Would you rather have a guy best friend or girl best friend?

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Simple question right here: would you rather your best friend be male or female? I personally have a female best friend and contrary to popular opinion, I can understand and relate to her better than I have with any boy. I feel like we can talk about a more diverse range of topics. I was wondering if anyone experienced something similar, or if you guys have different opinions.

ASEXY · Accepted Answer

My best friend is a guy. I'd rather be best friends with guys because they are less sensitive and they are more entertaining. I tend to have more things in common with guys than with most girls. Most of the girls I've been friends with either liked me or had a jealous boyfriend... I wouldn't mind having a lesbian best friend (lesbro) because maybe she is masculine and I won't have to worry about her having feelings for me. To be honest, I'd rather be friends with straight guys, asexuals, and lesbians because I know none of them would like me in a romantic/sexual way. I'm asexual/aromantic and it makes me feel uncomfortable/disgusted when someone is attracted to me, flirts with me, and etc. To your update, of course people would pick the opposite gender because most people are straight. They want to have a good "friendship" first before a relationship...

ritxi · Accepted Answer

That's a difficult decision. I have sometimes had a girl as my best friend, but I've never been a girl's best friend. In the other hand, you're under 18 and when I was your age, I found girls more loyal in general than guys, but when I became 18, all my female friends began to see me as an obstacle to find a boyfriend and they stopped from going out with me. But I don't know if it's just me, because I was a bad understanding person at that time. I'm sure that if I had found the perfect girl as a friend, I would have preferred her to be my best friend, but it haven't happened to me.

TechnoGirl · Accepted Answer

I want both. Speaking from a girls percepective (as im a girl) both girl and boy would make a great best friend. Reasons:
Girls; im a girl and there are things in life that i can to comfortably about it with only a girl as she understand it. Example, periods or the time of the month. (fucking hate it)

Boys; when there's too much drama in my life and I want to just go out and play footy or ask about dating a certain guy. Id want him to be by my side and help me through it. because i know, he won't question it as he'll know most things about me. Boys tend to remember these specific matters about a girl.. which makes them.. uhm.. whats that word... uh.. i dont know.

Anyway, my point is. Both guys and girls.. make great bestfriends. So id want both.
But if I HAD to choose one, it'll be a guy.

hkgranados · Accepted Answer

I have 3 best friends, and they are all guys. "R" and I have been friends since kindergarten/1st grade (he is a year older). He is like a brother to me. I can text him anytime, whether it's too laugh or cry about something. "A" and I met in 10th/11th grade (I'm a year older. lol) and we hit it off right away... mainly because we hate the same people. lol. and the guy I'm closest to "J" met me junior year (we are the same age. lol). He is the one guy I can tell anything and everything too. We are so close, my parents fight in front of him lol. "J" and I do sorta have feelings for each other, but have decided to wait until we are both ready to take that step in our friendship. Not all guy/girl friendships end with romance. But it is nice to have somebody you feel so comfortable with :)

estoydorado1 · Accepted Answer

I feel like I'd want one of each. The female would understand my feminine plight and our cycles would probably be synced lol but males bring a different perspective and I've been known to be a low key tomboy. I've regularly shocked my newer male friends because I'll eagerly watch sports and shout at the screen and sometimes when they're down a player and they ask me to fill in (they just expect me to stay out of the way) I play the sport better than some of the males that talk the most trash lol. I also don't mind getting dirty and doing hard tasks.

Wonderer89 · Accepted Answer

Girl for sure, nothing like a best friend who understands some of the things you go through and that supports you when you need it. Also having someone understand the hormonal crazy but can tell you when you are actually being a loon 😊

BeeNee · Answer

I have literally had both my entire life. My guy best friend is my oldest friend of more than 20 years now, and my girl best friend has been my friend for 18 years. They are both equally important to me and I get a lot from both of them from tehir advice, to our conversations, etc. and wouldn't trade one for the other. In life, so few people get to know anyone that long, and go through life with them, but I have that with both of them, and it's been wonderful.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm fine with having the opposite gender as a best friend. I prefer it. I have one at the moment xD. I just... sometimes miss... *yes I said it* girl time.. where you chat about cute guys, hair.. stuff like that. Instead of games, war, zombies, gross stuff >_< . So I prefer opposite gender, and on the side prefer to have some female aquantances to chat with. Like at work I have some female co-workers and I feel glad to chat with them about girl stuff, eventhough I'm normally not like that.

Point is, I think girls need a girl to chat to as well.. just for girly stuff.. or perhaps a gay bff, that could work as well.

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

Female best friend, I have a dirty mind, I can only have a pure friendship with not-so handsome guys, otherwise I might have some other thoughts haha
I have guy friends but we don't have that deep friendships as I have with my girlfriends.
And ladies can be great friends, just you should choose the right ones.

falafelany1 · Answer

I have an amazing best friend. She has been by my side for about a decade now. We are always there for each other.

