So I like this girl, and I know that she likes me back (I know she likes me, but she doesn't know that I know). I think she probably guesses that I like her too, based on the fact that I sent her an email yesterday, even though she never gave me her email address, and the only way I knew her email was I saw her email address in a group email sent out to like 20 people, and the group email was from the end of August. And I emailed her because I heard she was sick, and I pretty much just told her get well, and congratulations on doing well in a squash tournament this past weekend. I emailed her because she didn't show up to squash training yesterday (we train together), and that's when I heard from two people that she was really sick. So she never ended up replying to the email. Then today, she showed up to training, and I asked her, "Oh, you got better?" and she said that she was never sick (?), but just went to see her school basketball game yesterday, and her brother (13 years old) played along at first but after around five minutes said to me that she was sick, but even after I asked her "then why did your brother say you were sick?" she still said she wasn't sick. I don't know, maybe she just has a really weird sense of humor - for example, she told me a couple weeks before her birthday when exactly her birthday was, and a couple of days before her birthday, I went up to her and said, "hey, your birthday's coming up, right?" and she said "no, it was last Saturday", even though it was the coming Saturday. Then, on her birthday (Saturday), she told everyone it was her birthday.
Anyways, it just seems like she plays hard to get a lot of the time even though I know for sure she likes me. And one time, I saw her trying to make me jealous - she talked to a boy for about a minute in plain view of me (like, they were right in front of me about 10 meters away, and I was on a spin bike, so I was directly facing them), and after he left, she looked at me to see if I was looking at her, but I pretended I was looking at something beside her, and she saw that I was looking at something else, and so she looked at what I was looking at for around 2 seconds then carried on doing what she was doing.
Pretty much, again, I think she plays hard to get a lot even though she likes me. What should I do with someone like that? Do girls who play hard to get want to be chased, and is it a good idea to chase them, and really try to show them that you like them, or is it better to play hard to get as well (in moderation of course)?
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With women that play hard to get - they enjoy that whole chase/attraction/etc thing because they get to know a bit about you in the process. If you show her/tell her you like her (to this "hard to get" type of gal) then you are gonna be ending the game.. But if you don't speak up, she'll never know you were interested, soon give up any hope she had, and move on to a new guy.
You're best bet is by learning how to apply resistance to your emotions.. just because you like her, doesn't mean you should be gawking at her ass.. Just because you like her, doesn't mean you should listen to her story about how she wasn't sick, when she was, then how her brother says she was sick, and she says she wasnt.. That will play mind tricks with you and get you more focused on the story than with the outcome.
Women LOVE it when you can understand and respect them. Work on it.. If you are having difficulty believing her already (thinking she's playing hard to get, etc - when she was telling you the truth)- then how do you expect the relationship will turn out? I think a lot of problems, fights, etc...
My other tip - through the idealization that women play games out the window.. Most guys who "don't get women" will think about these game-playing behaviors and try to imitate them.. That's NOT what you want to do.. You want to understand what they are looking for, then don't let them get it as easily as handing it over on a silver platter. You want them to WORK for what they are getting. The minute you understand that, you will understand a good foundation for what attraction is.
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Thanks. So pretty much I should kind of play hard to get, kind of flirt with her / be nice.
With moderation, yes.
Movies are boring - try the local skating rink or have a group of friends and play tackle football.. But don't kill the poor girl.
As for asking her out - SLOW DOWN HORSEY.. You haven't nearly the influential state for her to consider dating you; give it a lot longer than what you have given it already.. I mean like wait at least a week - unless you are gonna go balsy and see if she'll date you currently.. I think you'll have a higher failure rate if you ask her sooner rather than later.