Singles, does it suck when everybody around you gets engaged, married, or expects a child and not you?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Howdy13]

It does, but I’ve already accepted my fate that I’ll never get to experience those things. So now I do other things that make me happy.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. I am happy if my friends are happy.

[LostandFound__x]

Yeah but I mainly choose to focus on myself instead of comparing myself to others

[Simslover92]

It does.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes. But I'm also quick to realize that everything may not be as it seems looking from the outside.

I have had platonic friends who are forbidden from their hobbies (when their hobbies aren't immoral or anything) to marry someone. They were to quit - never to talk to his friends, etc (Again, nothing bad, just nerdy). A woman tells me to completely give up my hobbies (not cut down or limit spending or anything that might be reasonable, but quit completely), that's the end of the relationship.

I have had women "friends" who were being beaten, or they were beating the guy to a pulp, or they knew the guy was cheating, or thought they might be pregnant, so quick engagement looks like love and happy news and they can "hide" that stuff while looking like (or being able to say) they have some worth or value with the opposite sex. They also get some positive attention.

I have had guy friends who have pined for recent ex girlfriends, then suddenly be "in love" with someone who looks like her (the next day) at a party, and then get married to yet a third woman (who looked like both) within two days of THAT - then drop all his friends. (Eh, he was a crappy, selfish kind of "friend," so it wasn't a big loss.) Maybe it's real love... but it doesn't seem healthy.

I knew a woman who had admitted that she had been engaged two or three times (always within a month of the beginning of a relationship). If true, I wouldn't think of those as "REAL engagements." If it was the guy proposing, I think it was "get her a ring and now we can bump uglies without her nagging for a little while." or "I have some deep issues that she's going to find out about soon, so I'd better get married to her and then she's stuck with me." or SHE was doing the same. Maybe there WAS genuine love... but based on what she revealed... I am pretty skeptical. And it seemed very normal to her to be engaged within 3 weeks of meeting someone.

So sometimes, if there's something I know about either person, or the situation, it can sometimes help me not be so down. There are all kinds of horribly unhealthy things in some relationships, and sometimes you can tell that it's going to implode. And be thankful that it DIDN'T happen to you.

I'm older. Haven't dated in years. Sometimes I'm even a little down about the fact that I was never really popular, even in high school. I can wish that I was more popular back then. But sometimes I have to be a LITTLE bit thankful that I didn't get that wish. Some of the girls I had crushes on who were somewhat successfully playing a "good girl" role, were hiding a bad drug / drinking habit. Hiding that they had a temper and were smacking their boyfriends around... some honor role kids were sneaking out and stealing relative's cars... something ugly that they could hide for a little bit... until all of a sudden, they couldn't. Now, I'm fairly confident that HAD I been able to date them, I would have quickly run once I found these issues... but maybe not. So I dodged some bullets. So sometimes while I can down about something, or wish that I had more success, sometimes I have to be glad that things didn't work out that way.

[Anonymous]

When I was single, it never bothered me when other people got engaged, married or had kids. I mostly just wanted to have hot, hot sex with a stone-cold fox. Even better if she was cool to hang out with and do "girlfriend" things with. Everything else could wait until after we'd established those things.

[MoonFace2]

No, because I don’t yet feel ready for marriage and I don’t want kids.

[Unit1]

No.'

[Anonymous]

Yeah this is definitely the story of my life.