Hypothetically if I could choose girl or boy I would say girl. Every time I'm friends with a guy I end up falling for him which leads to him rejecting me which damages the friendship. It's unfortunate and it has happened every time. I wouldn't want to lose my best friend because of that.

jayjay16 · Answer

my best friend is a gay guy! 😂 got the best of both worlds there.

but I usually steer towards male friend then female friends, in my exsperience my male friends have been less drama, less back stabbing, more trust worthy, more intellectual and diverse conversation (not saying females are dumb), had my back more, and are interested in more of the same things I am.

as well as extra pluses, they can protect you better, more defensive of you are out together and something happens to you.

Riothouse · Answer

that's a risky question, could cause lots of issues. my opinion alone will have people who think its okay to be judgmental and disrespectful.

I personally think that you should only have friends that are the same sex unless you are in a relationship and the friends are both mutual friends to you and your significant other.

WaterRat · Answer

My last best friends were girls. They were funny, generous and open and we talked and hung out all the time. It has been a while since I've had best friends, but I would like a girl BFF because I don't like to have that sexual barrier that happens with guys. Plus my husband will be my guy BFF so I want a girl BFF too.

randomhumanperson · Answer

My best friend is a guy, I normally don't get along with girls because they don't understand my humor and they get so butthurt over everything and have to tell everyone about everything, they complain a lot, and in my opinion most girls are just down right annoying, and anything you say they turn it into something it's not and have to tell all their other friends about it and gossip about you behind your back.

cocoaniable · Answer

Guy I'm close to more acts like a girl. He gives great guy advice, talks about personal stuff, loves skyping, etc. and I can make jokes and he won't get offended. The girl I'm close to acts more "manly" haha. She is really great for shopping advice and we just understand each other on so many levels. Both are great & equally important to me. :)

chanelrose · Answer

Most likely for me, a girl best friend. Just because it's a little more convenient being that obviously we will have more commonalities. Having a guy best friend is nice too, especially when you're very comfortable with them enough to share more personal things. I mean, I guess I can go for either or. I have a girl best friend and a lot of closer guy friends.

nonotIikeicarly · Answer

My best friend group consists of about seven guys and one or two girls. I had to choose girl because sometimes I need the experience/advice of someone who is going through the same mentally/physically. Other than that, I absolutely love my guy friends. They make my days so much better with their humor and being straight up honest.

KaseyRouqe · Answer

I have some guy friends, but my best friend is a girl. We're both very similar in many ways, and even when we disagree we get along well and support each other. I like hanging with my guy friends too. They're very nice and fun, I guess it has more to do with the individual than they're gender.

Isco19 · Answer

I can't even vote on this because I've had a male best friend since 8th grade but he's starting to do things that make me want to not associate with him as much on top of other issues he has. And I realized out of my friends the one who acts like a real best friend is a girl. Her and I talked about it last night. So no preference I guess.

SimplySuperb · Answer

A girl best friend is probably the one I'm going to end up wanting to date and have a fulfilling relationship with. I do have friends that are of both genders, but I do connect a little better with guys, mainly due to my dark ass humor, that most girls don't seem to like as much as guys

DarklordOdin · Answer

I have my friends, and then I have my brothers and sisters.
I can't say I have just one "best" friend, because they all provide me with different experiences. I will say, however, that I'm a lot "closer" with my sisters; I tend to hang out with them more, and I usually hold more meaningful conversations with them.

BlueFire876 · Answer

For just a best friend, I would probably want a girl. If it was a guy, I probably couldn't help but think that if we had gone so far as to be best friends maybe we would also make good romantic partners.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably a girl but unless we're also boyfriend and girlfriend it would probably be easier to find a guy best friend that is loyal and that I can trust with anything than it would be with a finding a girl that's loyal to me but is not my girlfriend or soon to be...

Nuala · Answer

I hounstly don't care... You're gender doesn't really effect your personality.

art84 · Answer

I would pick a girl as a best friend over a guy as a best friend. As for choosing a girl, I guess it would better if she has girlfriends. As for not choosing a guy, I don't know I think if I had a best friend as a guy I wouldn't get along well depending on how he was.

asheslee · Answer

My husband is my best friend. The girl who is my best friend is a lesbian. I am super "girly," but have always found it more difficult to forge close relationships with women who seem to have a similar personality to me.

TheUsername27 · Answer

I knew what the results would be before clicking on my answer. Women generally dislike men excluding ones they know well or are attracted too... I think girls are taught to be weary of men... which isn't actually the worst advice but it isn't fair for those guys who are nice and good people.

godfatherfan · Answer

I understand when women say this, they are gullable...
but a guy?
MEN AND WOMAN ARE NOT FRIENDS.
sorry ladies, if you have a guy friend, he wants to keep you on the radar for possible sex later. he is thinking if you both end up single, maybe he gets a blow job out of it at the very least.
stop being gullable...

EnteiIsKing · Answer

The way that i put it is that my fiance is my best friend and then i have muy best girl friend. In my opinion, your SO should have be your best friend, and then you can have other best friends in your line. Does that make sense?

snowangle · Answer

My BEST friend is female, but I do have a very close male friend as well. I don't really have a preference - if I didn't have them, I wouldn't care if my best friend was a guy or a girl. It's just whoever I connect most with.

antisocialmelanin · Answer

I have a lot of female best friends. And as far as Guy best friends I only have gay ones. I would like a straight male best friend. I can never seem to get that because they tend to always want more than just a friendship.

vishna · Answer

Lol, traitors, ladies XD traitors!

