Should it bother me that my MIL didn't give us anything for our wedding?

[Anonymous]

First off, I didn't expect gifts or cards from everyone. Others didn't give us anything, and that's fine. My MIL didn't help with the cost of the wedding. She's definitely not hard up for money or anything like that. I just felt like it was a little odd for us to not get anything from her, even if it was something inexpensive, sentimental, or even something just for her son. Is it common to not get gifts from parents?

[Oliverlogan263]

Y'know, honestly I don't think I'd read too much into it from your MIL not giving you guys a gift. Weddings can really bring out drama with the in-laws sometimes no matter what! A few thoughts:

- She may just have different ideas about traditions and gestures than you're used to. Older generations don't always do gifts the same way.

- As long as she was there to share in your special day, that's really the important thing in the end right? You got married to each other!

- Without knowing her side or full history with your husband, there could be backstory you're not privy to. But as long as she's generally supportive that matters more.

- If your relationship is usually good otherwise I'd let it roll off your shoulders. One gift or lack thereof doesn't define the whole family dynamic!

Enjoy being newlyweds! I'm sure you got so much more from the wedding than any material item ever could. If it's really eating at you, you could casually bring it up to your husband how you felt. But personally I wouldn't sweat the small stuff from his mom. Not worth stressing an otherwise good MIL/DIL bond. Just my two cents sista!

[Anonymous]

Could t say for sure. Maybe it’s their culture or something. Everyone is different. How is your relationship w her overall? She nice? Dismisses you? I think that would tell you a lot as well. Maybe ask your husband. Maybe he told her she didn’t need to get them a gift.

[Opinion Owner]

Plus in a lot of cultures the female’s family is responsible for footing the bill, not the man’s.

[Dinklex3]

It either bothers you or it doesn’t, you feel how you feel.

In my family we pay for our own weddings and don’t expect help from family. My parents and I didn’t get anything for either of my sisters weddings’ either.

[Anonymous]

eh i don't think that's weird. you don't expect any gifts, yet you're wondering where your MIL's gift is...

also maybe she doesn't like you

[molonski2]

Hmmmm , I dont know. Is it possible she has something larger in mind? If she was hard up I could understand but she is not hard up , I think its strange if there is no other plan.

[Staximus]

It's not common even if they are poor. In most cultures the bride and groom is always given something. A gift, help with the wedding cost or honeymoon, etc.

[DrPepper12]

That's fucked up. Have hubby get some answers

[Anonymous]

I can send you a toaster to make you feel better

[KrakenAttackin]

This does seem odd. How is your relationship with he

[strateguy632]

yes, she should've gave

[jahaims]

She either doesn't like her son or you.