Married men, what makes you feel sad or guilty about your wife? and what can a wife do to or show to a husband so that the husband will feel sad?

[Anonymous]

married men, what makes you feel sad or guilty about your wife? and what can a wife do to or show to a husband so that the husband will feel sad or guilty like not having time to her wife or not having spend time to her wife or not giving affection to her wife?

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4 mo

what it means how to make him miss her. Because right now it appears that she needs him and isn't getting enough attention from him, but he is apparently just fine and not bothered.

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4 mo

what is your advice jamie05hours?

[Jamie05rhs]

"[His] wife got upset because her husband say something not nice or he's not careful with his words and not being sensitive and it makes her upset."

So, this is just my opinion, but it sounds to me like she got mad at him for something he said, and she let him know that she was upset about it. He probably felt like she was being too dramatic, so he withdrew and decided to spend less time with her. Because she was causing him stress.

[Asker]

so who should feel guilty about it?

[Jamie05rhs]

It's tough to say.

[Jamie05rhs]

It could be her fault, or it could be his.
I need more information.

[Jamie05rhs]

Do you know exactly what it was that he said to her?

[Asker]

just anything words or saying something not nice or makes her wife upset or offended lioe
his not carefull of the words that his husband said to her when they argue or quarrel and even when they are talking onli likehis not sensitive to his words that he used

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay, but that doesn't help me much. It's too vague.

[Asker]

what she can do so that he will be more carefull of his words and so that she will not be upset

[Jamie05rhs]

You still haven't told me what words he said that were so upsetting to her.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[OlderAndWiser]

You are asking us to tell you what to do to make your husband feel depressed?

[Jamie05rhs]

No; I think she means how to make him miss her. Because right now it appears that she needs him and isn't getting enough attention from him, but he is apparently just fine and not bothered.

[Asker]

his right, thanks jamie for the explanation

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome! :)

[OlderAndWiser]

How long have you been married? Any children? How old is he? How old are you? Why is he ignoring you?

[Asker]

the been married for 12 years and they have 1 child, her wife got upset because her husband say somthinh not nice or his not carefull with his words and not being sensitive and it makes her upset

[Asker]

@jamie05hrs and what is your advice?

[Jamie05rhs]

I decided to answer in my own comment. I hope that's okay!

[OlderAndWiser]

This is not the kind of thing that suddenly happens after 12 years of marriage. How long has she felt this was a problem?

[Asker]

sometimes or anytime when they are talking or argueing

[Asker]

just anything words or saying something not nice or makes her wife upset or offended lioe
his not carefull of the words that his husband said to her when they argue or quarrel and even when they are talking onli likehis not sensitive to his words that he used

[OlderAndWiser]

So he got tired of the drama and withdrew to stop the arguing?

[Asker]

what she can do so that he will be more carefull of his words and so that she will not be upset

[OlderAndWiser]

There are two approaches.

She can criticize him when he says something wrong but that is what she has been doing and that approach usually doesn't work.

The other approach is to reward him with some special treat when they talk and he is considerate of her feelings. And she should ignore it when he says something insensitive; if she feels badly, she could temporarily withdraw as he has done. But it is possible that she is being overly sensitive and that the problem lies within her. How did these two get married, have a child, and stay married for 12 years?