Why is it that me and my husband rarely argue but when it happens we have multiple arguments one after the other?

[sheikalana]

This has happened a few times. We don't argue for a long period time then we have an argument and keep arguing for the next two/three days and it's always very intense and miserable.

[dynamicyandere]

It sounds like multiple unresolved issues all surfacing at once.


For my S/O and I, we try to resolve things fully before moving on, otherwise it’ll just resurface at a later time.


Also, if things feel explosive and out of nowhere for you, it sounds like perhaps what you need is better communication so that you two can address issues early on before something reaches a boiling point.


It’s like you have multiple ticking time bombs and they are all going off all at once.


It’s best to diffuse these bombs (issues) before they go off, so that they don’t explode — or at least not go off at the same time (by resolving issues as they arise instead of waiting too long).

[teamvic]

Maybe cause you guys aren't great at arguments so you avoid it

[sheikalana]

Should we be having arguments daily then?

[teamvic]

I'm saying when you do argue it gets really bad so perhaps you guys don't argue often due to the fact that it drags on for days and is miserable for both parties. What you guys should do is figure out a way to talk about what your guys problems are without the arguing but most people can't do that

[ZamerZ]

Yeah, sounds like avoidance and bad communication to me. The marriage can be all sunshine and rainbows, but once you present each other the opportunity to vent, you might take it bc there's a lot of unspoken stuff that you haven't brought up yet.

[LazerBean]

Not sure, but sounds like y'all need to do a better job resolving your issues