How invested are you in finding a future wife or husband?

[Anonymous]

Extremely. I think about it every week. Can't imagine a future without marriage.

A lot. I really want marriage in my life.

Some. From time to time, I think about wanting to be married, but I'm not 100%. If it happens it happens.

Barely. Once in a blue moon I might think about it, but I don't care if I get married or not.

I'm not at all. I have zero desire to say "I do."

[molonski2]

Its certainly not something that is a giant big wish for me , its possible that could change but highly unlikely , when you have been around as long as I have you become rather cynical about such unions..

And sorry , but there is no joyous dance into the sunset , marriage is a union and extremely hard work , day by day , wouldn't wish it on someone I disliked.

[OlderAndWiser]

There wasn't an option for "I'm already engaged."

[Inbox]

@OlderAndWiser Even at 68 you’re still trying? I have to give you mad respect to keep going.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Inbox Son, I'm not trying. . . I'm SUCCEEDING! She's a very healthy 59 years old, a very sweet lady, and the wedding will be April 27, 2024.

[zeitgeist057]

@OlderAndWiser Congratulations to the both of you! :)

[OlderAndWiser]

@zeitgeist057 Thank you, sir!

[Emma123a]

Those who get married in order to get married may never meet their soul mates, most of them are haphazardly living their lives and will not be happy because they will not take a lot of time to chase the love of the wind and snow.

[DizzyDesii]

25-50% less interested than before. I chose C

[catiecatie]

So I wouldn’t say I’m invested but I’d like to have a husband. I have some guys that show interest, but I don't know honestly. I have a major crush on this guy. We haven’t seen each other in two months and we haven’t texted in 3 weeks. He does have a busy job and I do need to interview him for it so I will make that call today and I know he’s going to pick up and answer these questions. I can already hear what he is going to say. But in person it seemed like he was interested based on how nervous he got, always willing to help me, body language and clumsy. He’s not the best texter which is fine as I’m not either but I feel like I need to ask him out otherwise I’d be kicking myself that I never did. We will see though. I need to make a couple calls and he will probably be the last call ☺️ I’m hopeful but I did make a pack with my long time best male friend. If we both aren’t married by 30 we are just going to marry each other.

[Jamie05rhs]

I voted B. Marriage isn't the primary goal, though. Avoiding divorce is the primary goal. If I don't get married, I may miss out on happiness, but I will also miss out on trauma. Which is a good thing. I don't need additional trauma in my life. I've had enough already.

[DermalPunch]

Do opt for marriage. It really brings mostly happiness and joy. Mine didn't work out but I have NO REGRETS whatsoever.

[Jamie05rhs]

@DermalPunch I am happy for you that you have no regrets. But I definitely would. (Just speaking for me personally!)

[menina]

I think about it from time to time. But it's not a priority to me. I have a lot of things to work on before I get married. If it happens, it happens.

[RavVid]

Barely at all. With a median length of marriage being 8 years it is a highly speculative financial investment and is about the same as investing on red or black in a single spin of a roulette wheel.

[nolabels]

I've been married for thirty years.

It was a mistake on my part to do so.

If I were to become a free man, I'd never consider marriage again.

[Sasha0426]

Is wife that bad?

[nolabels]

@Sasha0426
She's a good woman.
We get along.
We just should have never married.
Ours is a sexless, loveless marriage.
It's very, very complicated.
I keep my commitments.
So does she.
That's life.

[Sasha0426]

But you make seem the bad guy the way you worded your reply.

[Sasha0426]

*make her

[Sasha0426]

Does she feel the same way about you?

[nolabels]

@Sasha0426
What makes you think that I view her as the "bad guy"?
I can't see that I've said anything negative about her in this question.
I talk about our marriage in other questions that you may have seen.
I try to be as kind to her as I can when talking about us, yet I do have resentments about the entire situation, but not all directed towards her.
I also resent my own actions that have led to our current situation.
I may fall short of the goal of kindness towards her sometimes.
God forgive me.

I could write a novel describing the last 30+ years.

I think that we tolerate each other as best we can and try to make the best of what we have with each other.
So, yes, she feels the same as I do.
We're 64 years old now.
Our priorities have changed over time.
We've gotten used to things being as they are.
It's very, very complicated.
Unbelievably complicated.
We had a child to raise, unwanted by me, truth be told, at the time of his birth as well as now, but I love him dearly.
Imagine that if you can, to have a child that you didn't want, but parental love causes you to have such terrible internal conflict.
I've tried my very best to be the best dad to him that I could, but we have never had any connection at all, ever.
He barely acknowledges my existence.
I still love him.
He may somehow sense that he was unwanted by me, although I've always strived to make him feel loved, which he is.
What is a 64-year-old man supposed to do with those kinds of emotions and situations?
He is now 25, very successful, and just moved to his own place.

[nolabels]

Remarkably, since our son moved out, things have been slightly better with my wife.
I did tell her that I intend to pursue sex elsewhere if she was not going to have sex with me.
She says that she's fine with that, so I now have an open marriage.
Time will tell whether I take advantage of that situation.

