How do you end having the same argument everyday when you're married?

[RoseySarah]

Counseling

Friend helping you two

Divorce

Time apart

Date night

Time with kids

Other

[msmissydc]

One argument every day has three options:.

• 1. Find a common ground and or a compromise
• 2. Resolve a misunderstanding
• 3. Break up if its not resolvable.

One and two have multiple options to get to that point. maybe counceling, maybe help from friends and maybe luck is involved. But there needs to be a talk without being angry at the moment.
I am no expert and maybe I forget something but thats how I see things.
A compromise can include learning to accept something. But thats not always possble.

[RoseySarah]

Thanks for the great comment! Your wonderful

[nawtee_me]

It all depends on the subject of the argument. What color sheets to buy can wait until you both go shopping and see what is in stock. We don’t need a new car and how would we pay for it anyway? Oh, you already bought it and now you are telling me about it….. put on a pot of coffee we are going to be here a while…. The point is to talk about it and not argue about it…. Talk about the points, both good and bad. Your and his because those points will differ between the two of you wouldn’t be arguing. Listen and acknowledge that you both have a right to your opinion.

[NathanDavis]

big arguments over lesser things?

or are they more "understandable" arguments about an important decision to make...

I think there would be a difference between these two situations

[EmmaMary]

@roseysarah

We have this absolutely solid golden rule within our marriage, and that is we will never go to bed on an argument.

If need be, we will stay up all night (fortunately this has never happened) and thrash it out, to the final point of agreeing to differ, and also assuring and promising each other that the subject would never be raised again.

[IloveWinters]

How do you handle situations when there is arguments really late at night and you are sleepy as hell.. @EmmaMary @roseysarah @islathewitch

[IslaTheWitch]

@IloveWinters I don't. I ask to move the discussion to the morning/afternoon (if we have to work that day). It also gives us time to cool off and have a more rational view of the disagreement

[IloveWinters]

@IslaTheWitch I so agree... I try the same... Cooling off is so important

[EmmaMary]

@IloveWinters

Fortunately that situation has never arisen, so it's therefore impossible to say how this would result.

[IloveWinters]

@EmmaMary happy for you

[EmmaMary]

@IloveWinters

Thank you very much indeed.

[RoseySarah]

Lots of work but that is a good rule!

[IslaTheWitch]

@EmmaMary, I admire you both in this. If I'm tired or high on emotions, we could argue three days straight and not find a solution :D

[EmmaMary]

@roseysarah

As we all suddenly come to realise, marriage isn't always the perpetual "bed of roses", and that it does take a certain amount of "hard work" to maintain a successful and happy marriage

[IloveWinters]

@EmmaMary so true, it's definitely hard work and lot of sacrifices

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Pinay_ako]

Change has to happen and compromise. Or else it will become a habit. Arguments and fights are normal as long as it’s something you both are working out on. That’s when the fights stop, you gotta worry about.

[LazerBean]

I guess if they can't figure out a common ground and be done with it, then they need to get counseling.

[RoseySarah]

And if that won't help?

[LazerBean]

Then I suppose they will have to either buckle down and accept a future of arguing everyday, agree to disagree, or get divorced.

[sheikalana]

This never happened to us but I believe that sitting, talking and being willing to fix the issue can help. If not counseling could be a good solution.

[RoseySarah]

Often times I hear that won't help just make it worse talking with a counciler

[sheikalana]

I honestly can't tell. I never tried counseling. The only time I did therapy was years ago before I was even married.

[rosemilk]

counseling and then probably divorce if that doesn't resolve things.

[RoseySarah]

Sounds reasonable so councilinv is the only option?

[rosemilk]

if arguments happen every day, yes. i don't think date night or time apart or spending time with the kids will fix why the arguments keep happening. it's just avoiding it. so they need to talk it out. friends don't need to be involved either.

[SolitarySolace]

Counseling but it must be a male counselor because a female counselor wouldn’t understand my side of things

[RoseySarah]

Also girlss judge they don't council

[SolitarySolace]

Exactly

[Camaron1]

Arguments means love in my opinion because in the end everyone knows that one can change other and they still care enough to try.

stay arguing love birds 🦅

[strateguy632]

counseling to suggest "new option" for "whatever argument topic."

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Seeking out for a Friends help.

[Anonymous]

Taking on the pose in that picture wearing a similar outfit would probably work well.

[RoseySarah]

Just end it in bed?

[IslaTheWitch]

you don't...

if you talk things out and learn both perspectives, you know when to let it go and can decide what really is important and when you are simply stubborn...

[steveusna]

The two of you dont have the tools to work through this by yourselves.

[RoseySarah]

So couciling would never help?

[steveusna]

On the contrary, counseling with provide the tools.

[LunarEclipse433]

Two different opinions from two different people who cannot find a common ground

[Yannae]

Counseling. If you can't learn together, perhaps it is time to involve an objective third party.

[RoseySarah]

They rarely feel objective though. Especially the girl ones judging her.

[Yannae]

Well that just scares me. I hope I don't have to resort to counseling ever. I need to try and figure her out and have her figure me out as much as possible before I even hop into that boat.

[MsBrie]

Thankfully We have had an argument yet!

[RoseySarah]

Congrats we had one 3 days in a row before we resolved it. Don't go to bed mad!

[MsBrie]

Never do hon!

[IloveWinters]

It is very tough honestly, and it reduces the communication, impacts sex life, impacts confidence.. everything

[DJB72]

Make yourself argue his side and vice versa.

[strateguy632]

but that can be used to mock the other, and make the argument worse. "you want to use credit card because spending thousands is good for economy" or something creative or stupid!

[Kinkyhubby]

Argue and move on from. It

[JacobJordan]

We don't argue

[Anonymous]

Put him in a suitcase and lock it.

[spoole]

Stop it.

[RoseySarah]

Only if you do firsty

[JayBones]

Stop coming home.

[RoseySarah]

So you go get the milk

[JayBones]

Ha ha ha exactly. I've never heard anyone else say it like that, but that's exactly what I meant