If a girl sees me as her brother does that mean she trusts me, and would rather be best friends?

[smahala1991]

I have this best girl friend who is 2 years younger than me, she has a little girl who is 3 and is expecting another child in the summer. She considers me as a brother (because she has no real biological brothers). We have hung out together several times, we took her girl trick or treating a couple years ago. I have been to about every birthday party for her little girl. we engage in deep convos in person and on Facebook most times lasting up after midnight. When my mom passed away back in June, she came to the funeral with her boyfriend and brought flowers for me :) and yes she has a boyfriend but I'm OK with that I don't ever see myself with her in that capacity. But I do buy her, him, and, her daughter a Christmas gift every year, and birthday. I know a lot of people would call this being in the friendzone, but I see it as just a guy and girl who work better as best friends/ siblings rather than a romantic relationship. and honestly I think it has a deeper meaning than most romantic relationships. It says I'm here for you anytime. Do you think this is a good friendship to keep :)

[craZy_4_musiC_o0]

I agree with you - as long as neither of you wants more. As long as you both function well/better this way, then yes, it's a healthy, good, normal relationship between best friends or even (honourary) siblings. It's not a bad thing, I would really like to have a boy-best friend (who doesn't keep giving me hot and cold like he does) or have my brother function normally with me and establish a normal, healthy relationship with either/both of them, like you seem to have with you girl-friend. Keep it clean, and it'll stay with you your entire life and benefit the both of you! Good luck and enjoy :)

[lumos]

That's very sweet. If you're okay with being in that situation, then yeah, why not. :)

[Anonymous]

It's only a good friendship if it doesn't stop you dating other girls.

I suspect you're not dating other girls and this friendship is filling a hole in your life.

That makes it toxic, like junk food filling your belly when you're hungry. It might fix the temporary problem but it's terrible for you in the long run.

[smahala1991]

im not dating, and right now do not care to date, I have had 4 girlfriends who ended up being disasters.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

That's not a friendzone situation in the classic sense. In a "friendzone" the person is substituting a romantic relationship for a platonic one, but holds on to those romantic feelings.

If you are aware there's no romance, have no feelings, and are fine with that, you're just "friends".

[kheserthorpe]

It's good friendship. It's only 'friendzone' if you wish you were more then friends.

If she sees you as her brother, she likes you, cares about you, trusts you, and does not want to have sex with you.

[Keyspirits]

Well what I'm afraid is if the boyfriend might be jelly and took it the wrong way one day...

[kambo_trick3y]

Sounds good. Keep it.