Should I marry a man without a job?

[Anonymous]

Apparently, he’s trying his best to find a job, it’s just hard to find one, in the small, rural town where he lives. I love this man. Should I marry him?

[HawkPerception]

My honest opinion, being unemployed for a while now and trying to figure myself out, is I would like a girl to love me for me and not how financially well off I am. However, money is a realistic matter. And while you shouldn't necessarily demand that a man should be rich to marry you, he should also eventually be financially independent and carry his own weight at the very minimum. Until he's able to do so, I would personally hold off on marriage. But having a relationship with him is not an issue. When he's financially ready, you guys can get married.

[Avicenna]

If he's a good man and has job prospects if you move somewhere else, I don't see why not. It's easier to move somewhere else and get a job than to try to make someone who isn't compatible with you change to fit what you want in a partner.

[Finchie40]

If you love him and he is going to eventually get a job then yes why not , jobs come and go , love lasts forever

[Friendlybro79]

You can still marry him of course. My opinion, I'd wait to get married until after he finds a job unless he's really well off, you have a consistent steady income yourself, and he's normally not out of work. (Meaning not normally jobless)

If you're going to marry him while he is jobless, can you afford to pay your bills during it? Also, weddings can be expensive so unless it's paid for you or if you have a very small gathering, how does that work?

The fact you're asking should you marry him, I think means there's a strong possibility you don't think you should yet yourself. Remember no right now doesn't mean no forever.

Remember you didn't give us much details so it's hard to give decent advice here.

[rosemilk]

jobs are actually becoming harder to get anywhere, by the day. i know, with how "great the economy is" isn't it shocking? anyways, that's not the point

are you guys not engaged? why would you not want to marry him if you're already engaged? it's not like he'll be out of a job forever. you can even postpone the wedding and just be engaged until he gets a job if that's what you really want

[Anonymous]

I definitely would because he’s trying! It’s men out here today that don’t wanna work at all and the women wasting their p-ebt money to support them. Let’s not forget that child support money. A trying man is better than a man who ain’t willing to do nothing

[Siri137]

Yes you should, so that you can then look after him and tend to all his needs as he sits there on the couch, watching 'Netflix' while he stuffs his face with burgers and chips and gets fat and develops acne from the lack of sunlight.

[Charliefretz329]

Love is a terrible reason to get married.


Not saying it’s a bad thing by any means, only that you need to take so many more factors into consideration when picking a “rest of your life partner”.


You can’t be the only one providing in a relationship. Things should be mutually beneficial to both parties or resentment has a high potential to grow.

[Anonymous]

Let's be real here. Litterally anyone can find a job right now. The unemployment rate is at 3.7%. It's much harder for employers to find good good people to hire right now than it is for someone to get hired.

So no, your shouldn't. If he tells you he's trying his best, he's lying.

[BrotherBane]

I have had my fair share of job search struggles, sent out hundreds of applications, went for at least a dozen interviews, and only managed to find a job after 6 months.

And I am not even the worst case. There are those who took a year like my cousin. He couldn't find a single one at the start and suddenly had a lot of job offers near the end of his year-long search.

[Opinion Owner]

@BrotherBane When?

[BrotherBane]

Just last year. Only started working this year.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Love shouldn't have boundaries and something I can assure you is that a woman that's with a guy through the struggles will be spoiled with the riches, it all depends if you wanna ride or die with him or not, at least you see his efforts.

[JacobJordan]

If he is trying to find a job and not just sitting on his ass don't see why not.

[Anonymous]

What kind of guy is even thinking about marriage when he's unemployed? Priorities! Dude needs to learn them. Marriage can wait.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, are you unable to work yourself?

[Asker]

Yes I am unable to work myself.

[Asker]

Due to mental health issues

[NamerOfStars]

That might be a problem, then.

[laly520]

no job is no stable marriage

be smart

[war_daddy]

do it before it's too late

[jimmy2]

Not advisable