Are you married, and if not, are you considering it with a certain person? Why? What makes someone a potential lifelong partner?

[Gurdy2816]

[SecretsofKB]

I'm not married, but I'm definitely wanting to get married. And I'm wanting to marry my current partner.

Why? They are someone I know I can count on no matter what. I get so excited to think about building a life with them, sharing experiences, and just being with them.

I've been in love with a person before, but the idea of not being with my current SO for the rest of my life just makes my stomach drop. That's how I really know.

[Gurdy2816]

How long have you been dating your current partner? I want to understand other experiences. I am afraid falling into love is the same as becoming comfortable with someone. But at the same time, I don't think that's a bad thing. There is happiness in comfort.

[SecretsofKB]

We've been together a officially a year next month.

And I know what you mean when you say comfortable, but I think that's something that you can tell the difference between though.

[jennifer_bloom]

Three things I look for are desire, trust and stability, if I have that I will marry him.

[Gurdy2816]

I love this answer! You basically described the theory of love... Passion, companionship (friendship), and comfort (trust).

[DavidRaul]

Mutual understanding and mutual respect , thats an important factor i would consider if she could be my wife or not. Also if i vibe with her , which is the most important. I will marry her.

[Gurdy2816]

I love the "mutual understanding and mutual respect". That is such an important part of any relationship. What do you mean by "vibe with her" though?

[DavidRaul]

I am emotionally connected to her and she matches my energy and basically understand each others body language in every way

[LazerBean]

Yes I am married. The two things I looked for in a potential marriage partner was shared values and life goals.

[Gurdy2816]

What would you consider shared values and life goals? Does the person you married want the same things as you, or do they push you to new extremes and discomforts?

[LazerBean]

Values as in we view the world and morals the same way. Life goals as in we are going the same direction in life and want the same things. Wanting any sort of drastic change is a no. Nothing good ever comes of that.

[Nikki1989]

I am very happily married.