Is it normal to never argue in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I mean We know it's normal to have argument in relationships , is it the other way around too?

[caring__1]

Normal just means common. War is common, so it is normal. Does that mean it is functional and ideal? You could say that not arguing isn't common, so, by definition, it isn't normal. We don't need to be normal to be functional, productive, fulfilled or happy.

What people don't seem to understand is we can communicate or we can argue, but we can't do both simultaneously. When people argue, they're only doing what they believe is necessary to keep the other person from hurting them. It has nothing to do with hearing what the other person is saying or meaning. The more insecure a person feels, the more that person will tend to argue. Showing the other person you care enough to want to see things through that person's eyes will always be more functional than feeling threatened by differences. Seek clarification and understanding rather than insist you're right and everyone else is wrong.

[JackCarter]

I think it's something better than just "normal"

I've never had one in the 3 years of my marriage.. I don't see a reason to have one when both of you never do anything that the other would hate...

And if both of you love doing things the other would love then I see absolutely no room for argument

[Asker]

Cute and same here.. that's why I kind of wondered this lolol

[Anonymous]

How long have you been together? If it's early days, it's normal, but not really normal if you have been dating a year or more

[Asker]

Almost a year
And yes I've heard this too.. but why is it not normal?

[Opinion Owner]

The absence of conflict in itself is not a red flag, but if the only way a couple avoids fighting is to leave every need, want, contrary opinion or bad feeling unexpressed, then it's a red-flag cabaret.

[ThrillSeeker01]

I think there are always things that come up.

[Anonymous]

I've heard its not normal.

[Asker]

Really?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but I think that would suck if it happened a lot.

[Asker]

Yes!