How do married people not get tired of each other?

Question

i get tired of people after an hour

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

You do. That is inevitable. First, you shouldn't marry unless you actually are committed to a lifetime together. If you think you are going to be "happy" and have "butterflies" for 35-50 years then your expectations of insane.

You are going to get bored sometimes seeing the same person for decades.

Partly, people need to have the sense of duty, devotion, love to focus on serving their partner and doing good to them and focusing on the family and kids and not have this entitled sense of self and view everything through the prism of it's about me and I need to be happy all the time and everyone exists to make my life better.

Now, about keeping things fresh. Neither of you should let yourselves go physically. Neiter of you should have the mindset of "ok, I got the ring, the job is done, I can just relax and rest/coast now.". That is not what you did when you were winning their heart that is not what you can do to keep them excited to be with you. You need to stay in shape, eat healthy, take care of yourself and dress nice from time to time. Don't let yourself go. Stay attractive for your mate.

When dating you always made time to do special things together and you had new experiences together and you did things together. You can't just come home and watch TV and lay around everyday now that you are married. You still need to make the choices and do the work to keep going out some and doing new things you haven't done before.

To sum up, you keep dating your mate, you don't think, I've won their heart I can just stop and rest and coast for the next 50 years.

You both have to except it won't always be as fun and new and exciting as well you first met and put away your expectations that you should always feel that high and reject the notion that I'll divorce and go look for someone new after 7-10 years when you don't feel the butterflies.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Why love is important in a relationship, a relationship only lasts if both people are choosing each other over everyone else in the world , your partner should be your top priority the same way they make you theirs , if you are not their top priority or they aren’t yours , that relationship will not last and it was just a waste of time , because it wasn’t love , it was a convenience. You were just infatuated with each other in the beginning but you weren’t in love with each other whatsoever. Never get into a relationship with someone that treats you like a convenience period , you will be setting yourself up for disaster if you do. Why I no longer jump into relationships with girls’ I prefer FWB’s with some strings attached until her and I really get to know each other and see where it goes after the infatuation period runs it’s course. We will either end up together or just remain friends and go our separate ways. Love only grows when 2 people choose each other and wear each others’ shoes before making decisions, making each other your top priority. Without that , you have nothing but lust but not love. There will be times when you get sick of your partner and you don’t want to be near them but you know you still love them and can’t be without them. If your partner feels the same way you do , Love will continue to grow between you both

Altheavas · Accepted Answer

That’s why you don’t settle. Don’t settle for potential. Marry someone who is not looking to change you for who you are. Marry someone who love you with all the imperfections. Marry someone who is intentional about you. Marry someone who respect you, marry someone who worries, care and protect your mental health (transparency, consideration, respect, communication, reassurance, support) as much as they would protect you physically. Marry someone whom your values aligned, and who will grow with you. When these are met, and it’s reciprocated, it created an unwavering lasting bond.
In my opinion and belief, that’s the best answer I I got your message.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

I got news for you, but there are times it does happen and we need our space. It doesn't mean we love each other any less, we just need to be away from each other to do things that are self interests. We stay together because we love each other, respect each other, and generally love each other's company. That doesn't mean being around them 24/7 though.

BullShark · Answer

This is why LOVE is an important prerequisite of marriage, or at least, strong attraction towards the other person which you can see blossoming into something more before tying the knot, if you're in an arranged marriage.

Assuming you're telling the truth and that you really are 16 years old, I wouldn't blame you if you didn't know the ins and outs of marriage and why it's a thing in the first place, even though most people from my generation specifically think it's unnecessary and a waste of time.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment and one should ONLY be ready to get married when they themselves think they're ready for companionship and sticking it through the thick and thin with one person and one person alone. And if you feel like you'll be tired of the other person soon, chances are they're not for you, or you're not ready for marriage. It's that simple.

AviatorTom · Answer

Sometimes we do, do our own thing separately, then continue the togetherness.

Summeroflove · Answer

I’m sure it happens to the best of couples

Breezie2024 · Answer

At 16 you may not have loved someone deeply or just were hurt by someone or whose parents aren't a good example of what love actually looks like. The bible states in
1 Corinthians 13:4
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant1 Corinthians 13:5
or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 1 Corinthians 13:7
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

So that's the reason you don't get bored and you make a commitment to one person. You will know when you can't eat or sleep because that one person draws you near and you live beyond just yourself thinking of their needs. That thought, that promise you make during a wedding is for a lifetime. That woman will complete you. AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE. Matthew 19:4
He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, Matthew 19:5
and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?

That's why a husband and wife should stay together. Once you have made a wedding vow you need to honor that vow you make and your husband or wife makes to you. You don't give up you need to always want to spend time and a relatiinship needs nurtured to keep growing. Bee your best self first then you will be better for that person when he or she finds you.

hahahmm · Answer

You could be tired of someone for a minute/hour and then remember that they are still 1,000 times better and more loyal to you than anybody else you ever knew so you get over it. And if you're in a good relationship it's not like you would be having this happen every day either. Actually the connection gets stronger WHEN you go through bad things/challenges together and make it out the other side. People who never had any ups & downs or challenges at all are living an illusion that can fall apart at the first small issue.

mstbooblover · Answer

Good practical question actually. In any case, whatever the level of love you have for each other, the first thing to keep in mind is allowing each other some private time.

