Would you rather have a guy best friend or girl best friend?

[Anonymous]

Simple question right here: would you rather your best friend be male or female? I personally have a female best friend and contrary to popular opinion, I can understand and relate to her better than I have with any boy. I feel like we can talk about a more diverse range of topics. I was wondering if anyone experienced something similar, or if you guys have different opinions.

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Please explain your reasons please :D Kinda interesting how all the votes so far have picked someone of the opposite gender.

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Thanks for all the replies, everyone! My question seems to have become popular 😄

[ASEXY]

My best friend is a guy. I'd rather be best friends with guys because they are less sensitive and they are more entertaining. I tend to have more things in common with guys than with most girls. Most of the girls I've been friends with either liked me or had a jealous boyfriend... I wouldn't mind having a lesbian best friend (lesbro) because maybe she is masculine and I won't have to worry about her having feelings for me. To be honest, I'd rather be friends with straight guys, asexuals, and lesbians because I know none of them would like me in a romantic/sexual way. I'm asexual/aromantic and it makes me feel uncomfortable/disgusted when someone is attracted to me, flirts with me, and etc. To your update, of course people would pick the opposite gender because most people are straight. They want to have a good "friendship" first before a relationship...

[ritxi]

That's a difficult decision. I have sometimes had a girl as my best friend, but I've never been a girl's best friend. In the other hand, you're under 18 and when I was your age, I found girls more loyal in general than guys, but when I became 18, all my female friends began to see me as an obstacle to find a boyfriend and they stopped from going out with me. But I don't know if it's just me, because I was a bad understanding person at that time. I'm sure that if I had found the perfect girl as a friend, I would have preferred her to be my best friend, but it haven't happened to me.

[TechnoGirl]

I want both. Speaking from a girls percepective (as im a girl) both girl and boy would make a great best friend. Reasons:
Girls; im a girl and there are things in life that i can to comfortably about it with only a girl as she understand it. Example, periods or the time of the month. (fucking hate it)

Boys; when there's too much drama in my life and I want to just go out and play footy or ask about dating a certain guy. Id want him to be by my side and help me through it. because i know, he won't question it as he'll know most things about me. Boys tend to remember these specific matters about a girl.. which makes them.. uhm.. whats that word... uh.. i dont know.

Anyway, my point is. Both guys and girls.. make great bestfriends. So id want both.
But if I HAD to choose one, it'll be a guy.

[hkgranados]

I have 3 best friends, and they are all guys. "R" and I have been friends since kindergarten/1st grade (he is a year older). He is like a brother to me. I can text him anytime, whether it's too laugh or cry about something. "A" and I met in 10th/11th grade (I'm a year older. lol) and we hit it off right away... mainly because we hate the same people. lol. and the guy I'm closest to "J" met me junior year (we are the same age. lol). He is the one guy I can tell anything and everything too. We are so close, my parents fight in front of him lol. "J" and I do sorta have feelings for each other, but have decided to wait until we are both ready to take that step in our friendship. Not all guy/girl friendships end with romance. But it is nice to have somebody you feel so comfortable with :)

[estoydorado1]

I feel like I'd want one of each. The female would understand my feminine plight and our cycles would probably be synced lol but males bring a different perspective and I've been known to be a low key tomboy. I've regularly shocked my newer male friends because I'll eagerly watch sports and shout at the screen and sometimes when they're down a player and they ask me to fill in (they just expect me to stay out of the way) I play the sport better than some of the males that talk the most trash lol. I also don't mind getting dirty and doing hard tasks.

[Wonderer89]

Girl for sure, nothing like a best friend who understands some of the things you go through and that supports you when you need it. Also having someone understand the hormonal crazy but can tell you when you are actually being a loon 😊

[Asker]

Hmm, this is a really interesting answer because I can understand what my friend goes through, due to similar circumstances. Obviously, I don't actual experience the "hormones" but I can still relate. Of course, a girl would understand better than me!

[Wonderer89]

Hmm see I don't know your circumstances so I can't comment on yours - but guys in general simply can't relate. They can sympathise, and they're amazing at trying to understand but really only women can understand a lot of the physical and hormonal things.
My guy friends are wonderful, but there is something about a sisterhood that brings a lot of security, support and belonging that is very fulfilling in my opinion. Women supporting women, not comparing etc

[BeeNee]

I have literally had both my entire life. My guy best friend is my oldest friend of more than 20 years now, and my girl best friend has been my friend for 18 years. They are both equally important to me and I get a lot from both of them from tehir advice, to our conversations, etc. and wouldn't trade one for the other. In life, so few people get to know anyone that long, and go through life with them, but I have that with both of them, and it's been wonderful.

[litty]

Where does your SO fit into it?

[Anonymous]

I'm fine with having the opposite gender as a best friend. I prefer it. I have one at the moment xD. I just... sometimes miss... *yes I said it* girl time.. where you chat about cute guys, hair.. stuff like that. Instead of games, war, zombies, gross stuff >_< . So I prefer opposite gender, and on the side prefer to have some female aquantances to chat with. Like at work I have some female co-workers and I feel glad to chat with them about girl stuff, eventhough I'm normally not like that.

