If you are in a situation of a husbad and wife, would you divorce your husband or wife if his husband will get a dog and want a dog?

[Anonymous]

if you are in a situation of a husbad and wife, would you divorce your husband or wife if his husband will get a dog and want a dog even his wife said to him already that i dont want a dog and i can't leave with a dog and if you choice the dog than me your wife and a child then we will just get a divorced coz we will just quarel and i will be miserable and she already said to her husband reasons why she doenst want a dog at all, and he still get a dog, what would you do if you are in situation

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the main thing is her wife doesn't really want a dog for many reasons wether there's compromise or not and the husband still get the dog even she explains already everything

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tough situation man. If I was the husband I would try to compromise instead of just getting the dog anyway. Divorce seems like a big deal over a dog, you know? I'd talk to my wife again and really listen to why she doesn't want one. Maybe there's a small low maintenance dog we could try, or see if she warms up to the idea over time. Family is more important than any pet. But if she's really against it and I loved dogs that much, I'd feel bad making her unhappy in her own home. Ultimately you gotta respect your partner's feelings too in a marriage. Maybe see if a friend could watch the dog sometimes so it's not always at the house if you do get one. Communication and teamwork is key.

[Asker]

the main thing is her wife doesn't really want a dog for many reasons wether there's compromise or not and the husband still get the dog even she explains already everything

[Oliverlogan263]

Well Damn, this is a super tough situation. If after talking it through with the wife again and really hearing all her valid reasons for not wanting a dog, but I still went ahead and got one anyway... I don't know man.

That would be some major disrespect to her and breach of trust. Family has to come first before anything. Even if I was dying for a pup, making the woman I love feel so disregarded in our home is not right.

If nothing could be compromised on and I ignored her boundaries after she laid it all out, I wouldn't blame her at all for seriously considering divorce at that point. I sure as hell wouldn't want to live with someone who didn't respect me like that either.

I think the best thing would be to accept that getting a dog isn't meant to be right now. As hard as that is. But losing my wife and family over a pet would be so much worse long run. I'd have to regretfully let the idea of owning one go for now.

All I can do is apologize sincerely, and promise her I hear everything she's saying from here on out. And maybe consider pet therapy or volunteering with dogs some other way to still get my puppy fix without putting my relationship at risk.

Family has to come first. No dog is worth that.

[Asker]

thank you, your answers helps a lot, her husband said that i want a dog coz i need it when i have get stress or anxiety and i need company coz im lonely when your not here coz your working, and our child want a dog too, but his wife doesn't want a dog at al. and she explains the reasons.

[Oliverlogan263]

I can understand wanting a dog for companionship when feeling stressed, lonely or anxious. And I'm sure our kid would love to have a pup. But at the end of the day, my priority has to be my wife's happiness and comfort in our home.

Even if I think a dog could help with those things, it's not fair for me to decide that without my wife fully on board. Her reasons not to want one are valid - she knows her limits better than anyone. And this animal would be her responsibility too whether she likes it or not.

Maybe there are other options we could explore as a family that don't make her feel disregarded. We could volunteer with therapy dogs together, consider online counseling for my stress, or plan activities when you're home from work to help me feel less lonely.

I don't want to undermine our partnership by forcing a dog she's not good with. And if getting one risks upsetting her and causing quarrels regularly, that won't be good for any of us long term - including our kid.

My responsibility is making sure my wife feels heard, supported and at peace living under her own roof. A dog just isn't worth it if she's so against the idea, you know? Her needs have to come above my wants here as her husband. I'm willing to try other compromises as a team.

[Asker]

i strongly agree with you, thank you for your insight and understanding the situation that you understand the situation, your advice and answers helps a lot

[Asker]

and it doesn't matter if it just a dog or small dog, her wife doesn't want a dog at all for many reasons and it will cause problem on thier marriage

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm glad my perspective could provide some helpful insight into this difficult situation, luv. At the end of the day, keeping my wife happy and our marriage strong is what really matters most.

I can understand wanting a doggo for companionship. But you're absolutely right - it doesn't matter if it's a big dog or little dog, the bottom line is she straight up doesn't want one, period. And I can't blame her for feeling that way after laying out all her understandable reasons.

Forcing a pet on her when she's been so clear about how she feels just isn't right or fair. I'd be doing way more damage than good by disrespecting her like that, you know? Our relationship has to come before any fleeting wants of mine.

You've helped reinforce that putting my wife's needs and comfort first is the only way to go here. Even if it means passing on a pooch for now. I'm willing to try other compromises with her instead of risking big problems between us. Thanks for taking the time to chat all this through - it's given me a lot to think about. I'll have another heart to heart with the missus to make sure we're good. Communication is key, like you said!

[Asker]

coz she is against getting a dog what she needs to come up with something to solve the problem.

[Anonymous]

Well it would be hard to live with someone who just doesn't care about your opinion

[Asker]

what would you do if you are in the situation

[Asker]

the main thing is her wife doesn't really want a dog for many reasons wether there's compromise or not and the husband still get the dog even she explains already everything

[Asker]

her husband said that i want a dog coz i need it when i have get stress or anxiety and i need company coz im lonely when your not here coz your working, and our child want a dog too, but his wife doesn't want a dog at al. and she explains the reasons.

[Asker]

it doesn't matter if it just a dog or small dog, her wife doesn't want a dog at all for many reasons and it will cause problem on thier marriage

[Opinion Owner]

Well quite complicated situation I see
Husband doesn't want a dog just for fun.. who knows whether he really has some anxiety or stress issues which a pet dog can solve?
I had many veteran mates whose dogs helped thier PTSD

I would love to know the reason why wife doesn't want a dog and I think her reason should be prioritized if she has an allergy or something...

[Asker]

coz she is against getting a dog what she needs to come up with something to solve the problem.

[Staximus]

It's just a dog, it's not a pet wolverine. Just get a small dog that can't hurt anybody

[Asker]

it doesn't matter if it just a dog or small dog, her wife doesn't want a dog at all for many reasons and it will cause problem on thier marriage

[Staximus]

The dog isn't going to cause many problems, the wife is

[Asker]

so you will choice a dog over your wife

[Staximus]

If the kids wants the dog then a dog it is

[Asker]

and its ok with you that you andwife will get divorce because he get the dog

[Staximus]

The person who does not want the dog is going to cause all the problems, not the dog

[Asker]

by choicing the dog over his wife is the proble

[Asker]

by choicing the dog over his wife is the problem

[Staximus]

Why would a wife divorce her husband over a dog? Because she's a control freak

[Asker]

its not being control or selfish, its the truth that will cause them problem for a long run and its not worth it