What do you wish you had known before you got married?

[Anonymous]

[msmissydc]

Set yourself a spending limit. Weddings can be expensive. If you somehow have more money than you wanted to spend spend it one something else after the wedding.

I am NOT saying make a cheap wedding!!! But while planning there is so much that you think:"we dont need it but its a special day lets do it." Most of these things are not important and you have so much focus on other stuff on your day that these side stuff is nearly unnoticeable anyway.

On your day focus on the part that its YOUR DAY. There is going to be so much wrong and you may think its all horrible but most of these things are not at all important and won't change YOUR DAY in the slightest, as long as you just let it happen.

Also dont get to quickly married. Having a partner and being married with that partner doesn't change that much in hindsight. Its nearly the same relationship, if you know you partner. If you dont know them its too soon anyway. (but the last part is not from experience so maybe not true)

[jennifer_bloom]

I not married but I would say you replace not enough attention with too much attention and you create a new emotional void that requires constant maintenance by somebody outside yourself so you become mentally dependent on someone and not a whole independent person who does not need anyone. This means if you marry a bad person, you feel worse than you did when you were single.

[Ds4739]

What life would be like 10 years later!

That the best relationship isn't about physical attraction nor is it about understanding love languages or common goals - it's about ALL of that. You have to have someone you find attractive and commit to staying in shape and being attractive for the other. You have to plan your finances, and your financial goals, together. You have to be willing to talk through the issues AND make adjustments to make things better for the other person, not just have the same conversation repeatedly. There is a lot to a good marriage

[Anonymous]

My parents emigrated to the States. They stayed married their entire lives. My brother graduated West Point and got stationed in the DMZ and got married to a South Korean woman, and they're happily married with 3 daughters. I won't get married in the USA as long as I live here. I walk around with my eyes and ears open every second. I'm not stupid.

[Altheavas]

I wish I knew that I should have prioritized someone who has the same value in life as I do, and similar goals, that even though we’re different but we’re working and moving forward together.
I wish that I knew that attention about what’s makes somebody happy matter a lot (love language) actually maybe having similar lifestyles and supports of each others goals; again comes back to having similar values, and that lack synchronization and cohesion would be a killer in the relationship.
Just settling because he/she is a good person, a potential of being good husband, a good father/mother is not enough. Very important but not enough.

[Paris13]

In At Least IN Marrying My Ex Muslim Hubby, Realizing from The Start How Hard It Was In getting Him Over To The States But Also, Never Realizing I would Then---Meet a Egyptian Coptic Christian back Then. lolxxoo

[electromagnetic]

Personal washroom time no longer exists, double the laundry and folding, you cannot have ‘I don’t know for dinner’

[LazerBean]

Can't really think of anything. Both of us have good parents who have done a good job preparing us for marriage.

[tfan1]

That my wife was going to be such a cold fish in the sex department. She just lays there like a bump on a log and lets me be on top of her in missionary position.

[jazmiine]

Have you tried communicating with her

[tfan1]

@jazmiine - Oh yes. Being she’s traditional Chinese - sex talk is almost shameful for her and her family or her culture. But if you got diarrhea - damn if they won’t talk about that schit lol

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Maybe more about finances and investment when I was still single and had more capital.

[ethansf]

What the signs of narcissist personality disorder are.

[Likes2drive]

How bossy she would be later on and once a cheater always a cheater

[laly520]

never got married

[haklısınvolkan]

Selam

[laly520]

@haklısınvolkan hi

[haklısınvolkan]

Naber nasılsın:)

[laly520]

@haklısınvolkan I dont speak turkish

[haklısınvolkan]

I will teach you:)?

[haklısınvolkan]

send me a message

[haklısınvolkan]

@laly520

[haklısınvolkan]

Message?

[andreasderjuengere]

... how it would end?

[Keith469]

There were other fish in the sea.

[Charliefretz329]

That it wasn’t worth it.

[cootjuhh]

that her sisters were bitches

[Dreamclouds]

Nothing, I never really did

[nonyabeez-wax]

Who she was...

[Zestyassmf1997]

Her name.

[jazmiine]

Wow 😲

[Zestyassmf1997]

I’m just kidding lol

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

What she looks like