Married men, did you have to throw your whole life away to get/stay married?

[Anonymous]

I’ve met several men who’ve said they had to change in order to get/stay married.

For instance, one man hates dogs but his wife wanted one so he got one for her and she lets it sleep in the bed with them. He hates it, but for the sake of being married, he claims to be happy.

Another one met his wife on a dating app. She told him that he must sacrifice because she wants to homeschool the kids. They have 3 little ones and they’re only living off of his income. He’s miserable because he has to work all these hours to make ends meet. No time to pursue his passions, hangout with his friends, or go visit extended family.

One of my family members had a vision for wife and home, but his wife lets her family stay for indefinite amounts of time and he gets no privacy.

[Fireguy17]

nope, I told her flat out that this is who I am, this is what I do, and do not expect me to become someone else.
If that is what you expect you need to move on because it will not work out.
I'm fine being single, I am very independent, and I need to be with someone who is also independent, otherwise we are wasting each other's time, and life is too short for that.

[Billlewis]

Not yet, but if I have to do that for the right woman, I'll be grateful for the opportunity.