All my friends are getting married. Is it normal that I still do not dream of getting married?

[blunty]

I'm 35, and most of my friends in their 30s are getting married, but still I don't want it. Is it normal not to dream of getting married? Or the problem is that I've never had a long-term relationship where I could plan such things...

[Sirenboobzilla]

Marriage isn't for everyone. Not everyone feels the need to have a piece of paper and a ceremony to show your commitment to one another. It very well could be that you haven't found the right person just yet, and you really won't know till you do. I myself didn't really find the value in marriage. However, my opinion on it had changed slightly. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. He's known my feelings on it from the beginning. Yet I find myself feeling like I would probably be all for it were he to ask.

[Abbielh93]

If that is truly what you believe/want then there shouldn’t be any problem with it. We are conditioned to believe that the “norm” is to find a partner, get married and have children. And we are convinced that anything different from that isn’t normal.
Maybe it could be the latter, but have you ever wanted to be in a long term relationship or do you feel “forced” to do it?
It’s not the same thing, but I’ve decided that I don’t want children. People should respect my opinion and concentrate on their own lives.

[sean1234]

Thats only because you haven't found someone. I feel as if I dont care, but I never find anyone, as if all women are dead and you ladies here on the internet are actually Ai... no offense. I would care if there was someone, but at 41 with always being single, how long am I supposed to wait?🤷🏻‍♂️

[HighValue]

The majority of women now will never get to have a happy long term relationship. They have made too many bad decisions and wasted their opportunities, so I guess it is "normal " now for more women to not dream of something they can never have.

[jewel]

Absolutely, it's normal! Everyone's got their own timeline, their own dreams, and their own idea of what happiness looks like. While it might seem like all your friends are racing towards the altar, it doesn't mean you have to lace up your running shoes and join them unless you truly want to.

Marriage is a big commitment, and it's something that should be entered into because it's right for you, not because it seems like the next box to tick off on society's checklist of life achievements. Some people dream of the big wedding day, the lifelong partnership, and everything that comes with it. Others might find fulfillment in solo adventures, career achievements, close friendships, or a myriad of other life experiences that don't necessarily include marriage.

It's also worth considering that what we want changes over time. Just because you're not dreaming of marriage right now doesn't mean you won't ever want it, and vice versa. Life has a funny way of surprising us with what we end up desiring as we grow and our circumstances change.

If you feel content and fulfilled with where you are right now, that's what matters. You're not on anyone else's schedule but your own. Keep focusing on what brings you joy and fulfillment, and let the marriage cards fall where they may—or may not.

[Apple1996]

I never dreamed of being married either but then I ended up married and it's the best decision I've ever made. Not sure how people never commit to someone that they truly love. Just being boyfriend and girlfriend forever is kind of odd and childish. It doesn't even have to be legal marriage. It's possible to do a spiritual marriage to prove love and devotion to each other.

[4ngelic]

it's fine, some people are like that. a lot of women nowadays never get married or have kids

though you probably should think really hard about it if you truly aren't interested in that at all just to be sure (same with the whole kids thing), because it's going to get harder and harder the longer you wait for both. and beyond a certain point it's unlikely to happen. so if you have regrets too late can be a problem. though if your sure of yourself, all power to you

[RavVid]

It is entirely up to you if you want to find a life partner. It is largely a romantic gesture in my view and an incredibly bad financial decision by a man.

[Unit1]

yeah, its slowly getting common not to want to marry. However it remains uncommon for women to not want to marry at all. Except in China. 40-50% of the girls in China reported not wanting to marry.

[Vesuvius87]

Mainly to have kids. It's weird having to explain to your child that you're just boyfriend and girlfriend. Besides that point, a woman is more likely to be a single mother if unmarried than married. What if she then wants to find a decent man that will accept her and another man's child, good luck with that because she got screwed by then. It's not a benefit for her.

[Vesuvius87]

What's good for one gender, it's great for the other. In an ideal world, it should be everything benefiting both genders equally and everyone would be happy.

[Unit1]

@Vesuvius87 its not that Complicated. "Mommy, why are you not married with dad?". Keep it simple. Say there is no point nor benefit to do so. A piece of paper from the government doesn't mean or assure anything.

[I_Am_Loner0405]

Just because your friends are doesn’t mean you have to… One of my friends had a kid, that doesn’t mean I have to find someone and have a kid too.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'd say it's normal. It's either you want to be married or you don't. You can get married at any age really, so I wouldn't worry about it.

[art84]

My brother has been wanting me to get married so that he can have nephews or nieces. Honestly I am happy being single and marriage isn't for everyone especially with people not getting married in today's world.

[Nikki1989]

Some people are just NOT marriage material. That is not always a bad thing, unless you whine about it.

[midnightmoon05]

What is normal?
I like being married… 2times 👍

[Paul09]

I'll never understand why people need to get married. Always following the herd. Marriage doesn't change anything, but make an expensive divorce when it doesn't work out..

[sean1234]

Thats why God is the puzzle piece missing in marriage today. People think they can do it without Jesus.

[Paul09]

@sean1234 I never understood how late so easily brainwashed into believing invisible gods. MAN created religions and gods period.

[sean1234]

Most made up by a man or took a previous one, like christianity, then changed it, but God still does exist.

I still find ot funny how people can be athiest, but believe in much science that absolutely no proof what so ever.

[sean1234]

Science that has*...

[Paul09]

@sean1234 Wtf? Everything around is created by science.. Which school did you go to? A religious school I bet. Is the earth flat too? Science = test, trial and error. Religion = made up sh#t to control population with fear. If your gods do exist, what their purpose? To watch the world burn?

[sean1234]

Not all science is fiction, but things outside of this earth is a big guess, evolution is a big guess and how this world was made, how old it is, why there are layers or sediment like you can see in the grand canyon... all a big guess and religious doctrine.

[Paul09]

@sean1234 And you think a mystical being is millions of years old exists? And who or what create god? He appeared out of no where?

[sean1234]

The Father, Son and Holy Spirit has always existed. You are simply looking at it from your extremely narrow point of view.

Even so, even if you didn't believe in God or creation and that God has always been here, then you might believe in evolution that the molecules that make up the animals, or lifeforms that predate the previous ones and so on back through time, that they have had to themselves always existed not for billions or trillions of years, but forever.

[sheikalana]

It's fine. Not all women dream of getting married. You're fine.

[JayBones2469]

Uts not normal. You've been mislead. It's already to late for you. Your options are suicide, depression, marrying a divorced failure.

[Anonymous]

if you don't want to get married, what is the problem? no issue here.

[dolemite58]

Everyone just get divorced anyways, nothing wrong with just having a boyfriend and not getting married.

[Anonymous]

What DO you want? It's less important to worry about what you DON'T want than it is to focus on what you DO want.

[In_Trance]

It's perfectly fine. Marriage is an outdated concept that holds no place in the modern world

[007kingifrit]

no at 35 not normal at all, it is very hard to take care of yourself as you get older

[Trekfan68]

Everyone has different thoughts and feelings towards marriage.

[laly520]

it's ok
u just not into it

[exitseven]

Marriage is not for everyone.

[DextroShade]

Buy a dog and die alone.

[MrDaveAPSI]

I'm 35, and don't want marriage either

[Kingofkings1992]

It’s perfectly fine

[electromagnetic]

Absolutely normal.

[LavLavLuv]

Normal