How to stop resenting happy couples?

[Anonymous]

I’m jealous and angry at happy couples.
it’s bad I know but there are serial killers and abusers with significant others and im most definitely better than that so what the hell?

It’s unfair and it pisses me off. Especially when people want to say bullshit about work on yourself. I have, forever. I’m everything I want to be aside from the fact I can’t find anyone because obviously even the most confident people are gonna feel some type of way when they can’t find a genuine connection.

Or when people go “you’ll find it when you’re not looking” literal bs plenty of people looking for boyfriends why do I need some type of insane unexpected meet cute to get a boyfriend?

It’s not like it’s just the top 1% of people get hitched why the actual fuck should I have to prove that I’m worthy of love from another human being? On top of that I shouldn’t have to settle for dicks and unsuitable guys either so no I will not lower my standards for people who don’t meet basic requirements.

anyways I get I need to stop being pissed at about happy lucky couples? yes I know I’m bitter so preferably give me advice not a psychoanalysis and insults.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Ok, first all only girls go out with criminals. So you have no reason to complain about that. Second, you must throw out that "insults" think cause you'll never been able to evolve and become better if every time someone gives you an advice or critique, you feel "insulted". Now, to the actual point!

> why the actual fuck should I have to prove that I’m worthy of love from another human being?

You are both right and wrong about that. While I do believe that nobody should have to try to hard or makes things that they hate, I also think that we should try for the better. Especially when it comes to trying to be a better partner.

> I’m everything I want to be

And there it is. Classic! This shows me two things.

A) You don't understand that it's not about what YOU think that's attractive.
B) You don't know (and probably neither care) about what guys find attractive.

Let me guess, you are another "strong and independent" woman that has a degree, a good job, makes a lot of money, "has her shit together" blah blah blah... Well, guys don't care about these things. We mostly care about looks, personality (cute and submissive) and sexual past. If you think this is "unfair" or "sexist", then sorry but preferences are preferences. You should try to change your mindset rather than trying to change the world.

> On top of that I shouldn’t have to settle for dicks and unsuitable guys either so no I will not lower my standards for people who don’t meet basic requirements.

LMAO!!! Another classic one! So let me guess, another "I can't find Mr. Perfect" moment? So let me ask you. You want someone that will love you for what you are and where you won't have to prove yourself but at the same time, you will not love someone for what they are right? "Oh, he doesn't make enough money!", "Oh, he isn't tall enough", "Oh, he isn't hot enough" etc. etc. You do complain that it's "unfair" that the guys that YOU like don't like you but you also reject a lot of guys that are great options because they don't meat all of your "basic requirements". And funny enough, I'm pretty sure that most other girls like you, you reject them for factors that they aren't even in their hand like the amount of money they make or their height. I'm sorry but Mr. Perfect doesn't exist. And even if he does, he will also look and choose Ms. Perfect which you are NOT. FAR from it!

Well, you did posted online and I'm one of these people who keep it real! You are delusional and you have double standards. You think that you are a princess and that the princess should come and put you to his white horse and take you to his castle. At the same time, the fact that you are so bitter and swear so much tells me that you don't give good vibes...

I used to be like that so I speak from experience. I do try to change and heal and I wish you can see this and change as well. Wish you the best, good luck!

[boggboss]

So you are bitter but you don't think you need to work on yourself being bitter is everyone u wanted to be

[Asker]

Obviously I can always grow everyone can but that being the key to getting a boyfriend by working in my self is clearly bullshit. I’m not consistently upset about couples I just feel like ass rn. Even when I’m happy for them guess what I’m still fucking single!

[boggboss]

So when it comes to dating what are u doing to find someone

[Username28]

My advice is to remember that you’re still young. You’re 18-24. I didn’t meet someone till I was 30 and I met him through a gaming app. I totally get the bitter feeling. My LITTLE brother started having a whole family ~3 years ago and is engaged. Recently bought a house. He’s 5yrs younger than me. I’m supposed to be doing that shit first. I get that bitter feeling 💯 Just remember you’re still young and statistically all these young married couples will get divorced…a big reason why my brother and his fiancé decided to have long engagement 😬

[kylee2437]

Stop thinking that externally happy couples mean they are overall happy. You need to start being realistic that judging couples by their hardcovers, doesn’t really entail anything about their relationship.

[tonamimargaux]

Haha I get your point sometimes this seems unfair to us, everything fair and in between keeps happening with people who are or were more evil than us. I don’t know 🤷🏼‍♀️ coz this is how the world seems to run. Sometimes I question myself what did I do to deserve this whereas some of my friends who were always far worse than me are in a happy relationships or happy married life. After all, we are only humans, not gods so this feeling is natural.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Or maybe they are not as happy as they try to look but people keep falling for it...

[cuckbetamale]

Ruin them lol. My wife's new girlfriend did that to us