Important is being honest with each other, and having nothing to hide, because one lie creates a spiral of more lies. Having regularly small attentions for each other, and having activities of any kind together, etc.

If, as you write, you already get tired of someone after an hour, then for sure go search somewhere else. Believe me, when you love someone, you don't get tired quickly.

Twalli · Answer

We have a deeper connection. Most people have close friends or relatives they enjoy spending a lot of time with. If that person happens to be of the opposite gender and you find them aesthetically pleasing, then you may date. Since you already enjoy spending time with each other, a physical relationship also emerges when you date. After you learn all the negatives about the other person (we all have them), you can decide to accept them and marry or not and break up and find someone else to explore the same connection with. Before I asked my girlfriend out, it was 50-50 I would have chosen her over someone else. The reason I asked her out was that I decided whomever between her and this other girl I saw next would be the one I asked out, I saw her first.

just_a_potato · Answer

Love alone can't hold a marriage together. You also have to be really good friends, best friends even. You have to actually do activities together as well and have the same long term goals. That's how marriages stay together. The only other way they stay together is if they're religious, or have young kids. Usually in that case (most of the time) they stay with each other because they think they have no other choice. Don't let it be you! lol

overlord337645 · Answer

i think they do but i also think true love can overcome that true love is special its not a guaruntee things will be perfect but rather a promise that no matter what you will work through it all not in hopes of my happiness or my partners alone but the happiness of us both and any children we have after all love dosent include the word i because love is not about me its about us as a whole (as in the people married not actually anyone who comments for those of us who can't handle this)

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

When your married to the Love of your life it's like having a sleep over the goal is to fuck with each other and push each other's buttons lol make you feel like a kid again plus life is never boarding with a man that you love they are always getting into something or causing some type of mischievous they are kids at heart lol

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Basically love and not being around each other 24/7.. Giving each other time to miss one another, and being sometimes spontaneous I suppose.. At least that's what I've been told.. They choose and married each other because they seem themselves growing old with one another..

Tomisworthless · Answer

In marriage its a covenant between you and God and your wife through good and bad times you'll be there for her through sickness and in health until death separates the now one flesh. But we get divorce over not being happy or affairs or finances now. Its seen as a you uphold your end and I the same

HungTexan · Answer

Keep it new and interesting. While routines are good sometimes, in a relationship you need to keep some things spontaneous. particularly when it comes to romance and sex. A little sexual excitement and eroticism is really important.

Anonymous · Answer

The short answer is we do. We just do our own thing separately when that happens. Alone time is important in a marriage. Especially where one of the spouses is autistic. Wanting alone time doesn't mean you leave them. But understanding things like that is part of growing up.

Apple1996 · Answer

Well I married someone interesting so there is never a boring moment when we are together

Verbano1 · Answer

If you're in love with someone, you'll never get tired of him/her; if you do, it means that you weren't really in love

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m not married yet, but my boyfriend and I talk every day and we’re really happy. We’re definitely not ready to move in together yet though.

SleepingHazard · Answer

They probably do. Then they sleep together, and they're no longer tired. Lol.  No, I think that's why you have to keep putting in effort and give space.

desidoll · Answer

Oh, we do. This is the reason why we need to keep the spark on and communicate openly.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Asocial people usually don't do very well in marriage, so maybe it's just not for you.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

It's called "Love". You should try it. And oh, by the way, if you really love someone, you also correct them when they are wrong.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Well with a best friend and add love on top, you kind of love and enjoy being together.

Anonymous · Answer

You find your own space but remember that these are two adults that are very tightly integrated emotionally. It's not the same as having a sibling or friend with you all the time.

NatalieKeller95 · Answer

they take their time with the interview process

Anonymous · Answer

Can you ever get tired of watching your favorite show, or eating your favorite food? Etc

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

When there is real love you won't feel tired from the other person, in contrary you will miss them if they go absent for an hour

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Having time apart for their own wants is important

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I think deep down they do, but the key is to maintain a healthy level of independence not to overwhelm each other.

JustBeingReal727 · Answer

Because there's various forms of boundaries and some learn when they are overstepping each other's boundaries.

Anonymous · Answer

they have their own friends and hobbies, work, outside of their relationship status.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Commitment doesn't mean problems won't occur. It means they deal with them.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course you do. You're a kid. Your fucking attention span is like.00001 minutes. Adults don't tire of things that quickly.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't worry, it's not an issue you will ever be in a position to experience.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

Because they have secret sexual relationship with someone else

Anonymous · Answer

Some of them do get tired of each other, that's why so many people tend to divorce.

Professor-college · Answer

I suppose not everyone believes in getting married to each other because of popular pressure

serious · Answer

That is a good question

NathanDavis · Answer

it's called love...

LiamS95 · Answer

Because they love each other.

monkeynutts · Answer

Regular and vigorous hot sex.

UnwantedScorpio · Answer

Try to get involved in something

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Some are true soulmates ala my parents.

MikeRJ · Answer

They love each other.

Sociologer · Answer

You finally lost your virginity?

jimmy2 · Answer

It's all about unconditional love

PsychicBoobs · Answer

Adventure

Pterodon · Answer

Love

ehatsham_hussain · Answer

Because of love

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Love..

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Remain single

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