When I go to heaven I only want to be with my wife. I would never get married again

[FinalFantasyBro]

Of course you shouldn't want to stay as a widow/widower your whole life it is time to officially move on from the hardship.

[Surely]

You have fulfilled your wedding vows. That would be up to you.

[Anonymous]

I'd commit suicide, she's all I have to live for and if she's not here, there's absolutely no reason to stay alive

[humanearth]

At such a young age you're thinking like that

[Opinion Owner]

My life expectancy is cut in half due to a genetic condition, so I'm essentially double my actual age

Not at it matters, life has no meaning or purpose. Love is the only thing that can bring joy, without it, there's only suffering and despair in this world

[TrueConfection]

I wouldn't want to be alone.

[exitseven]

I would not get married again.

[Anonymous]

I will never be alone.