Why do I do with this girl that tries too hard?

[NotMilos]

There is a girl that I know (we are not close to be friends, we just know each other) that mimics my words and or posture as well as she tries to impress me with things she knows I'm interested in (say, I once had a convo with my friends about lifting weights, surprisingly, she posted on social media a meme related to weightlifting the very next day). You see, I only see her once a week in a group meeting that we have and she always suggests that whenever there is an optional participation in doing something, she would like to pair with me, or if there is a general group convo about something, she only ASKS me to see what I think about. Her mother also seems to react to everything I post on social media as well (I mean positive reactions, a joke here and there, liking almost every single post I make and stuff like that. by the way, we share the same nationality). The thing is, most would think that the girl is hitting on me as trying to find things in common, and that is what I thought until I found out that the girl recently got a boyfriend, so why would she still do these things? The thing is that I rarely know her, I have only seen her once a week for the last year and we have not engaged in deep convos, since she is 17 and I'm 21, we have only talked about high school, college and stuff like that. I just want to know if I have been reading things wrong and she sees me as a brother/friend, but the thing is, why does she try too hard?

[JamesDiaz11]

She could still like you, while having a boyfriend. Women will often latch onto someone while vying for someone else- it's not mutually exclusive.

She could also just have a crush on you, and see you as someone outside of her league (just based on age); so, any attention she gives you is just her being a fan girl.

Lastly, young women (and women generally) love validation and attention. We all know teenage boys will jump at any female attention- it's not a rare/ valuable thing. Getting the attention of an older guy could be a higher grade of validation/ attention that she may want.

Also, it could be any combination of these things. The real question is, are you interested in this girl? If you are, then tell her before she changes her mind.

[NotMilos]

Thanks for the thoughtful response, and I see why she may be doing it. Now, when it comes to being interested in her, it is a situation where it is not that I love her, she just seems nice and I wouldn't say no if there was a chance of the two of us get together. But the fact she already has a boyfriend tells me that it is too late, and I don't want to mess things up. I will try to come and tell her in a subtle way so that no one gets upset.
Anyway, I appreciate your time on this.

[JamesDiaz11]

No, your strategy is stupid.
Women don't like subtle men- who just test the water before running away at any hint of causing ripples. If you are interested in her, tell her- fk this other guy, you don't need to care about him.
There is NO benefit to being friends with a girl, none. If you're interested let her know, and if she reciprocates, great, if not then you'll at least be a man who goes for what he wants.

It doesn't even have to be aggressive, just say you're interested in her, and would like to take her out... if only she didn't have a boyfriend. If she doesn't jump at it, no problem, you don't have to be a dick for getting rejected.
If she tries testing you (women WILL) by asking "just as friends," say, "no, not as friends." Women want you to be bold, and if you pass these tests to weed out the weak men you'll get the kind of woman you want in life.

[JPresidente]

You're not reading it wrong. She's just very immature for her age and probably "boy crazy". She may have a boyfriend but at her age, it would not be unsurprising that she still looks around. There's some interest in her part but she may be waiting for you you to make a move. Due to her age, though, I would back off until she hits 18 at least if you're interested still.

[Anonymous]

How is she trying too hard?

I think this is more of a case of your overthinking about this.

[NotMilos]

I meant trying too hard as if getting my attention as a friend or something else even though I rarely know the girl.
But yes, I see why you may suggest the overthinking.

[Iron_Man]

Why don’t you ask her out on a date and see what happens

[NotMilos]

Well, I guess that could only clarify things out. Thanks, I will try to do it.

[In_Trance]

You accept it or you move on

[NotMilos]

I am more on the moving on side, but I will ask the girl about it just to make sure

[Anonymous]

People are complicated lol

[NotMilos]

I don't know what to tell you, I complicate myself very often as well, it was just that I wanted to vent what I had on my mind