Do you think it's better to marry your best friend or your lover?

[Anonymous]

Granted they can be one in the same but according to this article, it suggests it may be better to be in a companionate marriage than a romantic marriage for it to last.

Also, do you think the article is right, that the divorce rates are going down and marriages are increasing?

www.google.com/.../marriage-divorce-rates-wellness

Best friend

Lover

Both

I don't believe this article

[Anonymous]

I think for a marriage to work you need similar goals, cooperation, and commitment. A best friend can do this. A lover may do this. Marriage is a role.
An intimate, emotional relationship may be part of the marriage, most people expect it to be, but it's not needed for the marriage to be successful.
Depends what you mean by best friend and by lover, and what you need to get through life.

[Asker]

I agree. My boyfriend and I have been good friends for a long time before becoming lovers but I feel we're more best friends than lovers because of the long time friendship and I think a marriage will work for us because we have similar goals, cooperation and commitment like you said. This is not to say that the intimacy isn't there because it is 1000% but we can tell each other anything and not judge each other. We're very communicative and expressive about our wants and needs. And I think we wouldn't be able to do that if we hadn't been good friends first.

[Opinion Owner]

You never stop learning more about them however long you've known them, and they change over time of course, but sounds like a good basis for a long term commitment.

[Anonymous]

I think you need a strong foundation of friendship for a relationship/marriage to last. I’ve seen so many couples who are madly in love with each other but I can tell that they aren’t exactly “friends” with each other. I always say that your lifetime partner should be your part time lover and a full time friend.

[Asker]

Same!

[jahaims]

Can literally be both

[strateguy632]

.2nd

[laly520]

lover

[Asker]

I used to feel that way but I'm with my best friend and we plan to marry soon.