Like do you know early on but just never tell the girl? This is the first guy that I feel like marriage hasn’t even crossed my mind with and thats kinda scary. I usually only date to marry. I could totally see myself with him long term but certain stuff he's said/done has made it hard to picture marriage. I could still see myself having his kid but that doesn’t mean that I’d want to stay with him in the long run.
Anyways, this isn’t really about me. I wouldn’t be surprised if marrying me hasn’t crossed his mind but he talks about all the kids he wants me to have for him someday. And he talks about living together. And I know he doesn’t want kids without marriage and he doesn’t want kids without living together so I probably stand a chance. Its just he's all about going with the flow which i hate hearing that bs. I’m used to joking with guys about kids name and wedding colors and shit. Also, we want kids at different times so maybe thats why i struggle to see a married future. And when we do have them, he wants a big fam like some super religious couples have, yet I’ve been unsuccessful in bringing him closer to God. So maybe I’m bothered by the unequally yolked thing as well. The multiple kids thing is kinda scary to me now since I always wanted to have kids in my early 20s. I’ll be 30 in 2025 so I kinda only saw myself having one or two kids at this rate because I really wasn’t trying to birth any by time I hit 32. Besides, I don’t even know if marriage is for me anymore.
Anyways, this isn’t really about me nor him. I think our getaway will put things into perspective for me and I’ll know if I want to stick around or not after this month. Just wondering in general when you men feel like you know you’re with the person you wanna marry? Girls can answer too about when they feel like they see their dude as the one too. #FeelFreeToList
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