But seriously, I'd rather have a female best friend because we could talk about things and we'd really understand what it's like. And also, my entire life past puberty, I've only ever had female best friends.

AskMeAnythlng · Answer

I'm a girl so there are things I could only be open with another girl. but not a guy, no matter how close we are. still a guy best friend would be nice

Alyssa1111 · Answer

i miss having a guy best friend... girl best friend - no matter how kind hearted they are - is the most difficult shit to put up with. Ergh the drama, the mood swings, the jealousy... it's a nightmare

TheLuckyPizzaDog · Answer

while i have guy friends and can get along with them, my best friends are females. no reason, we're just really good friends and i can't imagine having friends other than them.

alice55 · Answer

Girl, I can go shopping, share a lot of stuff, watch the same show, etc... Plus when you have a guy best friend guys doesn't want to date you or they become too jealous and force you to chose between the both

samrsmith · Answer

GUY because I think they can be more chill and I like to get down a dirty when I'm having fun and there are a lot of girls who don't do that. And guys are straight forward, like I am, so i just think i way prefer a guy best friend over a girl best friend. Guys are awesome

Tanairy328 · Answer

I'd rather have a guy best friend. I'm going to be bluntly honest, girls kinda annoy me, i find guys to be more laidback and entertaining. lol

StrangerMorrison · Answer

My best friend is female, as are most of my friends. They have mostly male friends, who, in turn, have mostly female friends. I guess that pattern would go on forever if I bothered to look further into it.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

I dunno. I've had both. Right now I'd say my wife is my best friend, but I also have a close female friend who would be considered my other-than-spouse-BF.

Annnnalise · Answer

I'm not sure... girls are good for gossiping and talking to about personal matters. On the flip side, girls have wayyyy too many emotions and worries. Guys are good for not having to worry about doing things wrong but then again they can be immature and rude.

Pig_Sty · Answer

I don't know, haha. My best friend is a guy and I accept it as a wonderful gift to my life. Now your question makes me wonder how things would be like if he is a female, hehe :-)

ChrisiSt · Answer

I'd rather have a guy best friend because guys tend to be “simpler“ with less drama etc, and also i dont need a best friend who talks about clothes or makeup with me :p

JamesAlighieri · Answer

girl guys generally despise me and mock me... aye lmao they just don't understand the spiciness of my memes :'3

Pipi769 · Answer

A guy.. But I want us to be JUST friends.. Which is kinda impossible I guess, because a friendship can turn into romantic attraction easily

madhatters4 · Answer

doesn't really matter to me. i've had close friends of both genders. doesn't really matter the gender to me as long as they are a good friend

Anonymous · Answer

I've hung out with a lot of guys, but none of them are anywhere near a best friend level. I've always wanted to have one though, talking with girls can get repetitive, and sometimes I want a guy's opinion. Just plain platonic love with a guy

Creative_M · Answer

Both because both are required when you have different problem and there are time only a girl can help and sometimes only a guy can so i want both

gigi5678 · Answer

guy just cause girls tend to be petty around me so they seem more down to earth and not shallow i guess?

fauchelevent · Answer

If I had to choose, I'd go with a female best friend (which is what I have already), but I don't think that it'd really make a huge difference.

Onemario1234 · Answer

I've experienced something similar, yes, but I'll take any. Guy or girl. I had a girl best friend around a month ago, but we're not friends anymore because I did something stupid and unforgiving while trying to help.

Apoteket · Answer

My twin sister is my forever best friend, simply because she understands me like no one else.

KDria · Answer

My boyfriend is my best friend but I've always wanted a female best friend too

kimichi · Answer

Guy bestfriend, I'm tired of my "female bestfriend" backstabbing me.

Anonymous · Answer

I also happen to have a very good female friend, but i open up to her the same way i do with my other friends. Although to be fair that isn't really that often, i tend to keep my issues to myself

Hersh · Answer

I gotta have both because I need a balance of friends.

bostockbn · Answer

Guy for sure. There less drama and know how to have fun

Katherine3110hun · Answer

A guy definitely. I've had 2 girl best friends and 1 guy one and I enjoyed the guy a lot better

JBro_ · Answer

I'd say it doesn't matter. I'd likr a guy boyfriend, but I hsve never had one.

reixun · Answer

I've only had intimate ass friendships with women but I wouldn't mind being close with some of my guy friends

Paris13 · Answer

Offline... Guy. Online... Certain Ones, hun, Including on Here, dear. Guy, that is. xx

sp33d · Answer

Don't understand the "would you rather.." part. My best friend is a woman, has been for almost 8 years.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

It doesn't matter what my best friend is, as long as we get along, I'm straight.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I have a guy best friend. Also had a girl best friend until few months ago, but we don't talk anymore.

isaacrich713 · Answer

either one is fine with me... it's hard to find a true best friend but let me stop being a downer and say a guy best friend haha

IvoirianGirl20 · Answer

Neither. Fuck people trying to be nosy about your life then pretending they care about you but it's false

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