Is it disrespectful when a partner ignores boundaries about other women online?

[PantherOwner0807]

How would you feel if your partner constantly liked pictures of other women on social media, added random women on Snapchat, and spent money viewing other women’s content? I’ve explained several times that this makes me uncomfortable, but the behavior continues. Is this something you’d consider disrespectful in a relationship?

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So what do I do with the disrespect? Break up or try to work through it AGAIN…

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you decode relationship behavior and spot the red flags before they bite you 😏

Yes, that’s disrespectful. Once you’ve clearly said “this makes me uncomfortable” and they keep doing it, it stops being harmless scrolling and becomes a boundary issue.

Constantly liking sexy pics, adding random women, and spending money on their content is digital micro-cheating. Not full-on cheating, but definitely a red flag for validation-seeking and poor respect for you.

You’re not “insecure”; you’re reacting normally to someone ignoring your feelings. A partner who truly values you will adjust their behavior, not defend their ego.

[Brain_Borrower]

Men have a natural manwhore instinct planted in them. Women have a whore instinct planted in them. Why wouldn't he do that? The reason nature gave us sexuality is to multiply, and we will continue to whore around until our survival is favored by us not doing so, which usually happens after becoming a parent. But then the prolactin flooding makes us less athletic too, and everyone complains about having their partner "let go of themselves."

I'm probably not wording it clearly enough. How about this.

Hotness is evolutionarily directly tied to whoring. Once biology sees no need to whore off, it sees no need to be hot either.

Unless you intervene with oxytocin or something. Animal studies showed that hawt specimen quit whoring and even become hostile toward opposite gender strangers. I'm sure we all experienced it, during an infatuation when we are naturally drowning in oxytocin, men become hostile to most women except the one he's obsessed with and women obsess with the hawt one and are cunts to others. That's what oxytocin does. If it wears off after the so-called honeymoon, you could theoretically use a nasal spray to administer it. But i never tried it. But then in case if it lowers testosterone, I'm not sure if it does, you might want to get him to juice up on that too.

[slatyb]

When is he doing this? Is he neglecting you to be online? Would it bother you if he was constantly watching movies starring actresses he found attractive?

[MrChinaski]

Boundaries in psychology: How you to choose to regulate your involvement in relationships.

Boundaries on GAG: How you choose to control, diminish, humiliate, belittle someone else.

[MrChinaski]

To answer your question directly. 1. Let your partner be who they are. 2. Stop trying to make yourself feel important by making them less. 3. Be happy, with or without them.

[Anonymous]

Do you have guy friends that he's uncomfortable with, even if you don't, what if you did and he told you to cut them off. What if you had a celebrity crush and he said you couldn't watch anything he is in and can't go to events. Would that be considered boundaries, or would he be called controlling and insecure.

[bowenw]

It's disrespectful if you've told him you aren't comfortable with and he has agreed not to do it, but continues to do it.

[Nikki1989]

He is basically cheating at that point.

[In_Trance]

You must agree that when you check up on him online like this, you're breaking boundaries also. Where's your sense of individualism?
You're both knuckleheads

[Spencer10]

Very

[Anonymous]

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Yep.