Super religious or scam artist player?

[Anonymous]

My friend started talking to this doctor on a dating website about a year and a half ago. They met for one date and didn’t continue to spend time together but kept in contact. The guy decided to move from NY (where we live) to Florida a short time after they first met. Apparently he signed some contract with a medical practice where he had to stay employed with them for a certain amount of time. My friend has been going to visit this guy every other week for 4 days at a time. When she goes she pays for her airfare and stays in a hotel. According to her he is very religious and due to his religion he can’t spend the night sleeping next to her or under the same roof as her. This is because they aren’t married. The interesting part here is there he has been physical with her and you would think that would be against his religion too. So he’s never allowed my friend to spend the night at his place (which she’s been to and seen) and he won’t spend the night at whatever hotel she rents when she goes to see him. My friend seems to think they are going to get married. There has been talk about converting to his religion, yet they have never looked at engagement rings. He also just bought a house in Texas (where he plans to permanently move when his Dr contract is up in Florida) and she sometimes goes to visit him in that state also. He told her he wants to go look at wedding venues and they aren’t even engaged yet. I feel like this guy is using my friend, taking advantage of her. He also got a dog with her that she now carts between all these states. She’s not on any of his social media and there is no mention of him being in a relationship with her whatsoever. She just went to Texas to celebrate Easter with him. He let her stay at his house on an air mattress (no furniture in the house yet) and he stayed at his “parents” house not too far away. She claims she’s been to the parents house, but I don’t know if I believe it. I’m wondering if this guy is married or something.

[MementoMori777]

He seems to be very religious, he is stopping himself from spending time with her because he believes legal marriage is the marriage God speaks about when in the Bible marriage means a lifetime relationship and bond with a person from the opposite sex, it doesn't speak about papers or anything, he's being too religious about it because her spending time with him doesn't mean they gotta fuck but maybe that's his excuse and he got something else bothering him.

[Asker]

No that’s the whole thing. They ARE having sex but he isn’t spending the night next to her. If your religion doesn’t allow you to spend the night sleeping next to someone, wouldn’t it not allow you to fuck them? Seems weird.

[MementoMori777]

Yea that definitely sounds like he is using God as an excuse for other things because if they aren't going out, he shouldn't be having sex with her, I hope she stops messing with him.

[Asker]

Well they are going out. He calls her his girlfriend. But he doesn’t have any pictures of her on social media. Supposedly he is also telling her he wants to marry her, which I don’t buy for a second. He has sex with her and doesn’t even spend the night sleeping next to her. He says he can’t sleep next to her because of God. That makes no sense to me. She is traveling very far to see this guy too. She takes a plane and rents a hotel. It’s truly ridiculous.

[MementoMori777]

That poor girl, I hope God opens her eyes one day and shows his true colors, let's hope he really does marry her.

[Asker]

i personally dont see it happening. but I don't know!

[MementoMori777]

It will happen, a lie can only hang for so long before it all comes crashing down