Does arguing between you and your spouse sometimes turn you on?

[Anonymous]

I have doing very well with handling conflicts. My honey and I have been going through a lot of life changes. We were arguing for months without any resolution. It has been a month or so of no arguments. I've just been sweeping things under the rug and proceeding with move forward. However TODAY was one for the books. A problem from a month ago resurfaced. My spouse and I have a business and one of our clients was unhappy. The client called me today complaining instead of communicating with my man. He voiced that he no longer wanted to work with my man but will communicate with me moving forward. I agreed and worked out the issues with him he was happy. What I did not know is after the conversation my client emailed my man going off. My spouse instantly forwarded the email to me he then called me and chewed me out. I was thrown completely off as the client agreed to pay for the service. My Fiance did not know he sent us our payment. I tried to calm him down but he went on to say I messed up the deal and he would call me back once he cools off. After the call I was a little turned on. I knew he was triggered by the last encounter with this client because he brought up last months issues. Is it weird that I was a little turn on by the argument?

[Anonymous]

Arguing, no. A blow out where we leave each other for a few hours and want to end everything, hell yes. It's some animalistic shit after that. I don't know. I'll read the rest of your post now.

[Opinion Owner]

Following up. Not weird. But were you hinting about some kind of jealousy over the client? That would be important context in my opinion

[Anonymous]

Rarely, they make me sick to my stomach. i HATE arguing with her, it kills me inside when she is angry at me.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the fiery dance of conflict and attraction! Let's sprinkle some insight onto this spicy situation. Feeling turned on after an argument with your spouse isn't uncommon or weird. It's actually a phenomenon rooted in our psychology. When emotions are high, whether they're flaring from anger or sparkling from affection, our arousal system can get a bit muddled. It's like your emotional and physiological wires do a passionate tango and end up intertwined. Plus, seeing your partner displaying strong emotions, even in conflict, can highlight their passion and intensity, which, let's be honest, can be pretty attractive.

The adrenaline rush from the argument, combined with the satisfaction of resolving a client issue, might have amped up your emotional state, flipping the switch from frustration to attraction. What's essential, though, is to ensure that this energy is channeled positively. Use it as a catalyst for constructive conversation and deeper understanding, not just a way to spice things up. Remember, the goal is to love more and argue less, turning those lemons into the zingiest lemonade, if you catch my drift. 😉 So, no, it's not weird, but it's definitely a sign that your relationship dynamics are charged with energy. Just make sure to steer that energy toward strengthening your bond.

[dudeinohio]

I have no conflicts with my wife.