Point is, I think girls need a girl to chat to as well.. just for girly stuff.. or perhaps a gay bff, that could work as well.

[LaFemmeFatale]

Female best friend, I have a dirty mind, I can only have a pure friendship with not-so handsome guys, otherwise I might have some other thoughts haha
I have guy friends but we don't have that deep friendships as I have with my girlfriends.
And ladies can be great friends, just you should choose the right ones.

[falafelany1]

I have an amazing best friend. She has been by my side for about a decade now. We are always there for each other.

Hypothetically if I could choose girl or boy I would say girl. Every time I'm friends with a guy I end up falling for him which leads to him rejecting me which damages the friendship. It's unfortunate and it has happened every time. I wouldn't want to lose my best friend because of that.

[jayjay16]

my best friend is a gay guy! 😂 got the best of both worlds there.

but I usually steer towards male friend then female friends, in my exsperience my male friends have been less drama, less back stabbing, more trust worthy, more intellectual and diverse conversation (not saying females are dumb), had my back more, and are interested in more of the same things I am.

as well as extra pluses, they can protect you better, more defensive of you are out together and something happens to you.

[Riothouse]

that's a risky question, could cause lots of issues. my opinion alone will have people who think its okay to be judgmental and disrespectful.

I personally think that you should only have friends that are the same sex unless you are in a relationship and the friends are both mutual friends to you and your significant other.

[WaterRat]

My last best friends were girls. They were funny, generous and open and we talked and hung out all the time. It has been a while since I've had best friends, but I would like a girl BFF because I don't like to have that sexual barrier that happens with guys. Plus my husband will be my guy BFF so I want a girl BFF too.

[randomhumanperson]

My best friend is a guy, I normally don't get along with girls because they don't understand my humor and they get so butthurt over everything and have to tell everyone about everything, they complain a lot, and in my opinion most girls are just down right annoying, and anything you say they turn it into something it's not and have to tell all their other friends about it and gossip about you behind your back.

[cocoaniable]

Guy I'm close to more acts like a girl. He gives great guy advice, talks about personal stuff, loves skyping, etc. and I can make jokes and he won't get offended. The girl I'm close to acts more "manly" haha. She is really great for shopping advice and we just understand each other on so many levels. Both are great & equally important to me. :)

[chanelrose]

Most likely for me, a girl best friend. Just because it's a little more convenient being that obviously we will have more commonalities. Having a guy best friend is nice too, especially when you're very comfortable with them enough to share more personal things. I mean, I guess I can go for either or. I have a girl best friend and a lot of closer guy friends.

[nonotIikeicarly]

My best friend group consists of about seven guys and one or two girls. I had to choose girl because sometimes I need the experience/advice of someone who is going through the same mentally/physically. Other than that, I absolutely love my guy friends. They make my days so much better with their humor and being straight up honest.

[KaseyRouqe]

I have some guy friends, but my best friend is a girl. We're both very similar in many ways, and even when we disagree we get along well and support each other. I like hanging with my guy friends too. They're very nice and fun, I guess it has more to do with the individual than they're gender.

[Isco19]

I can't even vote on this because I've had a male best friend since 8th grade but he's starting to do things that make me want to not associate with him as much on top of other issues he has. And I realized out of my friends the one who acts like a real best friend is a girl. Her and I talked about it last night. So no preference I guess.

[SimplySuperb]

A girl best friend is probably the one I'm going to end up wanting to date and have a fulfilling relationship with. I do have friends that are of both genders, but I do connect a little better with guys, mainly due to my dark ass humor, that most girls don't seem to like as much as guys

[DarklordOdin]

I have my friends, and then I have my brothers and sisters.
I can't say I have just one "best" friend, because they all provide me with different experiences. I will say, however, that I'm a lot "closer" with my sisters; I tend to hang out with them more, and I usually hold more meaningful conversations with them.

[BlueFire876]

For just a best friend, I would probably want a girl. If it was a guy, I probably couldn't help but think that if we had gone so far as to be best friends maybe we would also make good romantic partners.

[Anonymous]

Probably a girl but unless we're also boyfriend and girlfriend it would probably be easier to find a guy best friend that is loyal and that I can trust with anything than it would be with a finding a girl that's loyal to me but is not my girlfriend or soon to be...

[Nuala]

I hounstly don't care... You're gender doesn't really effect your personality.

[Asker]

Good point! Unfortunately, there are social constructs that govern how men and women should act, creating a difference between them on average.

[Nuala]

True, but I'd say I generally prefer people that are sort of in the middle.

[art84]

I would pick a girl as a best friend over a guy as a best friend. As for choosing a girl, I guess it would better if she has girlfriends. As for not choosing a guy, I don't know I think if I had a best friend as a guy I wouldn't get along well depending on how he was.

[asheslee]

My husband is my best friend. The girl who is my best friend is a lesbian. I am super "girly," but have always found it more difficult to forge close relationships with women who seem to have a similar personality to me.