I will say that I was a 35-year-old confirmed bachelor when my wife entered my life, stuck her "foot" in my door, and pursued me relentlessly until I caved to her.
I'm a big boy now, and I was a big boy 30 years ago.
I shouldn't have allowed what happened to happen.
I'm every bit as much of a "bad guy" as I might sometimes portray her to be.

She's a good woman.
We just shouldn't have gotten together.
I should have remained a bachelor as I originally intended.

I'm told that such marriages are very common, but I'm the one guy that's talking about it openly.
That's one of the things that I like about G@G.
I can tell my stories and get feedback from others.
Sometimes I'm met with viciousness towards myself from other G@G people.
Sometimes I'm met with curiosity, such as you've done.
I welcome such dialogue.

Putting my thoughts and feelings in print here for others to see helps me process and better handle that which is my life.

Many people tell me to get the hell away from my marriage and live my life.
It's not that simple of a thing to do, especially at 64 years old with failing health.

I hope that I've clarified things for you to some extent.

I also wish you the best with your own life.

[andreasderjuengere]

I see no need for unnecessary paperwork or for expenses for consumerist rituals.

I need a she-partner who's my ''sister in crime'', and my sexual fulfillment.

Preferably combined in one person only.

I have both, presently.

[NotInterestedSorry]

I have had no choice but to give up on this. I have discovered on this site, most men these days want nothing to do with a single mum, even if her child's father abandoned their child.

[Billlewis]

I'm into some pretty kinky things, which unfortunately makes it a little bit more challenging to find a woman who is interested in the kind of arrangement I'd prefer to have.

[asphaltrhymes]

Barely. Surely it's something nice to think about, but reality is, I've got baggage and I'm happy enough on my own lol 🙃😄😄

[ZackBan]

I'm a long way from the aisle but ai gotta admit I do contemplate one day meeting the one that's like no one else I've ever been with

[DermalPunch]

Quite a bit. It's going horribly... or maybe really well. I have deprioritized it for the moment.

[Tina19]

Not at all just working hard to build my career and live my best life

[Flower7]

That’s something that I’m not interested in at all.

[chicken_nugget24]

I think about it a lot. I don't mind getting married at a courthouse ad weddings are expensive now and I have bad anxiety

[Yannishka]

A lot. And not a lot? I have my eyes on a guy but it's too soon. We have only been talking.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I really don't want to fall into that trap for a lifetime.

[TacosRAwesome]

I'd like to have it but I also know deep down that I'm not sure if I'm willing to sacrifice myself for someone else.

[TaureanBull81]

Marriage certainly isn't high on my bucket list to tick off as it doesn't benefit men in this day and age.

[clampfan101]

Practically daily. I want a full dedicated fun romantic relationship more than anything else in the world.

[BlackJeep]

I just bought the ring and in 5 weeks on our vacation I'll pop the question at a beach resort during sunset.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Finding a wife is one of my top priorities. Unfortunately finding one is a long, difficult process.

[Hermitess]

It’s only difficult when people pursue a partner based on looks and not personality. They pursue some chick with an Onlyfans account, then act shocked when she cheats on them with every dude in town.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Hermitess Actually the reverse is true.

There are so many hot women interested in me that I've lost count, but the only ones who were mental matches were outside the united states. Its MUCH harder to find a matching personality, astronomically so.

[eterna1drag0n]

I will never get married. Not as long as almost everything in society is meant to ruin men.

[cth2188]

I'm nlt interested in dating or marriage ready tonstart traveling next year

[KrakenAttackin]

Only an idiot of a man gets married in this day in age. Why enter a contract with someone who is incentivised to break it?

[Guanfei]

I want to find someone and get married, but I gave up on the idea. No one will ever want me anyway.

[HaveNoName]

Very heavily invested.. But I already have one 😫. So I stick to my dreams snd fantasies.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Mating cost money men you invest by becoming the kind of man who can provide and protect

[noohair]

I tried it, have a daughter and would never marry again.

[OddBeMe]

Only if I fail to update this one’s operating system.

[justabuddy]

Most girls leave too fast. The grass is always greener on the other side. Plus I'm too old at this point.

[Anonymous]

sorry there is no option for me...

I'm happily found one. thanks for good question...

for you too wanna say good news to us...
good woman are for good men...

[Jltakk]

Not at all. I'm barely invested into finding an apartment.

[Anonymous]

Zero. I rebuff all casual conversational attempts. 1981 is gone. Trust is a total zero.

[Boomchakalaca]

If it happens it happens im just enjoying life atm

[Siri137]

No, I couldn't care less about that.

[Anonymous]

I have to kids to think about

[Anonymous]

No. I made a promise to someone that I can't break

[DiegoO]

0.0000...

Not my priority.

[Iron_Man]

Very interested.

[Raaj4you]

I am 100% serious.

[monghjay2]

zero now that i know the truth

[EaterPeter]

Saying I do means being doomed in most cases

[Tstrbrainer]

Zero. My priority is my video games 😅

[MementoMori777]

highly invested

[Anonymous]

I should be but i am not

[marish01]

Voted A

[LiamJHayden]

Not very.

[Luopio27]

I've Given Up.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s a big life goal

[als24]

Very.

[Fuentes]

Not at all